Why does there seem to be a stigma attached to advocate for Men's Rights?

**Goofle** · 01-19-2016, 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Machine

I used to identify more with the feminist movement and saw the MRA's as a joke; now while I still believe many MRA's are just angry misogynists, seeing both sides really made me see they had some good points. At this point I just call myself an egalitarian and call it a day.

Well, I literally haven't been exposed to bad MRA's, but I certainly agree with considering myself an Egalitarian. And I'm certainly not going to be championing men's rights and only men's rights in fucked up countries like Saudi Arabia, where women definitely are the oppressed gender.

**Frownland** · 01-19-2016, 05:02 PM

Do you have hurricane insurance? I know you're in SoCal, but you don't want to risk it, do you?

Chula Vista · 01-19-2016, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Frownland

Do you have hurricane insurance? I know you're in SoCal, but you don't want to risk it, do you?

Is this a MB Board threat? Wanna explain the specifics?

Or maybe you are just being funny and I'm missing the point.

Not exactly in the mood right now. Probably shouldn't have posted. Questions still stand.

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~~Cuthbert~~ · 01-19-2016, 05:22 PM

I'm guessing SoCal doesn't get many hurricanes so he's asking if you have hurricane insurance, just in case you do happen to have your house destroyed by one.

I think that's the joke.

**Frownland** · 01-19-2016, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by monkeytennis

I'm guessing SoCal doesn't get many hurricanes so he's asking if you have hurricane insurance, just in case you do happen to have your house destroyed by one.

I think that's the joke.

Bingo. It's been almost 20 years Chula, we're definitely due.

GuitarBizarre · 01-19-2016, 06:05 PM

I skipped the entire thread, so I'm probably repeating some things here.

But.

The main problem with MRAs is that the fact is, they don't seem to understand that fundamentally, a rights movement exists because society is in a place whereby a group can generally be considered to occupy a position of decreased influence and power, versus the majority or the status quo, and they wish to address that balance.

Worker's rights movements, Women's rights movements, Rights for immigrants, rights for former slaves, rights for people of minority faith, etc.

The largest and the smallest movements of rights advocates are founded on a fundamental dismissal or outright oppression of a group by a larger or more powerful group.

When you are yourself the majority, or you represent the status quo, or the more powerful interest, then the fact is, you don't need a rights movement for your group, in order to address whatever issues of discrimination, double standardising or simple poor lawmaking are presently affecting you. Quite the opposite. The chances are that one of two things is true in any given situation affecting your particular majority or high-agency group:

1 - You already have enough power, influence, wealth, money and social status to successfully campaign for a given genuine inequality to be dealt with, without having to resort to disruptive social movements, protest, etc. Your solution already lies within the status quo.

2 - The inequality you are perceiving is either not an inequality, or it is a temporary inequality whose purpose is to try and resolve a broader and more significant inequality facing a smaller and less powerful group.

The funny thing is, as far as I am aware it is a problem in most countries that in given court proceedings, decisions relating to parental autonomy will be decided majority in the favour of women. The funny thing is, that's a symptom of male oppression, not female, primarily because we've spent hundreds of years telling our children that men work and women stay at home and mind the kids. Funny that the courts, being as they are, agents of the status quo, seem to have adopted that view as well, right?

We should probably fix it. By making the system acknowledge that being a woman does not inherently change your personality, interests, or even circumstances, in some mysterious way that makes you a super awesome single parent.

Wait, that doesn't sound like men's rights at all. That sounds like making the courts respect that women are equally as diverse in character as men are, both for better and worse. Funny how that seems to be the argument all the feminists are making, right?

In the 21st Century, though things are much more equal than in the 20th or 19th, the fact is, men still occupy a position of significantly more power than women do. In exactly the same way that white people occupy a position of more power than black people, and so on. A huge amount of social impetus has come forwards from hundreds of years of unequal history, that shapes the way our world perceives men and women.

That's not a good thing, and equal treatment is needed. But men do not need a specifically male platform upon which they need to stand in order to have their concern heard - Society already treats the individual male as a person of sufficient authority to raise such an issue within the legal system without having to resort to extralegal measures such as protest groups or marches etc.

