Lucem Ferre |
10-30-2020 11:08 AM |
IMO anybody can say what ever the **** they want and nobody gets to choose how you behave.
I don't think being the member of the group you're using a slur for makes you exempt from the consequences of the word.
With in context the word can be just as harmful from another person of the group as it is from an outsider.
Even in a better context not everybody is going to understand you're joking and I personally would rather not risk accidentally making somebody feel unwelcome based on something arbitrary like their race or sexuality. Even tolerant people can be bothered by it behind closed doors. The moment nobody has to question if I am low key a bigot I'll think about using slurs more freely.
I really don't think ranking slurs by levels of offensiveness makes sense. They are all meant to make somebody else feel like they are lesser than you for their race, gender or sexuality. The amount of history behind the N word compared to the F word isn't going to make a gay person feel better about being called it. Imagine that conversation. Explaining to a gay person they shouldn't be offended by being called a F because the history behind the word isn't as heavy as the N bomb.
I also am not one to lecture somebody on their decision to use these words. Completely your choice. Nobody gets to tell you what words you can and can't use just like nobody gets to tell you what you can and can't be offended by.
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