Why does there seem to be a stigma attached to advocate for Men's Rights?

The Batlord · 08-10-2017, 03:09 PM

One thing I always wonder when I hear people say that gender is a societal construct is what does that make trans people? Delusional?

Chiomara · 08-10-2017, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by elphenor

Gender roles are

However dysphoria is believing you're in the wrong body physically

Not necessarily. Most trans people feel that their assigned gender is wrong, not that they are "trapped in the wrong body" or anything as simplistic as that, or that their body itself is wrong (although society and will tell them that if they present a certain way), as many assume-- but that's often the narrative presented in media and books that have trans side characters. Not all trans people experience dysphoria, either.

Obviously, since I'm not trans, I cannot speak for trans people, and I'm sure some DO feel "trapped in the wrong body" but here's what Janet Mock has to say about it-- and I've heard a similar viewpoint from other trans people I've known:

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To me, “trapped in the wrong body” is a blanket statement that makes trans* people’s varying journeys and narratives palatable to the masses. It’s helped cis masses understand our plight – to a certain extent. It’s basically a soundbite of struggle, “I was a girl (boy) trapped in a boy’s (girl’s) body,” which aims to humanize trans* folks, who are often seen as alien, as freaks, as less-than-human and other.
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One so-called truth that I’ve analyzed over and over and over again is the “trapped” narrative. And through this ongoing analysis, I’ve learned to take ownership of how my body is viewed as an “out” trans woman.

After inviting people into my life (I prefer “invite” rather than “come out” because I’ve never hidden who I was a second in my life), I’ve been a subject in many interviews in which I’ve been confronted with this rhetorical “trapped” statement – and others pertaining to my visible and imagined body.
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I point you to words that have pushed me to reclaim the totality of who I am. They were spoken by transpinay transgender rights activist Sass Rogando Sasot in a speech called “Reclaiming the Wronged Body”:

“I am not trapped by my body. I am trapped by your beliefs. And I want to reclaim this body from those who want it to breathe and be fed by their dogmas.”

Neapolitan · 08-10-2017, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

One thing I always wonder when I hear people say that gender is a societal construct is what does that make trans people? Delusional?

If gender is a social construct
and if one assumes that gender identification is not as simple as binary
wouldn't the whole gender spectrum be a social construct as well?

**Goofle** · 08-10-2017, 11:29 PM

^ gp

Lucem Ferre · 08-10-2017, 11:33 PM

I don't really give a **** about people's gender identities, but it's like, you can't just choose your identity then force everybody around you to respect that. You can call yourself non gender fluid all you want but you can't force others to have that perspective. I can wish all I want that people didn't think I'm an ******* but if I'm being an ******* then I got to expect people to see me as the ******* I am. If you have a vagina you have to expect people to see you as female and vice versa. I'm very accepting, I hate using the word tolerant because it sounds condescending, of a lot of this but you cant force people to identify you as something you physically are not. What does it mean to mentally be female? I have had other people identify me as black and I feel like a relate to their culture more than my own but I'd never honestly consider myself black. Because I'm not.

grindy · 08-11-2017, 12:08 AM

He just said he's an *******.

Neapolitan · 08-11-2017, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Lucem Ferre

I don't really give a **** about people's gender identities, but it's like, you can't just choose your identity then force everybody around you to respect that. You can call yourself non gender fluid all you want but you can't force others to have that perspective. I can wish all I want that people didn't think I'm an ******* but if I'm being an ******* then I got to expect people to see me as the ******* I am. If you have a vagina you have to expect people to see you as female and vice versa. I'm very accepting, I hate using the word tolerant because it sounds condescending, of a lot of this but you cant force people to identify you as something you physically are not. What does it mean to mentally be female? I have had other people identify me as black and I feel like a relate to their culture more than my own but I'd never honestly consider myself black. Because I'm not.

Hey don't let no one stop you. If Rachel Dolezal can do it, you can too. Just think of yourself as being genetically non-African but culturally "African-American" or the belonging to the Universal Zulu Nation. Don't confuse people's perception of you with who you are my Nubian brotha.

Lucem Ferre · 08-11-2017, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by elphenor

If you identify with a nickname rather than what's on your birth certificate I will oblige because it's generally respectful

And that's something that's entirely your choice unlike gender

Just be considerate, even if you can't understand anything else

I'm considerate but there is a certain point where it just seems like too much.

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Originally Posted by grindy

He just said he's an *******.

My friend Dale once told me that I am a dick, but I'm a nice dick. And he's gay so that's a hell of a compliment.

Paedantic Basterd · 08-11-2017, 12:43 AM

I'm happy to oblige pretty much anyone when it comes to identity because it costs me nothing to do it. I can't think of a reason not to respect people's identities.

Lucem Ferre · 08-11-2017, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Paedantic Basterd

I'm happy to oblige pretty much anyone when it comes to identity because it costs me nothing to do it. I can't think of a reason not to respect people's identities.

I identify as your boyfriend.

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