Stephen

Yeah I'm guessing that arsehole won't be very convinced by nuance either.

djchameleon

The wronged party has a right to know but it isn't your duty to tell them.

The messenger always gets crucified.

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Chiomara

I would have to agree, yes. Straight people are weird and scary. It kind of unnerves me how quick people are to doxx someone, often without first double-checking the identity of the person in the picture within the story that's being circulated on facebook or tumblr or wherever in order to avoid accidentally crucifying the wrong person. (I've seen that happen a few times-- some random, innocent person's photo being used in a story or callout post that is, in fact, true, but has nothing to do with them. No idea how that happens, but it does.) That, and people lie, especially if they've just been rejected by their boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse and are not exactly a shining paragon of mental stability. When my sister and her first husband divorced, he invented all sorts of rather convincing lies about her, ones that cost her her job, and I imagine if they'd have been active on social media at the time, it could have been quite disastrous.

But as for the cheating thing. I do think they (friends and family) deserve to know, and in the case of someone you don't know too well but are friendly with and care about even slightly-- maybe they could be told anonymously somehow, but then, that probably wouldn't work out well. Especially if you don't know the cheater very well, either.. if they (the cheater) were at all abusive, being told by their partner that so-and-so told them they were cheating could result in them isolating them or worse. Abusive, controlling relationships are far more common than people realize which is why I think one should be careful unless you know both parties fairly well.

Oh and those 'bad feminist' accusations are so annoying aren't they? Every time I get that it's always coming from one of those types who subscribe to the idea that EVERYTHING a woman does is automatically ~empowering~ and ultra-feminist (without bothering to look at why she feels so compelled to do these things) even if it's actively harming herself or others + perpetuating the very things and unhealthy behaviors they claim to be against.

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grindy

If I found out a close person is being cheated on, I'd first talk to the cheater, urging them to come clean.

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Blue Hawk

Stop that gender bias bull****. In some situations, men are to blame. In some situations, women are to blame. Stop generalizing, you dunces.

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Trollheart

I don't see any post where a gender was mentioned/favoured over another. What are you talking about?

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Chiomara

Yeah, blue hawk, what are you talking about? I did not imply that one gender was more prone to cheating/lying/doxxing than another (notice I said "boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse"/"people lie" etc) aside from my one random example mentioning my sister.

There's also emotional cheating-- or close friendships which become vaguely romantic and very emotionally intimate yet not sexual, which some consider to be far worse than strictly physical cheating. Occasionally, I'll hear my neighbor's wife drunkenly screaming at him [and throwing things] late at night about some brief, long-distance Facebook tryst/friendship he had years and years ago. I worry about him sometimes. They both seem miserable.

Sometimes when I'm feeling bad about my most recent failed relationships, I read about one of the horrific soap opera-esque nightmare scenarios on r/Relationships for 5 minutes and feel grateful.

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Trollheart

Chio, I just realised how great your avvy is! If you keep looking at it sidelong while reading your posts, it's like the wolf is speaking!

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Blue Hawk

I'm drunk now. Btw, are you a woman?

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