djchameleon

I was reading an article about different general statements and overall life advice. I figured it would be nice to have a positive thread where we share some that aren't on this list. I'll start by adding the 10 from the article and if I think of any along the way will add my own at the end.

1. 'There's more than one way to do something'
I remember scrubbing a pan when I was maybe 8 or 9 years old. There was something stuck on the pan that wouldn't come off, and I just kept scrubbing it. My dad stopped me, grabbed a fork and just scraped it off. And he looked at me and said, "Jody, there's more than one way to do something." From that moment on, I've been looking at every problem in my life like how can I do this a different way?

2. 'The hate will come at the same rate as the love'
The best advice I ever received was that the hate will come at the same rate as the love. There will always be people who are so dissatisfied with themselves that they have to project that onto other people. And instead of trying to focus on the negativity, I tend to try to put more energy into the people and the things that are showing me love, support and good energy.

3. 'Do smaller loads of laundry'
I used to work at a small grocery store, and before moving away to college, I asked the store manager, "What's the No. 1 thing that I need to know about going away to college?" And he said, "Do smaller loads of laundry. Your clothes will come out cleaner."

4. 'Being vulnerable means taking off our armor'
I was talking with my therapist about how I didn't mind being vulnerable as long as I knew the other person would be warm, that they wouldn't judge and all of that. And she said, "that's not vulnerable. Being vulnerable means taking off our armor and going in not knowing how we'll be received, but putting ourselves out there a little bit anyway."

5. 'Go where the energy goes'
The best piece of advice I ever received was "Go where the energy goes." What has good vibes? What makes you feel good about yourself? Where is that good energy? Head in that direction.

6. 'It's not all about you'
The best piece of advice I was given was, "Shanita, it's not all about you." When I'm in a situation where a tough decision has to be made and it feels personal, I remind myself it's not all about me, and that I'm one piece of a bigger universe that's at play right now.

7. Expect yourself to change
We all change every five years or so. More or less, we have to expect ourselves to change, and we have to expect people in our lives to change. That little piece of advice has given me a lot of space for room and for growth

8. 'When people show you who they are, believe them'
When people show you who they are, believe them. Far too often, I have seen us try to recreate who we want people to be, only to later find out they are exactly what they've been demonstrating.

9. Pace out your self-improvement
Don't be so overly involved with your self-improvement. Accept the gifts and abilities that you have, and don't spend so much time trying to develop new ones that you sacrifice your gifts. Be yourself.

10. It's OK to say 'I don't know'
Something I've benefited a lot from is telling yourself, "I don't know. And that's exactly where I should be when I take that first step." I'm as ready as I ever will be. I'm going to do it, and I'll know more after.

I need to try out the laundry thing. I have to go to a laundryomat so it's usually not a good idea to do smaller loads because it will end up costing more over the long run but idk might try it.

Number 6 is something I find myself saying quite often to try to help with my anxiety.

Source : https://www.npr.org/2023/02/19/11572...e=facebook.com

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Midnightinoctober

My life advice, for any friend who’s feeling depressed, is to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day + eat at specific times and a normal diet + exercise every day (!) + stay away from alcohol (no exceptions) + find time to help other people

The Batlord

Jody?

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Dr_Rez

Solid advice. Exercise and diet is so important. if you cant even fuel your body well your mind isnt going to have much to work with.

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djchameleon

This is good advice but I also believe that if you are feeling depressed seek therapy. A psychiatrist may be able to help where none of these other things won't.

If your chemicals in your brain are off balance they won't be fixed so easily by these every day things.

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Fame, fortune, power, titties. People say these are the most crucial things in life, but you can have a pocket full o' gold and it doesn't mean sh*t if you don't have someone to share that gold with. Seems simple. Yet it's an important lesson to learn. Even lone wolves run in packs sometimes.

Danzaburou

"what you don't have in your head you need in your feet"

edit: this might be unclear due to translation
It means the more you forget, the more you have to walk

The Batlord

I have one piece of advice I'm comfortable giving: learn that two seemingly contradictory things can be true at the same time. It's very simple but keeping that in mind can open up a world of nuance in a world constantly trying to pull you into one binary or the other.

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Exo

People just LOVE to argue with us, don't they?

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Dr_Rez

No they dont.

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What?

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