The opposite is not true when a woman tries to raise a similar issue. Her position is weakened by general, wide-ranging and extremely broad, but pervasive, social constructs regarding who and what she should be and what she should do with her life. Working within the system is not an easy or practical option for many womens issues, such as for example the UK branding Tampons and Sanitary pads as "luxury items" with the extra tax that implies, needlessly financially penalizing people for being born the wrong gender.

As a result, the only way for a woman to be heard equally loudly on the same issue, is for it to be raised in numbers and for the message to be undeniable, public, and publically well supported - Something like a women's rights movement.

This limits the potential scope for change - The women's rights movement has to argue single issues at a time and eventually chip away at the larger problem. The chance of obtaining sufficient political impetus with a majority white male legal system, to have a full-scale review of the system initiated, is infinitesimal.

Additionally, indoctrination by society since birth means many women fight against their own best interests. I know just as many women who are anti-feminist, as I do women who are pro-feminist. But on the other hand, I know hardly any men who are pro-feminist compared to the vast scores of men I know who are strongly masculine. Most of those women are fiercely independent and value that immensely, which is incredibly ironic that that right to independence, which women have fought for for decades, is something they will then use to spout bull**** like "I wouldn't be bothered about getting paid less than a man I'd just be thankful to have a job, people who whine about that are bitches". (Actual thing an actual friend of mine actually argued with me about).

And it doesn't even stop there - you only have to spend a couple hours in a cafe full of builders to hear how everyday behavior massively reinforces masculinity being a source of personal power.

To move from a world like that, to arguing that men are being oppressed is simply equating the absence of a specifically named movement, with the absence of that political message in broader society, despite the fact that political message *is* broader society and the status quo.

Both sexes deserve equality. The fact is though, there are far fewer issues for men to raise than women to raise, and they are generally not issues of equal importance to society. We should fix them, but there is no reason to conflate fixing them with "Being an advocate for men's rights" - We already have all the rights we need to fix those issues, it's called campaigning for your actual cause instead of complaining that someone else is campaigning for theirs. And if you're trying to use your position of existing power to restrict someone elses? Well that's just being an *******.

**Goofle** · 01-21-2016, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by GuitarBizarre

The main problem with MRAs is that the fact is, they don't seem to understand that fundamentally, a rights movement exists because society is in a place whereby a group can generally be considered to occupy a position of decreased influence and power, versus the majority or the status quo, and they wish to address that balance.

Worker's rights movements, Women's rights movements, Rights for immigrants, rights for former slaves, rights for people of minority faith, etc.

The largest and the smallest movements of rights advocates are founded on a fundamental dismissal or outright oppression of a group by a larger or more powerful group.

So simply because men are not oppressed in the west, they do not deserve equal rights when it comes to bodily integrity? Or should not be given equal rights in regards to their children? That makes literally no sense.

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When you are yourself the majority, or you represent the status quo, or the more powerful interest, then the fact is, you don't need a rights movement for your group, in order to address whatever issues of discrimination, double standardising or simple poor lawmaking are presently affecting you. Quite the opposite. The chances are that one of two things is true in any given situation affecting your particular majority or high-agency group:

1 - You already have enough power, influence, wealth, money and social status to successfully campaign for a given genuine inequality to be dealt with, without having to resort to disruptive social movements, protest, etc. Your solution already lies within the status quo.

2 - The inequality you are perceiving is either not an inequality, or it is a temporary inequality whose purpose is to try and resolve a broader and more significant inequality facing a smaller and less powerful group.

You have completely lost me here. You are talking as if men literally rule the world and just get their way even if the law doesn't actually privilege them. That's not the case and you know it.

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So we can have rape laws that basically ignore the fact that women are capable of rape, and completely lack any kind of equality between the sexes... but men are powerful so... it's all good???

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The funny thing is, as far as I am aware it is a problem in most countries that in given court proceedings, decisions relating to parental autonomy will be decided majority in the favour of women. The funny thing is, that's a symptom of male oppression, not female, primarily because we've spent hundreds of years telling our children that men work and women stay at home and mind the kids. Funny that the courts, being as they are, agents of the status quo, seem to have adopted that view as well, right?

We should probably fix it. By making the system acknowledge that being a woman does not inherently change your personality, interests, or even circumstances, in some mysterious way that makes you a super awesome single parent.

