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~~jwb~~ · 07-13-2021, 01:17 AM

Is that the one who was soliciting donations via go fund me for his weed farm?

**Exo** · 07-13-2021, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by jwb

Is that the one who was soliciting donations via go fund me for his weed farm?

That's them.

**Marie Monday** · 07-13-2021, 06:31 AM

I'm so sorry. My condolences. Please don't be too hard on yourself, you don't deserve that at all.

Plankton · 07-13-2021, 06:50 AM

Condolences Exo.

WWWP · 07-13-2021, 08:21 AM

What?! Jenny?? But like, the farm?!? Omg no they were going to do such big things together

Poor Evan, my god.

Take care of yourself, Joe. Take time off work if you can. Allow yourself to feel the feelings - don’t try to avoid them, they always catch up with you, and lean on Dana for support. Let her take care of you. It’s ok to not know what to do. I’m so, so sorry, for your pain, and Evan’s, and Jenny’s. This is heartbreaking.

Always always always here for you if you need a distraction or a witness in cursing god’s name.

Maajo · 07-13-2021, 08:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Exo

My best friends girlfriend committed suicide last night.

I've known her five years. I lived with them in California in 2017. I'm in Maine right now, where they had just moved and bought a farm, trying desperately to console him. It's impossible. He finally fell asleep and I'm in a hotel room finally able to collect my thoughts enough and just realized that my friend is dead. I had been thinking of him the whole day, worried about him. I forgot about her. I didn't want to think about it because I needed to be here for him.

This is awful.

If you notice something is wrong with your friend. Talk to them. I saw the signs and didn't act quickly enough. We all knew something was up. It's too late.

This didn't need to happen. I still can't believe she's gone.

I'm sorry.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, man.

WWWP · 07-13-2021, 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by WWWP

What?! Jenny?? But like, the farm?!? Omg no they were going to do such big things together

Poor Evan, my god.

Take care of yourself, Joe. Take time off work if you can. Allow yourself to feel the feelings - don’t try to avoid them, they always catch up with you, and lean on Dana for support. Let her take care of you. It’s ok to not know what to do. I’m so, so sorry, for your pain, and Evan’s, and Jenny’s. This is heartbreaking.

Always always always here for you if you need a distraction or a witness in cursing god’s name.

I also think it’s important to keep in mind that as you get closer to popping the question it’ll likely feel weird to be happy and celebratory around Evan, but don’t feel like you need to protect him from it. No matter how much he is hurting he will still be happy for you and want to share in your joy - let him! It‘ll be healing for you both.

ribbons · 07-13-2021, 12:27 PM

Very sorry for the loss of your friend, Exo. Can't even imagine what you are going through and how difficult it is. Thinking of you, and wishing you comfort and strength during this awful time.

Trollheart · 07-13-2021, 08:16 PM

Jesus Christ, your year doesn't get better does it Exo? First the post with all that home stuff and now this. I know this puts the former firmly in the shade, but it's another straw on the camel's back isn't it? So sorry to hear about your loss; there's never anything good to say. Everything is going to sound trite and pointless. Hope you get through your grief, and like Steph says, you do have something to look forward to on the other side. Condolences. Can't really say anything more than that. Sorry, man, truly sorry.

**Exo** · 07-13-2021, 08:42 PM

Thanks everyone.

I just got back from Maine. Two 8 hour drives in 36 hours is rough.

Two of the tougher days of my life. There's a bigger story to this whole thing that actually makes things even more tragic but it's honestly just too complex to tell. The gist of the matter is that my friend Evan and his GF Jenny had hit some rough patches on the path towards moving from Santa Rosa to Maine. It culminated in them splitting up but trying to still make the farm work on a civil level. It was working out for two weeks after their separation but spiraled into the two of them sleeping in two different outbuildings. Evan found Jenny when she wasn't at her normal spot in the morning milking the goats.

Jenny was a sweet, kind, funny, down to earth farm girl who didn't deserve what happened to her. It wasn't my friends fault. It wasn't anyones fault. It's just tragic.

We packed things up at the farm today. Her car was there. The dogs were looking for her. We left her things for her family in California to collect. It wasn't fun. The whole situation sucked. I couldn't go in the house. The goats were yelling.

I don't think I'll ever forget the last two days. I miss my friend. He last text to me was wishing me happy birthday last week. I should have called her instead of just texting her back.

Thanks for all the thoughts. This is going to beat me up a while.

07-13-2021, 06:50 AM	#74074 (permalink)
Plankton Just Keep Swimming... Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: See signature... Posts: 7,765	Condolences Exo. __________________ See location...

07-13-2021, 08:16 PM	#74079 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,996	Jesus Christ, your year doesn't get better does it Exo? First the post with all that home stuff and now this. I know this puts the former firmly in the shade, but it's another straw on the camel's back isn't it? So sorry to hear about your loss; there's never anything good to say. Everything is going to sound trite and pointless. Hope you get through your grief, and like Steph says, you do have something to look forward to on the other side. Condolences. Can't really say anything more than that. Sorry, man, truly sorry. __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

07-13-2021, 08:42 PM	#74080 (permalink)
Exo All day jazz and biscuits Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 7,354	Thanks everyone. I just got back from Maine. Two 8 hour drives in 36 hours is rough. Two of the tougher days of my life. There's a bigger story to this whole thing that actually makes things even more tragic but it's honestly just too complex to tell. The gist of the matter is that my friend Evan and his GF Jenny had hit some rough patches on the path towards moving from Santa Rosa to Maine. It culminated in them splitting up but trying to still make the farm work on a civil level. It was working out for two weeks after their separation but spiraled into the two of them sleeping in two different outbuildings. Evan found Jenny when she wasn't at her normal spot in the morning milking the goats. Jenny was a sweet, kind, funny, down to earth farm girl who didn't deserve what happened to her. It wasn't my friends fault. It wasn't anyones fault. It's just tragic. We packed things up at the farm today. Her car was there. The dogs were looking for her. We left her things for her family in California to collect. It wasn't fun. The whole situation sucked. I couldn't go in the house. The goats were yelling. I don't think I'll ever forget the last two days. I miss my friend. He last text to me was wishing me happy birthday last week. I should have called her instead of just texting her back. Thanks for all the thoughts. This is going to beat me up a while. __________________ LastFM SUPREME POO BAH MODERATOR EXTRAORDINAIRE

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~~jwb~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Jul 2019 Posts: 4,403	Is that the one who was soliciting donations via go fund me for his weed farm?

07-13-2021, 12:27 PM	#74078 (permalink)
ribbons Music Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,265	Very sorry for the loss of your friend, Exo. Can't even imagine what you are going through and how difficult it is. Thinking of you, and wishing you comfort and strength during this awful time.