Ofcourse I get offered by friends, but I'd hate to accept a drink and not be able to return the favour. I don't get much guys buying me drinks unless I already know them. I don't think a stranger has ever bought me a drink tbh. Maybe I'm just hacket... Hah.

I have been told that if I go to Germany in 3 weeks time for 5 days then the relationship is over. Oddly enough I was thinking that if I DIDN'T get to Germany to clear my head then it is all over.

What a cluster**** of an impasse.

Love my kids to bits but if I didn't have them then this would be such an easy decision.

If I don't go then I will be full of resentment as it will probably my only chance of seeing Iron Maiden live in my lifetime (they are the reason I got into music in the first place) but if I go then I am seen by everyone else (other than myself) for being selfish.

What is twisted irony is that the trip hasn't been paid for by myself so I am not taking resources from my family but I could possibly lose my best friend who I have known longer than my own family because we have been waiting for this for years.

Family should always come first but this trip is a dream for me too. I HAVE to see Maiden before they retire and I have never seen them. It's like a holy grail to me.

Another irony is that we are not even married.

I feel such a pathetic moaning bastard about this considering all the ills of the world :(

I don't personally know you, so I can't very well tell you what to do. But for me, losing my family was the worst, most excruciating thing that has ever happened to me. You only get one life though, and it is yours to do with as you please.

I get where you are coming from and it would **** me up but I would be staying to make someone else happy and not myself and the anger inside would really get to me as I am not happy with the relationship anymore.

It seems like whatever decision I make will hurt many people.

Is there any legitimate justification for her not wanting you to go? Is she unable to be reasoned with?

Lee, she is a cold fucking bitch and you deserve to be happy.

You won't be letting your kids down. Do this for you.

I was made redundant a few months ago and have been unable to find work. On top of that I have 2 sons having to share a room which is causing major problems.

They are 17 and 12 respectively and they need their own space desperately but having no job means they have to continue sharing so by going away it seems like I am ignoring these problems.

Why should I have fun for a few days whilst all this is going on? I see both arguments but this is ultimately a crossroads for many other problems that have been bubbling under over the past couple of years.

It is basically **** or bust and all down to me to decide what way to take it.

Sounds a bit like my life. My wife is divorcing me because I lost my job. I guess the difference is that she made the decision in my case, and you get to make the decision in yours.

I remember you said you worked at a juice bar. Why'd don't you work there anymore? Just curious

we are gonna have our team bonding tonight at a nearby music lounge and the organizers said that there's some sort of price for the best dressed. i came right now into the office wearing a pink long-sleeved polo with some floral designs and girl you bet everyone said, 'you're in it to win it!'