So Ki, I never have been fully able to understand what it's like to go through molestation in any form. Mostly cause I've never experienced it. So thank you for that cause it will help me better understand people who go through it. And help my friends who have gone through it as well and relate to them on a more personal level. You have just made me a better person. I in no way can thank you enough.

No problem. The Bat can be surprisingly genuine. I've experienced it for myself and it's rather strange.

I don't know about all cases, but for mine specifically it's been tough to really feel sexually attracted to anyone because of it. I know that for a fact because whenever I used to get close to my ex in the prime of our relationship, I'd have flashbacks of it, even though I got help. She knew that and understood it, but unfortunately I believe it's also part of why I grew distant from her. It's always good to have a bit of understanding of what they went through, but I wouldn't wish such a thing on anybody.

That's harsh man, I feel for you. I've had two friends that were raped and it really is awful to know someone who went through something like that. If you ever need to talk to me about it I'm here.

It's all good my man. It's one of those things where you learn to cope with it as opposed to pushing it away altogether. Would I have wanted it differently? Of course. No kid should ever go through that. But I've allowed it to help me define more of myself instead of beat me up. It's a part of who I am and I just have to accept it.

Whoa, okay... Had apparently skipped over that last paragraph while being distracted at work the other day... Jesus, dude... I'm an ass...

Honestly, take my advice with a grain of salt because I've never been through sexual abuse before, but in my own life, I have found that counseling others has helped me cope and make sense of my own personal plate of traumatic experiences.

Believe it or not, you don't have to have your own **** figured out in order to help other people through their ****; it's easier from the outside looking in because there is a level of emotional dissonance that enables you to reason more efficiently. In fact, helping others is a great technique for teaching yourself the skills of how to help yourself. It not only empowers your confidence through purpose, but also (in my experience) is much more effective than therapy because in a therapeutic setting, you are STILL playing the role of victim, which can be counterintuitive to pulling yourself out of the vicious cycle of victimhood.

It's worth a shot :)

It's all good, Chelsea. I know your advice isn't meant to be spiteful or mean spirited so I didn't take it that way. I appreciate what you said as well.

I feel is though it had the opposite effect on me. Then again, I react to these things much differently from most people.

What did?

Molestation.

Oh. Well yeah, I don't really expect it to have the same effect on everyone. I have a different way of coping with it.