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Plankton · 03-09-2021, 02:31 PM

Absolutely. Yup. Uh huh.

I thought you two were about to go all brown chicken brown cow for a minute there.

ribbons · 03-09-2021, 03:20 PM

*** Googles brown chicken brown cow ***

Uh-huh, something like that (thank you, Urban Dictionary). In other words, you're trying to tell us to "Get a couch!".

Trollheart · 03-09-2021, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by ribbons

We may need a fitted sheet for that couch.

Not a fitted one; it will just keep pinging off!

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Originally Posted by ribbons

*** Googles brown chicken brown cow ***

Uh-huh, something like that (thank you, Urban Dictionary). In other words, you're trying to tell us to "Get a couch!".

Ready to go shopping?

YorkeDaddy · 03-09-2021, 03:35 PM

I did that weird thing where I married someone that I actually like being around, but she also respects that I have my own hobbies that are separate from her and vise versa

I would bet that most of the time anyone that complains that their SO is “nagging” them is probably the problem themselves because they’re being too emotionally distant or just straight up neglecting important needs in the relationship. Which could come down to societally influenced gender roles but more likely it could just be because one or both of the people in the relationship are sacks of ****.

Plankton · 03-09-2021, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ribbons

*** Googles brown chicken brown cow ***

Uh-huh, something like that (thank you, Urban Dictionary). In other words, you're trying to tell us to "Get a couch!".

Or a room, yes.

~~jwb~~ · 03-09-2021, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Marie Monday

My judgement is definitely coloured by my view of heterosexual relationships, and of course people will drift apart, but the fact that these nagging wife/mancaveman dynamics emerge is a gender role issue. And if you can't work it out and have that particular attitude towards each other (like the typical case of woman pestering man and complaining to her friends, man escaping and making sexist jokes about his wife/women in general at the bar) I think you should start questioning how much you had to offer each other in the first place.

Or for example Allen Ginsberg whining about how women chain you up and inhibit you in Howl. If men can be companions while you have your adventures and endeavours without stopping you, why not women? You're just picking someone incompatible because you're looking for someone to do your laundry.

I find it interesting that you have such strong opinions on heterosexual relationships specifically, since presumably you have very little experience in that regard.

Also, you did say you related to the patrice bit I posted... Exactly how did you relate? You said you're more like a man so you relate but now you day heterosexual relationships are stunted by gender roles... Yet the extent to which you relate is the extent to which those gender roles also creep into same sex relationships.

Trollheart · 03-09-2021, 06:11 PM

#ribbonheart

Trollheart · 03-09-2021, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Plankton

Or a room, yes.

Are you a fan of those new-fangled outdoor couches then? I always prefer a couch to be in a room, so much more private. And warm. And legal.

~~jwb~~ · 03-09-2021, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by YorkeDaddy

I did that weird thing where I married someone that I actually like being around, but she also respects that I have my own hobbies that are separate from her and vise versa

I would bet that most of the time anyone that complains that their SO is “nagging” them is probably the problem themselves because they’re being too emotionally distant or just straight up neglecting important needs in the relationship. Which could come down to societally influenced gender roles but more likely it could just be because one or both of the people in the relationship are sacks of ****.

keep in mind I never used the word nagging.

A girl doesn't need to nag for me to want some distance. But naturally they do nag as well. And half the time they have a point. The police usually have a point when they pull you over too. Doesn't make it less annoying.

**Marie Monday** · 03-10-2021, 02:36 AM

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Originally Posted by jwb

I find it interesting that you have such strong opinions on heterosexual relationships specifically, since presumably you have very little experience in that regard.

Also, you did say you related to the patrice bit I posted... Exactly how did you relate? You said you're more like a man so you relate but now you day heterosexual relationships are stunted by gender roles... Yet the extent to which you relate is the extent to which those gender roles also creep into same sex relationships.

I grew up in a family of women and that's mainly how I relate to it, but sure. I wouldn't say I have strong opinions on straight relationships, more like opinions on gender roles and dynamics between men and women, which (as you can tell by how much I bring it up) has been important in my life

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