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The Batlord · 02-19-2018, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Chiomara

I mean, on one hand I can see how her reaction/the twitter reactions may seem over the top, but on the other hand, it's pretty clear to me that she likely had dealt with the sort of harassers who initially just compliment your appearance (which is all well and good if you're not overbearing) and then become increasingly hostile over the course of the night/try to follow you home/etc. So I imagine she's just a bit hypervigilant when it comes to unsolicited compliments on her appearance. (Because, again, it's not that it's terrible to call someone pretty-- it's just, well, if you've experienced someone stalking you/becoming progressively more overbearing and creepy after you didn't correctly respond to their drunken compliments, you tend to automatically recoil the next time it happens since there really is no way of knowing whether that one dude will be totally well-meaning and harmless or if they're going to become aggressive. So, I don't know, to me it's understandable. I've endured assault and lots of other awful things, yet I still try to be as friendly as humanly possible, and try not to assume the worst/accept compliments as graciously as I can. But that has backfired many, many times. Plenty of seemingly ~nice guys I've encountered have flipped in an instant and gotten scary and aggressive. So, I can't really fault someone for preferring to be more closed-off even if it seems rude at times.)

Yeah basically.

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

So you think she might have thought that JTF might get so carried away with his heckles that he might climb on stage and rape her?

I think more that he might have become a truly overbearing dick and past experiences might have... "triggered" her. I imagine that in context of a live gig where you're probably not going to have to worry as much about walking home and some guy following you, that it's more about some guy thinking that acquiescence to one jeer might invite greater jeers that have in the past become legit ****ery in no uncertain terms.

I understand your basic point, but come on, have you never been surprised by the things a person can say that really just piss you off?

**Janszoon** · 02-19-2018, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

I think more that he might have become a truly overbearing dick and past experiences might have... "triggered" her. I imagine that in context of a live gig where you're probably not going to have to worry as much about walking home and some guy following you, that it's more about some guy thinking that acquiescence to one jeer might invite greater jeers that have in the past become legit ****ery in no uncertain terms.

Also, the fact that it's her music that she's putting up there for public consumption, not her looks.

Oriphiel · 02-19-2018, 02:07 PM

*Burma forcefully and brutally exiles thousands of people*

OH: lol

*Musician gets sick of drunk jerk*

OH : THAT BITCH

Chiomara · 02-19-2018, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

So you think she might have thought that JTF might get so carried away with his heckles that he might climb on stage and rape her?

Re-read my post.

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

Yeah basically.

I think more that he might have become a truly overbearing dick and past experiences might have... "triggered" her. I imagine that in context of a live gig where you're probably not going to have to worry as much about walking home and some guy following you, that it's more about some guy thinking that acquiescence to one jeer might invite greater jeers that have in the past become legit ****ery in no uncertain terms.

I understand your basic point, but come on, have you never been surprised by the things a person can say that really just piss you off?

This. Certain types of comments that don't really have anything at all to do with whatever thing you're currently doing (if you're working or otherwise preoccupied) tend to be somewhat annoying, whether it's a drunk dude or a drunk aunt at a family gathering.

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Originally Posted by Justthefacts

See that guys actually creepy. He asked to rub her back, I would never do that. I have boundaries.

It seems every locale has its designated creepy back-rubber. (My high school had one. He didn't care if you were male or female. He'd appear suddenly in a long empty hallway and begin massaging your shoulders before you could even protest. They're like cryptids.)

Chula Vista · 02-19-2018, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

I think more that he might have become a truly overbearing dick and past experiences might have... "triggered" her.

Winner winner, chicken dinner.

Justthefacts · 02-19-2018, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon

You're not alone JTF: https://www.gigwise.com/reviews/100540/

See that guys actually creepy. He asked to rub her back, I would never do that. I have boundaries.

GunmouthGrace · 02-19-2018, 02:14 PM

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WWWP · 02-19-2018, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon

Also, the fact that it's her music that she's putting up there for public consumption, not her looks.

Mb has struggled with this concept historically

OccultHawk · 02-19-2018, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by wolverinewolfweiselpigeon

Mb has struggled with this concept historically

Lucem Ferre · 02-19-2018, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by wolverinewolfweiselpigeon

Mb has struggled with this concept historically

People in general have this problem.

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