The Batlord

Do they all live in different parts of the country? Cause my yuppie ******* family lives from VA to NY to CO to CA to GA and still manage to see each other within a ten year period. And as far as I know there's just the one spouse people don't like.

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Exo

Yo they all live in the same f*cking town. That's what makes this sh*t so juicy. Granted, it's one of the larger municipalities in NJ by population (Top 30), but it's still small enough to contain certain "small town" qualities.

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The Batlord

Yeah that's not a real family.

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Exo

95% of my "real" family are friends and their siblings/parents. I have my fathers sister, my first cousin once removed and his parents/siblings, and my mothers mother as the only two real blood relatives I give a sh*t about. I honestly don't care about my mothers side of the family. I don't wish ill upon any of them, well, besides the dipsh*t spouses, but I just lost connection over two decades ago.

Keep in mind that the town they all live in is f*cking five miles from where I grew up and spent most of my life. I haven't seen 75% of my first cousins since my grandfathers funeral and before that, since I was f*cking twelve.

One of my best friends just told me his father has terminal cancer. I cry f*cking thinking about it. That man means more to me than most of my own blood.

It's weird and different but the whole "blood is thicker than water" has pretty much zero meaning to me besides my parents, brother, and few select other family members.

The day I have to attend a funeral for one of my best friends parents, I probably won't eat for days. The day I attend a funeral from somebody on my mothers side of the family, I'll probably get f*cking Taco Bell afterward.

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The Batlord

Is there a reason for that? Cause my family isn't that great at being a traditional family but we can still band together when push comes to shove and we still maintain basic ties.

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Marie Monday

That's some soap series **** Exo. I hope it works out well. I relate to what you're saying about blood not being thicker than water, because the older generations of my family are not a good environment. We're still good with most of them but we're a bit of an outcast branch and my mom basically created her own family of friends. I grew up among them regarding them as aunts and uncles, and they mean more than most of my actual family. The same applies to the parents of my childhood friends, actually. I was the kind of kid who really got along with my friends' parents lol. And then of course there's my father's family that I mostly don't have any bond with

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adidasss

I have to ask, how come you never put a dot at the end of your last sentence? Is it some kind of OCD thing?

Also, agree on the whole family is what you make of it thing. I have wildly varying degrees of bonds with my siblings (we are 5) (don't speak with my homophobe brother for example) and parents (don't care for my father much).

Nothing quite as reality tv as exo's situation though. That NJ is really wild!

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Psy-Fi

I was thinking the same thing.

Sex, sleaze, family drama, cops, New Jersey. All the ingredients for a smash hit reality TV show.

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Marie Monday

That's very observant of you
It's almost a subconscious thing I do because in text messages or posts I always feel like I sound so serious and strict if I end with a dot, if you get what I mean. Not OCD, but mildly neurotic

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Exo

I've had the same core group of friends since I was a teenager. Once that formed, I stopped seeing my sh*tty family.My parents must have recognized that I was better off spending my time with better people. My moms siblings are all great but their spouses and kids all kind of suck and I just never wanted to be around them so I wasn't forced to.

My parents have also always worked multiple jobs and I started working early so we just never had the time to co-exist.

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