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Old 01-01-2016, 04:20 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My 84 year old dad as of yesterday.



Backstory: He's slowly developed bad dementia over the last decade and then about a year ago had to undergo surgery. During recovery he suffered a minor stroke. He's had a LONG and hard recovery since then. He was fed through a tube for about 9 months because of his health. And then he started to get physically better - the dementia is permanent though. Until recently he just kept getting better and better.

My sister back east sent me this picture from Christmas day of him and my step-mom enjoying lunch together.



And then 3 nights ago at 3:00AM he had a spell where he thought he'd left a stove on. He got out of bed and fell, fracturing just about everything on his left side. He'll be bed ridden for the next 2 months while he heals - which will only exasperate his dementia.

Sorry to be a drag, but the recent God thread made me do it. Is this how God intended end of life to be?
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Old 01-01-2016, 04:35 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I'm really sorry to hear about that Chula. I hope his recovery happens as quickly as possible.
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Old 01-01-2016, 04:47 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Thanks Janz. I feel so bad for him, my step-mom, and 2 sisters. Being 3,000 miles away sucks. I'm thinking I need to fly back and spend a couple days with him. Thing is he'll forget I was there the day after I leave.
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Sorry to hear you're going through this. If you think you need to go, but fear he might not recall, then go for you family or simply for yourself.
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Really sorry, Chula. Hopefully he'll recover quickly and smoothly.
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I'm very sorry to hear this, and I wish him speedy recovery. Wish I could say and do more than just that.
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Sorry for your troubles man, awful way to begin the new year. Hopefully he'll make a recovery and be back to himself soon. All you can do is be there for him, and be strong. We're here for you, remember that.
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Old 01-01-2016, 06:14 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Yes, I'm very sorry that you have such sad news of your dad, Chula. With old age we have to confront some brutal circumstances, and dementia is particularly difficult for all concerned I imagine.

Despite his injuries you can see he is such a fine old man, obviously handsome back in the day. I hope in due course he will once more be as cheerful as he looks in the Christmas day photo.
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Old 01-01-2016, 06:28 PM   #9 (permalink)
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You know, your father was able to raise a pretty awesome human being in yourself Chula. I would hope he doesn't think a life of doing such sucks. Life is what you make it. He decided to make you. I obviously don't know your relationship with him, but it seems good. Sometimes sh*t like this just happens, but to me, this is the price we pay to live a long life.

I hope he recovers and is able to crack a nice happy smirk as he is in the second picture. If you need anything, let me know. You've been there for me in the past and I can be there for you in the future. I'm sorry you're going through a lot of stuff lately. It'll get better. It usually does for strong people like yourself.
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Old 01-01-2016, 08:38 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Thanks to all. Just got his update from my sis. He woke up and was pissed about the 2-3 day growth. Tough SOB took matters into his own hands. And ya, his wife splashed on a bit of Old Spice when he was done.

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