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Key · 08-24-2021, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by jadis

Nah, not really. One has to remember that no two people have the same exact frame of reference, that not every joke lands the way it's intended etc. But usually when familiarity and with it a common frame of expectations have been established, and you know you're on safe ground, then yeah, I usually say what I want in the confidence that it wouldn't be misconstrued.

I assumed that was the case, at least to a degree, with me and a few users on this platform: I remember joking around about lesbian friends and their mating habits, for example.

Maybe I was wrong (this is the first anonymous forum I've used since like 2006, not saying I always read the room correctly), maybe Batlord likes the woke high ground a bit too much, dunno. But then I also can't be bothered to care what someone like adidasss thinks about me: life's too short.

I can certainly understand where you're coming from. I think it's just difficult to have that perspective on the internet. Everyone has different views and opinions and the internet and forums in general can be a place where people feel free enough to express those opinions. Believe me, when I'm in a comfortable environment I'm pretty bad as well. Humor knows no bounds. I'll make fun and pick fun at everything and anything. However in the context of the internet and forums, there's already so much negativity and comments being misconstrued that really the safest way to go about it is just to dial back and just do your own thing. And throw in some positivity here and there.

That's my 2 cents anyway. But what do I know, I'm just a guy on the internet.

jadis · 08-24-2021, 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Key

in the context of the internet and forums, there's already so much negativity and comments being misconstrued that really the safest way to go about it is just to dial back and just do your own thing. And throw in some positivity here and there.

That's certainly the rational thing to do, and I should consider it more often.

The one downside I see is that it means you're being somewhat cautious and you don't really (or at least not as much) expose yourself to being judged, which is where so much of the beauty of social interaction lies for me. That's how you discover people.

For example if someone who more or less knows what type of person you are still trots out a lecture about "erm actually it's really not cool that you take out your problems on gay people cause that's very colonizer of you " the moment you say something off-color, then you know that maybe it's not someone you're likely to have real talk with.

But that's also how you find the people who like you for who you are, and that can be pretty special, online or irl.

**Frownland** · 08-24-2021, 10:04 PM

Are you getting paid by the word or is the bloated posting style a soothing mechanism?

jadis · 08-24-2021, 10:18 PM

I believe I can post in something approaching the American vernacular but it does take a certain conscious effort, so I just let my guard down.

If it was up to me, education wouldn't function as an exclusion mechanism in out society and we would let more people on the carefully guarded secret that it's the most pleasurable thing in the world. Sadly, I'm not that powerful.

**Frownland** · 08-24-2021, 10:20 PM

You already have the power to crawl out of your own asshole. We believe in you.

jadis · 08-24-2021, 10:24 PM

Nah, I'm good. Even accepting that I'm a freak in many contexts, there are enough those where I have a positive value. Same with people. Being who I am has served me pretty well overall.

**Frownland** · 08-24-2021, 10:25 PM

Whatever you gotta tell yourself.

jadis · 08-24-2021, 10:30 PM

You strike me as an angry person. You should try to fulfill yourself outside MB.

**Frownland** · 08-24-2021, 10:34 PM

I'm cool with that. Just take it from a truly unbecame man that the pseudo-academic bloated self-justification is unbecoming. At least outside of reddit.

Key · 08-24-2021, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by jadis

That's certainly the rational thing to do, and I should consider it more often.

The one downside I see is that it means you're being somewhat cautious and you don't really (or at least not as much) expose yourself to being judged, which is where so much of the beauty of social interaction lies for me. That's how you discover people.

For example if someone who more or less knows what type of person you are still trots out a lecture about "erm actually it's really not cool that you take out your problems on gay people cause that's very colonizer of you " the moment you say something off-color, then you know that maybe it's not someone you're likely to have real talk with.

But that's also how you find the people who like you for who you are, and that can be pretty special, online or irl.

I've met a ton of great people online and often times it is due to the fact that we tend to have the same twisted sense of humor but there are certain boundaries depending on the person. In a perfect world, yeah I wish the internet wouldn't chastise people for what they say but it doesnt work that way. It's never a bad idea to be cautious on the internet because we arent all computer screens. We are human beings. We all have emotions and some show them more than others. I suppose it's good to have a mix of messed up humor and general empathy and kindness towards others. Theres a line there somewhere.

Definitely agree with your last point.

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08-24-2021, 10:20 PM	#74215 (permalink)
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08-24-2021, 10:25 PM	#74217 (permalink)
Frownland SOPHIE FOREVER Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: East of the Southern North American West Posts: 35,541	Whatever you gotta tell yourself. __________________ Studies show that when a given norm is changed in the face of the unchanging, the remaining contradictions will parallel the truth. d e a f b o x

08-24-2021, 10:34 PM	#74219 (permalink)
Frownland SOPHIE FOREVER Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: East of the Southern North American West Posts: 35,541	I'm cool with that. Just take it from a truly unbecame man that the pseudo-academic bloated self-justification is unbecoming. At least outside of reddit. __________________ Studies show that when a given norm is changed in the face of the unchanging, the remaining contradictions will parallel the truth. d e a f b o x

08-24-2021, 10:18 PM	#74214 (permalink)
jadis Music Addict Join Date: Jun 2021 Location: dont ask Posts: 1,410	I believe I can post in something approaching the American vernacular but it does take a certain conscious effort, so I just let my guard down. If it was up to me, education wouldn't function as an exclusion mechanism in out society and we would let more people on the carefully guarded secret that it's the most pleasurable thing in the world. Sadly, I'm not that powerful.

08-24-2021, 10:24 PM	#74216 (permalink)
jadis Music Addict Join Date: Jun 2021 Location: dont ask Posts: 1,410	Nah, I'm good. Even accepting that I'm a freak in many contexts, there are enough those where I have a positive value. Same with people. Being who I am has served me pretty well overall.

08-24-2021, 10:30 PM	#74218 (permalink)
jadis Music Addict Join Date: Jun 2021 Location: dont ask Posts: 1,410	You strike me as an angry person. You should try to fulfill yourself outside MB.