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~~[MERIT]~~ · 07-08-2018, 09:09 AM

She's been forcibly confined to the psyche ward half a dozen times, attempted suicide, whored around, wasted my child support on tattoos and booze ... and the judges still think it best for a child to be with their mother over their father, regardless of the circumstances. This is life.

Trollheart · 07-08-2018, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by [MERIT]

Finally got my son, for the first time in 3 weeks. Had a fun day. Cooked tacos [eating some cold leftovers as we speak]. Played baseball. Played 'American Ninja Warrior' at the park. Made water balloons. Played video games. Watched movies. Looked up cool shit on the internet together. Colored pictures. Built shit out of Legos. Shot BB guns. Made up for lost time. Had my 2 youngest nephews over as well.

Worked on my website a bit. Getting ready to turn 31 on the 22nd. This is life.

Glad things worked out and you had a good day with your son, Merit.

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Originally Posted by wolverinewolfweiselpigeon

Psh as if I can't handle my liquor

Nobody can handle liquor: it's liquid, just slips through your fingers.

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Originally Posted by Lisnaholic

x 2 @ Chula, Kiii and WWWP : That stuff about separated parents and access to children is terrible.
I'm glad you at last had a nice day with your son [MERIT]. It's great for you, I'm sure, and also important that your son builds up memories of good times spent with you.
My own son also grew up with two homes, but luckily things were done pretty amicably:both homes were in the same city and my son was with me on alternate days. Well, that was until the mum decided to take him to a different town. He was about twelve at the time: he tolerated it for nine months, then insisted that he come and live with me instead. So don't lose hope, [MERIT], you may get more parenting time furthur down the line.

^ Yep, this is another family scenario too. As for me, Roger Waters clearly met my parents once because he described their undramatic marriage so well:-

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Lisna, but glad things got sorted eventually.

Lisnaholic · 07-08-2018, 09:40 AM

^ I'm fine now thanks TH, and years ago I got the better deal: the wife got the house, but I got the child. That's a win in my book!

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Originally Posted by [MERIT]

She's been forcibly confined to the psyche ward half a dozen times, attempted suicide, whored around, wasted my child support on tattoos and booze ... and the judges still think it best for a child to be with their mother over their father, regardless of the circumstances. This is life.

^ Oh dear, that's terrible. I wonder how old your child is? There's a legal age at which they can choose who to live with but, in my case at least, we never reached that point. My son made it so clear where he wanted to be that in the end his mum, rather in the spirit of calling his bluff, let him go...

Yes, parenting by phone is heartbreaking. The absent dad is in a no-win situation:-
i) your child is happy and answers every question with "u-huh" and "ok" so you are left frustrated and jealous
ii) your child is unhappy and you are left furious and impotent.

~~[MERIT]~~ · 07-08-2018, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Lisnaholic

Oh dear, that's terrible. I wonder how old your child is? There's a legal age at which they can choose who to live with but, in my case at least, we never reached that point. My son made it so clear where he wanted to be that in the end his mum, rather in the spirit of calling his bluff, let him go...

Yes, parenting by phone is heartbreaking. The absent dad is in a no-win situation:-
i) your child is happy and answers every question with "u-huh" and "ok" so you are left frustrated and jealous
ii) your child is unhappy and you are left furious and impotent.

He's 8, and not a fan of talking on the phone. Hoping the future holds better things.

The Batlord · 07-08-2018, 10:06 AM

You should take him camping so you can bond while capturing Bigfoot.

Lisnaholic · 07-08-2018, 10:20 AM

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He's 8, and not a fan of talking on the phone. Hoping the future holds better things.

^ Yeah, boys of that age just aren't naturally talkative, so a phone conv is always going to be a bit unsatisfactory. Treating him well is the best thing you can do at the moment: I'd also recommend resisting the temptation to bad-mouth the mother too much. That just generates a tension that the boy is too young to handle, (though I'm ashamed to say that I did it a few times myself).

At one stage I also had a lot of nice Lego-building sessions with my son, plus visits to all the local parks. On rainy days we had HotWheels races: buy a bit of pipe, prop one end up on books, divide your cars into two teams and take turns letting them run out the pipe and across the floor. Winner of course is the car that gets the furthest...

Trollheart · 07-08-2018, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

You should take him camping so you can bond while capturing Bigfoot.

You leave Exo alone on his holidays!

The Batlord · 07-08-2018, 10:54 AM

Two hours? How ****ing big is your yard?

The Batlord · 07-08-2018, 11:24 AM

At that point I'd be like, "Momsickles, let's just hire a Mexican cause **** this."

The Batlord · 07-08-2018, 11:54 AM

You're celebrating having to mow the lawn? ****ing lunatic.

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~~[MERIT]~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Missouri, USA Posts: 4,823	She's been forcibly confined to the psyche ward half a dozen times, attempted suicide, whored around, wasted my child support on tattoos and booze ... and the judges still think it best for a child to be with their mother over their father, regardless of the circumstances. This is life.