Cheating...

Thelonious Monkey · 09-15-2017, 02:11 AM

So like, I have regular sex with my close friend. This has been going on since we were like 3-5 years old. But she has a boyfriend now. She's had this boyfriend for about 8-10 months now, but we've been having sex on the regular in the last few months. So like, she's basically cheating on her boyfriend? She claims she loves him and that it's just sex for us. But it feels wrong considering I've met the guy like a million times. I mean, I wanna hear your opinions. What do you think of this scenario? Should I tell her that I love her? Or would that ruin our friendship and is not worth asking. Should I just keep ****ing her or should I start attempting to start a relationship somehow? I mean, I dunno at this point. I just want a wide range of advice to help me decide what I should do, because I'm lost at the moment. I've asked Mord and he said she was using me and DWV said...well I'm not entirely sure what he said.

Zhanteimi · 09-15-2017, 02:23 AM

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Kedvesem · 09-15-2017, 02:39 AM

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So like, I have regular sex with my close friend. This has been going on since we were like 3-5 years old. But she has a boyfriend now. She's had this boyfriend for about 8-10 months now, but we've been having sex on the regular in the last few months. So like, she's basically cheating on her boyfriend?

Not "basically". She is straight up cheating on him.

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She claims she loves him and that it's just sex for us.

Sex is never "just sex". See Mord's post above.

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But it feels wrong

It is.

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considering I've met the guy like a million times. I mean, I wanna hear your opinions. What do you think of this scenario? Should I tell her that I love her?

If you love her, tell her.

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Or would that ruin our friendship and is not worth asking.

The friendship is going to be ruined eventually, regardless. If you love her, the friendship must die. It must either die as a seed does, to blossom into something greater that still contains the essence of the friendship, or else it must die altogether, that you might have liberty of heart to love elsewhere.

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Should I just keep ****ing her or should I start attempting to start a relationship somehow?

If you love her, go after her. If she refuses that love, then do as a man must: cut her off. Continuing to do as you are doing will not only hurt you in the end, but it continues to weaken and worsen her character. So long as she is keeping you "on the side"--make no mistake, this is what she is doing--she cannot love the man she claims she does.

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I mean, I dunno at this point. I just want a wide range of advice to help me decide what I should do, because I'm lost at the moment. I've asked Mord and he said she was using me and DWV said...well I'm not entirely sure what he said.

Listen to Mord. Honestly. When you want to do something well, go to someone who has done that thing well and get advice.

~~Cuthbert~~ · 09-15-2017, 02:50 AM

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Should I just keep ****ing her or should I start attempting to start a relationship somehow?

Assuming this isn't a wind up, mate you are nuts if you do that.

Thelonious Monkey · 09-15-2017, 02:51 AM

****, you guy's are right.

Thelonious Monkey · 09-15-2017, 02:53 AM

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Assuming this isn't a wind up, mate you are nuts if you do that.

That is legit what I'm worried about. If i tell her then it could ruin our friendship altogether. What would you recommend in this situation?

~~Cuthbert~~ · 09-15-2017, 02:58 AM

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That is legit what I'm worried about. If i tell her then it could ruin our friendship altogether. What would you recommend in this situation?

Just stop talking to her and leave her to it.

Thelonious Monkey · 09-15-2017, 03:00 AM

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Just stop talking to her and leave her to it.

Easier said than done. The sex is great and even without that, she's one of my best friends. It's not even an option to just stop talking to her.

~~Cuthbert~~ · 09-15-2017, 03:04 AM

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Easier said than done. The sex is great and even without that, she's one of my best friends. It's not even an option to just stop talking to her.

Course it is mate, delete number, remove from social media and get on with your life.

If you are telling the truth then this is a messy situation.

Thelonious Monkey · 09-15-2017, 03:07 AM

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Course it is mate, delete number, remove from social media and get on with your life.

If you are telling the truth then this is a messy situation.

****.

09-15-2017, 02:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
Thelonious Monkey Caesar is home. Join Date: Sep 2014 Posts: 876	Cheating... So like, I have regular sex with my close friend. This has been going on since we were like 3-5 years old. But she has a boyfriend now. She's had this boyfriend for about 8-10 months now, but we've been having sex on the regular in the last few months. So like, she's basically cheating on her boyfriend? She claims she loves him and that it's just sex for us. But it feels wrong considering I've met the guy like a million times. I mean, I wanna hear your opinions. What do you think of this scenario? Should I tell her that I love her? Or would that ruin our friendship and is not worth asking. Should I just keep ****ing her or should I start attempting to start a relationship somehow? I mean, I dunno at this point. I just want a wide range of advice to help me decide what I should do, because I'm lost at the moment. I've asked Mord and he said she was using me and DWV said...well I'm not entirely sure what he said.

09-15-2017, 02:23 AM	#2 (permalink)
Zhanteimi Mord Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: Tokyo Posts: 4,873	. __________________ Zhanteimi LetsTalkMusic Last edited by Zhanteimi; 12-13-2017 at 06:10 AM.

09-15-2017, 02:51 AM	#5 (permalink)
Thelonious Monkey Caesar is home. Join Date: Sep 2014 Posts: 876	****, you guy's are right.