Originally Posted by Freebase Dali (Post 1023353)

I don't know if you'll find many kids who agree that it's good not to fit in (And the ones who subscribe to the anti-crowd, are still "fitting in"). I think it's mostly a natural inclination to want to identify with a group of other people and be social with them. As far as I'm aware, kids who feel left out and misunderstood are usually not the happiest of the bunch. While most of us can agree that as we get older, we don't really think the same as we did when we were in school, and know that, superficially, it isn't as important, but to a kid in school, it's often a different story. And I think it can dictate the way people view certain things later on.
Socializing is a huge part of who we are as humans. I think it's wise to assume that there are many things that tie into that aspect of ourselves, whether we realize it or not.

Originally Posted by The Virgin (Post 1023689)

i don't have testoseterones. mine are called ovaries. but seriously, i've never been in a fight, and i don't wish to be involved in one. probably because i carefully handpic my friends. i don't make friends with bully tendencies.

Originally Posted by Vanilla (Post 1023690)

You are so profound. Your posts are always worth reading because of this.

As much as we want to deny we want to get along with others and share our interests with, it's what makes us happy, studies have proven that as a fact. Being purposely alone and anti-social does nothing for your self esteem.

Originally Posted by djchameleon (Post 1023691)

carefully hand picking friends has nothing to do with anything. I'm not even sure why you mentioned that.

Originally Posted by The Virgin (Post 1023694)

what i meant is that if i surround myself with people (friends) that are respected and has a good reputation in school, chances are i'll never get into trouble as far as being picked on by anyone simply because they know i'm part of a group that's not gonna tolerate bullying. though i've never seen one instance of bullying in my school, i bet it's the reason why nobody came up to me and disrespected me like the one on the video.

Originally Posted by djchameleon (Post 1023691)

you just have been fortunate in your life so far to not have to come into contact with the certain type of person that will want to fight you regardless of if you did something to them or not.

carefully hand picking friends has nothing to do with anything. I'm not even sure why you mentioned that.



yeah but if you are the type of person that doesn't mind being alone or anti social then it won't affect your self esteem at all.

I used to go around screaming that I don't need friends **** everyone alive. I was born by myself and I will die by myself. I don't need social interaction. I later found out I was wrong about that but that doesn't mean there are people that exist that are able to be happy well adjusted individuals and are able to be alone and live in isolation.

Originally Posted by djchameleon (Post 1023697)

You do know just because you have not seen one instance of bullying that doesn't mean it doesn't occur right?

Originally Posted by The Virgin (Post 1023689)

i don't have testoseterones. mine are called ovaries. but seriously, i've never been in a fight, and i don't wish to be involved in one. probably because i carefully handpic my friends. i don't make friends with bully tendencies.

Originally Posted by Vanilla (Post 1023698)

I know what you're saying, but I am meaning full abstinence from human contact socially. I love my alone time too, more often that not really, but without having people to interact with and share interests with (like even how we do over the internet) I would feel very alone and unsure of myself.

Originally Posted by Vanilla (Post 1023699)

If the tree falls in the forest, does it make a sound if nobody is there to hear it?

Originally Posted by djchameleon (Post 1023701)

Well, there are monks that take vows of silence and I bet they aren't lonely or have low self esteems.





lol basically that's what I was saying.

Yes, of course it does make a sound. That was always one philosical question that I thought was just plain silly. I don't get how people could think otherwise.

Originally Posted by djchameleon (Post 1023697)

You do know just because you have not seen one instance of bullying that doesn't mean it doesn't occur right?