The Relationship Thread

~~jwb~~ · 03-05-2021, 11:26 AM

Phone call like it's 1995? Lol. You're trying to date someone long distance. You need to talk to them on the phone or on video chat to see what kinda chemistry you have. You can't really get to know someone that way through text alone.

I'm someone who rarely makes phone calls and usually would avoid them but if you find someone you're really into then you should easily be able to stay on the phone with them for an hour. If you're sitting there wishing they'd hang up it's not the phone that is the problem, lol.

WWWP · 03-05-2021, 11:26 AM

Talking on the phone is an important test for how well someone can carry on a conversation. I hate being stuck pulling all the weight, and a good sense of humor is deceptive over text - I need to hear a person in real time so I can judge their vibe and their personality without the benefit of editing themselves.

JWB beat me to it - it's feeling out the chemistry, exactly.

**Marie Monday** · 03-05-2021, 11:33 AM

Yeah that's very true. I get that communication over the phone can feel complicated at first though, so like Soundgarden said maybe a video chat is nicer; seeing each other's face and facial expressions is important too

Congrats btw, I'm glad it seems to be going well

The Batlord · 03-05-2021, 11:36 AM

You don't need to talk if she's wearing a ball gag. Send her your dick.

Anteater · 03-05-2021, 12:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Batlord

You don't need to talk if she's wearing a ball gag. Send her your dick.

The most romantic advice I've ever seen.

SGR · 03-05-2021, 12:37 PM

Yeah, you can tell a lot from facial expressions in a video chat that you wouldn't get over the phone. For example, you can tell if they're actively interested in the conversation (rather than browsing MusicBanter while they talk), you can tell if they're lying about something (eye contact, blinking, etc.), you can tell what their mood is, and of course, you can be much more persuasive with a video chat as opposed to a phone call.

WWWP · 03-05-2021, 12:44 PM

Do both

~~jwb~~ · 03-05-2021, 12:54 PM

Yeah once you know someone well enough you should be able to tell if they're lying or if they're engaged in the conversation without having to see their facial expressions.

SGR · 03-05-2021, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by jwb

Yeah once you know someone well enough you should be able to tell if they're lying or if they're engaged in the conversation without having to see their facial expressions.

Agreed. But I don't think he's at that point with her yet.

WWWP · 03-05-2021, 01:09 PM

My girl and I also send a lot of voice messages. Sometimes short ones just to say hi or to share about our day, sometimes longer ones pontificating on some topic or another that we'll take notes on and then respond to lol, some real nerd ****. It's just more personal, and often more convenient than facetime or whatever. We're two hours apart now so still get to see each other on weekends, but in April she's moving to NC for a year so I'll soon be an expert in long distance relationships and will pass on any tips I come across lol.

03-05-2021, 11:26 AM	#541 (permalink)
~~jwb~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Jul 2019 Posts: 4,403	Phone call like it's 1995? Lol. You're trying to date someone long distance. You need to talk to them on the phone or on video chat to see what kinda chemistry you have. You can't really get to know someone that way through text alone. I'm someone who rarely makes phone calls and usually would avoid them but if you find someone you're really into then you should easily be able to stay on the phone with them for an hour. If you're sitting there wishing they'd hang up it's not the phone that is the problem, lol.

03-05-2021, 12:37 PM	#546 (permalink)
SGR No Ice In My Bourbon Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: /dev/null Posts: 4,327	Yeah, you can tell a lot from facial expressions in a video chat that you wouldn't get over the phone. For example, you can tell if they're actively interested in the conversation (rather than browsing MusicBanter while they talk), you can tell if they're lying about something (eye contact, blinking, etc.), you can tell what their mood is, and of course, you can be much more persuasive with a video chat as opposed to a phone call.

03-05-2021, 12:54 PM	#548 (permalink)
~~jwb~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Jul 2019 Posts: 4,403	Yeah once you know someone well enough you should be able to tell if they're lying or if they're engaged in the conversation without having to see their facial expressions.