The Relationship Thread

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by Lucem Ferre

Key word is HELP.

But if you're getting into a romantic relationship treating it like a therapeutic relationship you're not only dooming the romantic relationship but you're probably doing more harm than help to both parties.

Fair enough.

[OccultHawk]

true. claiming to do the healing is toxic and narcissistic though

OK but if you’ve been a rock for a 20 year marriage then you probably do deserve a pat on the back. Both members.

Like I’m saying if you just say “nope damaged goods” you might be missing out on something beautiful and yes goddamnit healing

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

yiiikes my scary ex-stepdad used to play this game with me when I was young where he pretended I was a kitten in need of rescue when I climbed into the tree in the garden

Ewwww what?! Yikes is right.

I was just quoting Ani Difranco lyrics, the first verse is - I am not a pretty girl / That is not what I do / I ain't no damsel in distress / And I don't need to be rescued / So put me down, punk / Wouldn't you prefer a maiden fair? / Isn't there a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere?

But now I'm imagining baby Marie reciting the last verse from her tree perch at her creepy step-creep - What if there are no damsels in distress? / What if I knew that, and I called your bluff? / Don't you think every kitten figures out how to get down / Whether or not you ever show up?

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

yiiikes my scary ex-stepdad used to play this game with me when I was young where he pretended I was a kitten in need of rescue when I climbed into the tree in the garden

I'd just be like, "I'm not fucking you, Mark, and I know it was you who stole my underwear."

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

I'd just be like, "I'm not fucking you, Mark, and I know it was you who stole my underwear."

If only we could go back and relive our childhoods with our adult minds.

[ribbons]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

yiiikes my scary ex-stepdad used to play this game with me when I was young where he pretended I was a kitten in need of rescue when I climbed into the tree in the garden

As Steph said, EWWWWWWW!!! All I can say is, I'm glad he's your EX-stepdad now. So sorry you had to deal with the fears and mind games.

[The Batlord]

I'd be six years old rubbing my soft peepee watching bondage sybian porn listening to Magrudergrind and an adult walks in and ****s themselves.

[Marie Monday]

*grooves to acoustic semi-riot grrrl Ani DiFranco song*

well to be fair to my ex-stepdad he wasn't sexually inappropriate towards me, this was just one of the many examples of his Valiant Knight complex tendencies. He is a very scary and destructive person though

[The Batlord]

I'd still say it.

[jwb]

Originally Posted by WWWP

PSA: Unless I say specifically that I am needing advice (which I won't ever do, I don't trust any of you) don't assume that when I pose questions or share things from my experience that I am having trouble with something, or that I'm asking for your input on my relationships, or that I have some issue that you're going to be the one to solve lol. I was just asking for different perspectives I DON'T NEED YOUR ADVICE yall constantly read me wrong anyway.

lol this is kinda a bizarre thing to say tbh

You pose questions but don't want people to answer them?

How about don't pose them then