Let's Define Personal Stuff

Mindy · 07-11-2018, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Mondo Bungle

qft

Quantum field theory?

The Batlord · 07-11-2018, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Mindfulness

Quantum field theory?

Quoted for truth.

**Frownland** · 07-11-2018, 05:35 PM

Quality fun time

Neapolitan · 07-11-2018, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Ol’ Qwerty Bastard

for some reason i feel like you’re from Pennsylvania, that is 100% of the info i possibly know.

Thanks a lot Ol' Qwertster, now I'm one step closer to being abducted by aliens.

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Originally Posted by Mondo Bungle

qft

Quoted for truth

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Originally Posted by Lisnaholic

Most of us enjoy learning some details about each other's real life, but I think it's important to be discreet. For example, a line or two, dropped off-topic into a thread, will probably be picked up by those who are interested, but forgotten before long by MB in general. I certainly wouldn't recommend pics of family members or threads dedicated to same.

^ That's a nice metaphor, Chula! I consider MB a friendly place, but in terms of personal info, I treat it like a biker bar in Tijuana: once out of my wallet that family photo can be passed around, out of my control, so I wouldn't put myself in that position of vulnerability.

Anyway, I hope you pick up on some of the well-intentioned advice in this thread, Chula, and if you have any doubts when posting something, you might like to consider this:-

Think of the scariest, weirdest member of MB who has ever been banned: that person, and a million like them could be just one click away from lurking over your next post, so think before you Submit Reply.

^ Someone who has earned long-term respect for their musical knowledge and their dignified restraint. FTFY, Neapolitan.

Thanks, Lins.

Trollheart · 07-11-2018, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Exo

Join the club.

I also think most of the issues that arise with you can be attributed to "I'm a sort of old man who does't understand how the internet works". It's still the wild west in most regards. Fill us in but the pictures man, the pictures is just asking for it time and time again. The pictures don't need to exist. You can just fill us in. Pictures just seam like an attention grab which is why a lot of people go after you for it. This isn't facebook.

That's mostly in regards t your family. You can posts pictures of yourself so we can make fun of your shoes and move on. The sharks will go after your family though. It will never end.

This is why I waited for a long, long time before posting a pic of Karen, and only after I had received a lot of sympathetic well-wishes for her, AND only because she said it was all right. As a result, there were a few (almost I think 100%) nice comments, and the pic was forgotten about (till BatHeart '18 of course). Now, had I been constantly posting pics of Karen in her youth, with her boyfriends, in a bikini (NO don't ask!) and then in bed as she is now, I'm sure someone would have made a hurtful remark. You obviously have to be really careful, esp when you're posting pictures of other people, esp esp your family. Seems just to make sense.

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Originally Posted by Mindfulness

how i feel in the morning when i go to musicbanter

You cut your head off?

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Originally Posted by Kiiii

The forum that never sleeps. Also I have no idea what's going on.

That's cos you do sleep

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Originally Posted by Lisnaholic

^ That's a nice metaphor, Chula! I consider MB a friendly place, but in terms of personal info, I treat it like a biker bar in Tijuana: once out of my wallet that family photo can be passed around, out of my control, so I wouldn't put myself in that position of vulnerability.

Not only that, but to use Chula's analogy: do you walk into a bar and ask the barman to pin up your photos behind the bar so anyone can see them? The equivalent of just showing them to some mates would surely be by PM?

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Anyway, I hope you pick up on some of the well-intentioned advice in this thread, Chula, and if you have any doubts when posting something, you might like to consider this:-

Think of the scariest, weirdest member of MB who has ever been banned: that person, and a million like them could be just one click away from lurking over your next post, so think before you Submit Reply.

Hey! I resemble that remark!

I do have to agree though: this thread shouldn't exist. If you don't know what's all right to post in public (and remember, ANYONE who joins can see those posts; it's not like this is a private forum. Once you join, you're in and there are, let's be fair, no criteria for joining and no background checks - thank god!) at our age Chula, it's kind of on you.

Hopefully, as Lisna and Exo and others have said here, you'll take the lessons on board and adjust whatever you feel needs to be adjusted in terms of any personal stuff you post. Grandad-to-be.

OccultHawk · 07-11-2018, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

Rookie? You were like 50. If you need an internet forum to teach you about boundaries after half a century then that's less "stupid" and more "worrying". What if I did that to my mother? Would that be "stupid"?

Not at all

The Batlord · 07-11-2018, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Not at all

You just want to see my mother's many, many nudes.

OccultHawk · 07-11-2018, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

You just want to see my mother's many, many nudes.

Son, if you ask nice I’ll show them to YOU.

The Batlord · 07-11-2018, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Son, if you ask nice I’ll show them to YOU.

I already have the negatives. You keep the copies.

Mindy · 07-11-2018, 07:03 PM

@Trollheart, just excited

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