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Originally Posted by WhateverDude
(Post 1609054)
Pretty sure everyone here who wears glasses needs them. Might as well look stylish. Association isn't the same thing as being something. And Roxy... if anything I pretend to be a hipster cuz I don't know wwhat else to look like.
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The way I see it, there are two basic options for those who do not have a strong sense for fashion:
A.) Commit to the standards of whatever crowd you choose, basically subverting your own preferences in order to blend in. This (probably) has the benefit of making yourself confident in social situations, since you won't stand out in any "negative" way, but also runs the risk personal devaluation, since you'll have to treat your own preferences as secondary.
For someone who isn't prone to self-esteem issues, this can be a perfectly rational choice, since going along with the crowd can have the benefit of social, and even economic mobility, depending on what group you choose to identify with (f.ex. dressing like your fellow lawyers if you want to join a law firm).
But since you do have self-esteem issues, and especially with your gender dysphoria, then you may be stuck with option B:
B.) Ignore outside influences as much as you're comfortable with, and rely on your personal taste. Since we're already excluding those who have a strong sense of fashion style, it's assumed that this will make someone with self-esteem issues (i.e. you) uncomfortable when out in public, since you will stand out, just by virtue of your outward difference. No getting around that.
Clearly this can be traumatic to at least some degree for someone whose fashion taste clashes not only with their peers' clothing norms, but their gender norms as well, but given time your skin will hopefully thicken, and you might even develop a sense of pride in your own fashion bravery. But you'll likely always be an outcast to some degree, even if you find others of like mind. It is what it is.
It would be easy for me to suggest option B, since that's pretty much what I do, but that choice is rather easy, since my fashion choices are guided largely by indifference, laziness, and nerdiness, rather than any actual individual fashion sense. Obviously that does not apply to you, at least not entirely.