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11-21-2014, 07:38 PM | #29401 (permalink) |
Dude... What?
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It's always difficult figuring out how to respond (if doing so is necessary or even desired) to a catharsis like what you just shared but you're a cool friend so I'll do muh bestest. I don't know too much about what's goin on in your life but what little I do know tells me you've had a very tough year (or maybe few years). It sounds like you're making the right decisions by seeing a psychiatrist and seeking company. And (in my experience, anyways) sometimes a little self-destructive behavior can expedite things. Sort of like rushing through all the negative feelings as opposed to drudging through them. But it's pretty easy to get carried away... so, you know, don't do that. Because we're all here for ya man and it would suck to see ya take darker paths, deceptively appealing as they might be. Getting to a more positive place in life takes work. Sometimes lots of it. You've got coworkers though- friends, family, etc and we're all here for ya to make sure the job ain't too tough on ya. If it't what you really want I'm more than positive you can get yourself to a place where dating this woman (or if the cards are right someone else who might be better for you) would be possible again.
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11-21-2014, 07:47 PM | #29402 (permalink) | |
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Like....I'm just f*cking spent. |
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11-21-2014, 07:58 PM | #29403 (permalink) |
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I can't relate exactly to what you're going through, Exo, but my dad suffers from depression (so do I, upon occasion - don't know if it'll get worse) and he's felt exactly the same way. Like, right down to walking for hours when he's depressed. Hope things get better.
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11-21-2014, 08:06 PM | #29404 (permalink) |
Dude... What?
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For mostly completely different reasons I understand how you feel and it's beyond unpleasant. But suicidal ideation is still nothing to sneeze at, even if you know you're not going to do it. I'm sure you know this but even just the urge or fantasy to do something so self destructive is enough to hinder your ability to progress.
You need some self-time. Your entire life for the passed few years has been devoted to others- it's even evidenced in your reasoning for choosing not to do something drastic to yourself. You need a break. You need something really positive and self-assuring to happen. You deserve it. Wish I could say I knew what that break could be but I can't. Sometimes things just fall into place. Sometimes you gotta nut the **** up and ****ing make that goddamn **** happen. You're unhappy with your job and that's totally fair. Worse yet it sounds like you're sorta stuck with it until you can sort yourself out financially. I'm all too familiar with being in that position and what I've found to help is overindulging in positive things that I enjoy. In your case I guess that would be film. Maybe take a film class or something on a day off. Even if it's redundant (I can't remember if you ever "officially" studied film) it'll keep your mind occupied on things that don't bother you. Alternatively, try something new. Pick up an instrument you've never played before. Taking some cooking classes. ****, if money is so much of an issue put it on a credit card. You're going to get better. You're going to be in a place where you're not only happy but you're also able to take care of things like that.
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11-21-2014, 08:18 PM | #29405 (permalink) | |
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It hurts more than anything when someone you really trust and rely on to get you through the pain suddenly decides you're not "sick" enough for them to care about. You're hurting so much, you need their support, but they're too caught up in how "negative" you are, or how your illness makes them feel. They act as if you chose to be ill, as if you enjoy trudging through every fucking day with your brain throwing a ton of bullshit at you every second. It fucking blows feeling like the people you're close to don't love you enough to care for you in your hours of need. It sucks when all your mind wants to do is cry all night - it's even worse when there's people around you that are a little more stable than you are, rolling their eyes or sniping at you for the noise you're making. Mental illness is a real illness that has devastating, debilitating effects. Does winter seem to be a more difficult time for you? Personally, winter devours me...
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11-21-2014, 08:19 PM | #29406 (permalink) | |
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"Your friend and family are important. You're more important though. You have to take care of yourself first." I didn't post it because I haven't been taking that advice lately. My father literally tells me every single time I visit, which is once a week, that I'm the only thing keeping him together. That's a lot of responsibility man. I need a f*cking break as you say. My photography has taken a seat. I started to paint but that has ceased for the time being. Hell, I don't even have the motivation to see films or even write about them. I've only posted in my blog once since Halloween. I need something to happen fast. |
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11-21-2014, 08:19 PM | #29407 (permalink) |
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Exo, (at times like this I hate not knowing real names)
Two months ago I was ready to blow my brains out. My wife took my son and two dogs to a motel for a couple of days because she was afraid for them to be at home with me and the gun we have. I'd researched it and was ready - we'd renewed life insurance policies a while back and I wanted to be sure of the suicide clauses. I sat in a chair with the gun in my hand thinking about why I shouldn't. I came very very close. Fortunately my wife reached out to my two sisters back east and a semi-family intervention took place. What a dick I would have been to have done it. Shoot me a PM if you want to talk. We can exchange phone #s. I've been where you're hanging. I know exactly what you're feeling. Let me help.
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11-21-2014, 08:23 PM | #29408 (permalink) | |
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Is this an excuse? Probably. I just don't blame her for anything. She's actually tried to help me the most out of everyone. She suggested I see a therapist. I think she just came to a wall and she reacted badly. I can't fault her for that. |
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11-21-2014, 08:27 PM | #29409 (permalink) | |
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So far you and Frown have reached out to me and I can't thank you two enough. I'll say this to both of you. I'm okay. I'm going to be okay. In the event I'm not, I'll certainly reach out to two people who are obviously good enough to help somebody who they have never met before. I don't want to make little of my post. I meant everything I said, but if you guys are worried about my state of mine right now. Don't. I swear I have no intent to do anything that will harm myself. I'm just wrestling with some seriously bad vibes right now. My name is Joe by the way. |
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11-21-2014, 08:28 PM | #29410 (permalink) | |
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