Fetishes, sexual repression, polyamory vs monogamy etc. discussion

Trollheart · 02-08-2017, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

It's like you didn't even read my explanation.. I just gave you a clear cut distinction of why kinks and fetishes are different. It's not semantics.

Fetish = sexual desire derived from an object
Kink = non-vanilla sexual practice or fantasy

Do people who enjoy bondage get aroused by ropes? Most likely not. Kinks don't even have to involve sex. People go to play parties all the time and do not participate in sex. You are just making uninformed opinions.

Fair enough. I wasn't aware of the distinction. Now I am.

DwnWthVwls · 02-08-2017, 02:42 PM

Now you know

Paddle on.

Trollheart · 02-08-2017, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

Now you know

Paddle on.

Meh, at least you resisted saying "Have a spanking good time"....

DwnWthVwls · 02-08-2017, 03:18 PM

So I know 3 members besides myself who have FetLife accounts, anyone else wanna out themselves? Not asking you to share your info, just curious who else goes there.

And no I'm not revealing who the other members are.

Chiomara · 02-08-2017, 03:23 PM

I used to, but I shut it down (as I noticed a lot of my coworkers at the time were on there..)
I think CollarMe is another similar site?

DwnWthVwls · 02-08-2017, 03:29 PM

Ive only heard bad things about it, but never checked myself.

I still use fet to chat with a few friends i had before i moved. It was crazy the amount of people i knew that i found on there though. I went to a TNG munch one time and discovered a guy iused to play magic the gathering with was one of the organizers haha.

Chiomara · 02-08-2017, 03:32 PM

My friend mentioned once that people are wildly paranoid there, and that it's more geared toward 24/7 dom/sub relationships (as opposed to being a place for kinky types in general)

What's fetlife like nowadays? Is it worthwhile? I barely spent any time there before.

DwnWthVwls · 02-08-2017, 03:40 PM

Idk, with school and work and being single I really don't use it anymore other than to remain in contact with a few of the nice people I met when I was more active. I was never into the whole play party/munch thing. I discovered that kink was more of a personal thing for me and not something I wanted to share with others.

MB/instagram provide me with more than enough social media.

Chiomara · 02-08-2017, 04:19 PM

That makes sense. I feel a play party would be incredibly awkward to attend. (But I think going to one of those fancy dungeon balls could be interesting) And is it just me or do a LOT of people on those sites tend to be polyamorous goth pagans? Nothing wrong with it, just odd is all. In terms of using it as a dating site, I think it would still be just as difficult to find someone compatible (sexually) as it would on a regular dating site. Only difference is you know all their kinks and/or fetishes beforehand.

DwnWthVwls · 02-08-2017, 04:27 PM

I think it's kind of a confusing and unclear distinction. There are certainly a lot of poly people, but there are also a lot of people in monogamous relationships who are allowed to "play" with others.. I don't understand it myself. Never met any goth pagans though. There is also a metric **** ton of drama because of it, which I made sure to steer clear of..

I only went to 2-3 munches and had my fill. For those that don't know, a munch is just a meet up for kinky people. My group did bubble tea in a liberal college town, so it was chill. 20+ people the times I attended, sitting around talking openly about kink stuff and never bothered.

02-08-2017, 03:23 PM	#35 (permalink)
Chiomara mayor of spookytown Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 812	I used to, but I shut it down (as I noticed a lot of my coworkers at the time were on there..) I think CollarMe is another similar site?

02-08-2017, 03:32 PM	#37 (permalink)
Chiomara mayor of spookytown Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 812	My friend mentioned once that people are wildly paranoid there, and that it's more geared toward 24/7 dom/sub relationships (as opposed to being a place for kinky types in general) What's fetlife like nowadays? Is it worthwhile? I barely spent any time there before.

02-08-2017, 04:19 PM	#39 (permalink)
Chiomara mayor of spookytown Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 812	That makes sense. I feel a play party would be incredibly awkward to attend. (But I think going to one of those fancy dungeon balls could be interesting) And is it just me or do a LOT of people on those sites tend to be polyamorous goth pagans? Nothing wrong with it, just odd is all. In terms of using it as a dating site, I think it would still be just as difficult to find someone compatible (sexually) as it would on a regular dating site. Only difference is you know all their kinks and/or fetishes beforehand.