The Relationship Thread

[OccultHawk]

If one has actually BEEN in an abusive relationship, you'd know that the abusive person often seems totally charming and normal at first! They have to reel people in somehow, duh. They don't become unhinged right off the bat usually. And when you're young you aren't as good as listening to your intuition, especially if you have low self esteem already, which makes it even easier to be reeled in by those types despite alarms going off deep in your reptile brain.

And abusers and victimizers often have an uncanny knack for spotting vulnerable people.

[goldendoodle]

Originally Posted by OccultHawk

And abusers and victimizers often have an uncanny knack for spotting vulnerable people.

Yes exactly, I talked about that in my post in here before my last one. About how they can sense them from miles away.

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

That's a good point, especially if people have psychopathic tendencies they'll often be incredibly charming at first. Sometimes to such an extent that there aren't even any red flags to make alarms go off.

In one book I read about Ted Bundy it said he could sometimes temporarily win over trained professionals who already knew what he had done.

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by elphenor

I don't know if this is ****ty to say but if a woman says she's had abusive partners...Damaged Goods

Legit the worst thing you've ever said. Like, jesus christ.
WHY ARE MEN?!?!?!?

[Marie Monday]

Originally Posted by OccultHawk

In one book I read about Ted Bundy it said he could sometimes temporarily win over trained professionals who already knew what he had done.

That doesn't surprise me. Or it can be a case of almost split personalities, my ex-stepfather was like that. The guy switched between charm incarnate (which I'm pretty sure was genuine most of the time) and scary devil in an uncanny way. And there's no way anyone who knows him superficially can tell

Originally Posted by WWWP

Legit the worst thing you've ever said. Like, jesus christ.
WHY ARE MEN?!?!?!?

like he said, it's just personal bitterness, but he has no business trying to spread it. Ffs listen to Hawk and don't give up on love and women, Elph.

[WWWP]

PSA: Unless I say specifically that I am needing advice (which I won't ever do, I don't trust any of you) don't assume that when I pose questions or share things from my experience that I am having trouble with something, or that I'm asking for your input on my relationships, or that I have some issue that you're going to be the one to solve lol. I was just asking for different perspectives I DON'T NEED YOUR ADVICE yall constantly read me wrong anyway.

[goldendoodle]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

That doesn't surprise me. Or it can be a case of almost split personalities, my ex-stepfather was like that. The guy switched between charm incarnate (which I'm pretty sure was genuine most of the time) and scary devil in an uncanny way. And there's no way anyone who knows him superficially can tell

God, yes so many are like that. Literally my dad (a human disaster)

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by WWWP

Legit the worst thing you've ever said. Like, jesus christ.
WHY ARE MEN?!?!?!?

There’s women ****tier than elph.

I’d rather elph see it’s not true than railroad him.

Unfortunately a lot of people have that misconception.

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by OccultHawk

There’s women ****tier than elph.

ok?

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

Ffs listen to Hawk and don't give up on love and women, Elph.

Or do, for their sake