Wait, that doesn't sound like men's rights at all. That sounds like making the courts respect that women are equally as diverse in character as men are, both for better and worse. Funny how that seems to be the argument all the feminists are making, right?

So, you do agree that men are discriminated against in regards to their children? Although we do always seem to gloss over the fact that women generally not only have more say after the child is born, but they can also choose what happens to the child before that.

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In the 21st Century, though things are much more equal than in the 20th or 19th, the fact is, men still occupy a position of significantly more power than women do. In exactly the same way that white people occupy a position of more power than black people, and so on. A huge amount of social impetus has come forwards from hundreds of years of unequal history, that shapes the way our world perceives men and women.

That's not a good thing, and equal treatment is needed. But men do not need a specifically male platform upon which they need to stand in order to have their concern heard - Society already treats the individual male as a person of sufficient authority to raise such an issue within the legal system without having to resort to extralegal measures such as protest groups or marches etc.

Men have issues that are NOT dealt with. In fact, you are more likely to see men get laughed at and mocked when they bring up issues such as a lack of men's shelters or being domestic abuse victims. Assuming men just have to get on and deal with their problems is an issue. It does harm many men who simply can't just get on with it.

I cut out what you said between the previous and next quote because a lot of it delves into feminist rhetoric, indoctrination etc. I don't have enough time or expertise to challenge every point you brought up, but - in short - I will simply say that I do not agree that women in the west live in a society that oppresses them systemically. In fact, a simple observation of culture, personal relationships, news ect. leads me to believe that women are held in a much higher regard than men, for whatever reason. And there are people who (maybe without identifying as a feminist) support women's rights in every race or gender.

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Both sexes deserve equality. The fact is though, there are far fewer issues for men to raise than women to raise, and they are generally not issues of equal importance to society. We should fix them, but there is no reason to conflate fixing them with "Being an advocate for men's rights" - We already have all the rights we need to fix those issues, it's called campaigning for your actual cause instead of complaining that someone else is campaigning for theirs. And if you're trying to use your position of existing power to restrict someone elses? Well that's just being an *******.

Name me one legal right women do not have, or an issue that women face in society? In the west of course. Then explain to me why little boys should not be protected by the law to keep their penis in tact.

I'll finish by saying that I am an advocate for the equal rights of all people, and that includes men. And the purpose of this thread was to discuss why the very real inequalities men face are not really discussed, and those that do are stigmatised.

I didn't want to get into the many and varied issues I have with feminism, but if you're going to throw around words like "institutionalized" and "systemic" I would like to see some evidence, because generally it's not something that has a basis in modern society.

RoxyRollah · 01-19-2016, 06:59 PM

I just want to say, Im ok with staying home in my pjs, handing out bjs before work , and a stiff drink and doob when you men folk get home.Leave money on the counter so I can shop for house hold needs...Annnnd Ill see all your needs as a man are met....See how easy that is girls we have like 8 whole hours to do things we want to while the mr is at work....what the hell man the damn hairy legged womens libers ****ed my life up now I gotta get up and go to work like every other human on earth...Fuuuck.

~~ChelseaDagger~~ · 01-19-2016, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

I just want to say, Im ok with staying home in my pjs, handing out bjs before work , and a stiff drink and doob when you men folk get home.Leave money on the counter so I can shop for house hold needs...Annnnd Ill see all your needs as a man are met....See how easy that is girls we have like 8 whole hours to do things we want to while the mr is at work....what the hell man the damn hairy legged womens libers ****ed my life up now I gotta get up and go to work like every other human on earth...Fuuuck.

The Batlord · 01-19-2016, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

I just want to say, Im ok with staying home in my pjs, handing out bjs before work , and a stiff drink and doob when you men folk get home.Leave money on the counter so I can shop for house hold needs...Annnnd Ill see all your needs as a man are met....See how easy that is girls we have like 8 whole hours to do things we want to while the mr is at work....what the hell man the damn hairy legged womens libers ****ed my life up now I gotta get up and go to work like every other human on earth...Fuuuck.

Ditto.

01-19-2016, 05:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
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~~Cuthbert~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: The Black Country Posts: 8,827	I'm guessing SoCal doesn't get many hurricanes so he's asking if you have hurricane insurance, just in case you do happen to have your house destroyed by one. I think that's the joke.