Life sucks and then you die.

Chula Vista · 01-01-2016, 04:20 PM

My 84 year old dad as of yesterday.

Backstory: He's slowly developed bad dementia over the last decade and then about a year ago had to undergo surgery. During recovery he suffered a minor stroke. He's had a LONG and hard recovery since then. He was fed through a tube for about 9 months because of his health. And then he started to get physically better - the dementia is permanent though. Until recently he just kept getting better and better.

My sister back east sent me this picture from Christmas day of him and my step-mom enjoying lunch together.

And then 3 nights ago at 3:00AM he had a spell where he thought he'd left a stove on. He got out of bed and fell, fracturing just about everything on his left side. He'll be bed ridden for the next 2 months while he heals - which will only exasperate his dementia.

Sorry to be a drag, but the recent God thread made me do it. Is this how God intended end of life to be?

**Janszoon** · 01-01-2016, 04:35 PM

I'm really sorry to hear about that Chula. I hope his recovery happens as quickly as possible.

Chula Vista · 01-01-2016, 04:47 PM

Thanks Janz. I feel so bad for him, my step-mom, and 2 sisters. Being 3,000 miles away sucks. I'm thinking I need to fly back and spend a couple days with him. Thing is he'll forget I was there the day after I leave.

Neapolitan · 01-01-2016, 04:53 PM

Sorry to hear you're going through this. If you think you need to go, but fear he might not recall, then go for you family or simply for yourself.

Pet_Sounds · 01-01-2016, 05:04 PM

Really sorry, Chula. Hopefully he'll recover quickly and smoothly.

Tristan_Geoff · 01-01-2016, 05:21 PM

I'm very sorry to hear this, and I wish him speedy recovery. Wish I could say and do more than just that.

Trollheart · 01-01-2016, 06:07 PM

Sorry for your troubles man, awful way to begin the new year. Hopefully he'll make a recovery and be back to himself soon. All you can do is be there for him, and be strong. We're here for you, remember that.

Lisnaholic · 01-01-2016, 06:14 PM

Yes, I'm very sorry that you have such sad news of your dad, Chula. With old age we have to confront some brutal circumstances, and dementia is particularly difficult for all concerned I imagine.

Despite his injuries you can see he is such a fine old man, obviously handsome back in the day. I hope in due course he will once more be as cheerful as he looks in the Christmas day photo.

**Exo** · 01-01-2016, 06:28 PM

You know, your father was able to raise a pretty awesome human being in yourself Chula. I would hope he doesn't think a life of doing such sucks. Life is what you make it. He decided to make you. I obviously don't know your relationship with him, but it seems good. Sometimes sh*t like this just happens, but to me, this is the price we pay to live a long life.

I hope he recovers and is able to crack a nice happy smirk as he is in the second picture. If you need anything, let me know. You've been there for me in the past and I can be there for you in the future. I'm sorry you're going through a lot of stuff lately. It'll get better. It usually does for strong people like yourself.

Chula Vista · 01-01-2016, 08:38 PM

Thanks to all. Just got his update from my sis. He woke up and was pissed about the 2-3 day growth. Tough SOB took matters into his own hands. And ya, his wife splashed on a bit of Old Spice when he was done.

**** you haters.

01-01-2016, 04:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	Life sucks and then you die. My 84 year old dad as of yesterday. Backstory: He's slowly developed bad dementia over the last decade and then about a year ago had to undergo surgery. During recovery he suffered a minor stroke. He's had a LONG and hard recovery since then. He was fed through a tube for about 9 months because of his health. And then he started to get physically better - the dementia is permanent though. Until recently he just kept getting better and better. My sister back east sent me this picture from Christmas day of him and my step-mom enjoying lunch together. And then 3 nights ago at 3:00AM he had a spell where he thought he'd left a stove on. He got out of bed and fell, fracturing just about everything on his left side. He'll be bed ridden for the next 2 months while he heals - which will only exasperate his dementia. Sorry to be a drag, but the recent God thread made me do it. Is this how God intended end of life to be? __________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”

01-01-2016, 04:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
Janszoon Mate, Spawn & Die Join Date: May 2007 Location: The Rapping Community Posts: 24,593	I'm really sorry to hear about that Chula. I hope his recovery happens as quickly as possible. __________________ A Night in the Life of the Invisible Man Time & Place 25 Albums You Should Hear Before the Moon Crashes into the Earth and We All Die last.fm

01-01-2016, 04:47 PM	#3 (permalink)
Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	Thanks Janz. I feel so bad for him, my step-mom, and 2 sisters. Being 3,000 miles away sucks. I'm thinking I need to fly back and spend a couple days with him. Thing is he'll forget I was there the day after I leave. __________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”

01-01-2016, 05:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
Pet_Sounds Remember the underscore Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: The other side Posts: 2,488	Really sorry, Chula. Hopefully he'll recover quickly and smoothly. __________________ Everybody's dying just to get the disease

01-01-2016, 06:07 PM	#7 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,992	Sorry for your troubles man, awful way to begin the new year. Hopefully he'll make a recovery and be back to himself soon. All you can do is be there for him, and be strong. We're here for you, remember that. __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

01-01-2016, 06:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
Lisnaholic ...here to hear... Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: He lives on Love Street Posts: 4,444	Yes, I'm very sorry that you have such sad news of your dad, Chula. With old age we have to confront some brutal circumstances, and dementia is particularly difficult for all concerned I imagine. Despite his injuries you can see he is such a fine old man, obviously handsome back in the day. I hope in due course he will once more be as cheerful as he looks in the Christmas day photo. __________________ "Am I enjoying this moment? I know of it and perhaps that is enough." - Sybille Bedford, 1953

01-01-2016, 06:28 PM	#9 (permalink)
Exo All day jazz and biscuits Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 7,354	You know, your father was able to raise a pretty awesome human being in yourself Chula. I would hope he doesn't think a life of doing such sucks. Life is what you make it. He decided to make you. I obviously don't know your relationship with him, but it seems good. Sometimes sht like this just happens, but to me, this is the price we pay to live a long life. I hope he recovers and is able to crack a nice happy smirk as he is in the second picture. If you need anything, let me know. You've been there for me in the past and I can be there for you in the future. I'm sorry you're going through a lot of stuff lately. It'll get better. It usually does for strong people like yourself. __________________ LastFM SUPREME POO BAH MODERATOR EXTRAORDINAIRE*

01-01-2016, 08:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	Thanks to all. Just got his update from my sis. He woke up and was pissed about the 2-3 day growth. Tough SOB took matters into his own hands. And ya, his wife splashed on a bit of Old Spice when he was done. **** you haters. __________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”