Dom

Apart from playing quieter (which sucks) you could try silencer/dampening pads, although make sure you get good quality ones, the ones I used to have were very poor and took almost all the rebound away so it became almost impossible for me to play. Another thing you could try are silencer sticks, like these but I'm not sure how good these are. Apart from that the only other solution I can think of is switching to an electronic kit.

One thing I'd say is try before you buy if at all possible. It sucks to spend loads of money on something which turns out to be crap when you get them.

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