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s_k · 03-23-2011, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

I meant the ball thing more as a representation of them figuratively belonging to someone else, or not doing you any good to begin with. It's a comment toward the atypical attitude you have as a male, which should be evident by the comments many here have said, regarding your relationship with your ex girlfriend, and women in general.

I dunno. I won't deny doing something extra for a girl now and then hoping to score at some point (and I mean scoring as in friends with benefits or a relationship, whatever). I'm pretty male when it comes to that. But the typical male/female negativity amongst sexes is indeed not my style. I like my friends, both male and female. Why should I join in on talking negatively about women? My experience is just different

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I'm not saying you should beat your chest and claim the Jane prize or anything... just making an observation that you come off as the kind of guy that would be having a sleepover with the girls, and giggling with them while gossiping about the guys.

Anything except the giggling and the gossiping, yeah. I have had sleepovers with girls without trying anything. Even after I told them I'd **** them if I could.
I can honestly say I have no female friend I wouldn't have sex with, given the opportunity. But I can be friends with girls

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It's just a choice. I should say that patience often really works. You still are 'boy and girl', there will be a spark at some time. I'm not sure why, but it just happens. There is always a point in time in which you say 'hey... I might like you a bit more than I thought before'. And I don't mind being friend until that happens. I don't mind being friends if it never happens either.

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I imagine girls seeing you as nothing more than "a friend", simply because that's the only attitude you ever give them.

Haha, no wait, you may be missing something here.
I am really careful with what I say here because I know that, because of the language barrier, things can come over all freaky. I don't want that.
But I make very clear to the girls I know in person how much I like them and I must say it does pay off. I may not be the 'slutty' type, but I do get my chances

. I don't take them all, though. That's something different. Eitherway, I do sex talk, girls know I hit on them and sometimes (rather often, actually) it's mutual. I don't really see how or why.
I somehow manage to stay on that thin line between friends zone and friends with benefits or a relationship. I'm not sure how I do that. But I'm sure as hell not going to change it.

I do choose friendship over sex, yes. But sometimes the two combine neatly

~~Dirty~~ · 03-23-2011, 08:51 PM

s_k....bro..... im not jumping in on this discussion but i just wanna say STOP TALKING ABOUT THE LANGUAGE BARRIER because you type fine and nobody would realize you were from the netherlands if you didn't make it known. You speak better english than i do for gods sake

crukster · 03-23-2011, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

I imagine girls seeing you as nothing more than "a friend", simply because that's the only attitude you ever give them.

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Originally Posted by s_k

Haha, no wait, you may be missing something here.
I am really careful with what I say here because I know that, because of the language barrier, things can come over all freaky. I don't want that.
But I make very clear to the girls I know in person how much I like them and I must say it does pay off. I may not be the 'slutty' type, but I do get my chances . I don't take them all, though. That's something different.
I somehow manage to stay on that thin line between friends zone and friends with benefits or a relationship. I'm not sure how I do that. But I'm sure as hell not going to change it.

I do choose friendship over sex, yes. But sometimes the two combine neatly

That's a difficult balance to hold, kudos if you've got it down man. I think it is still possible to be an old fashioned "gent" and have respect for women without becoming their gal pal. But it's tough like I said, that's just the way the World is today, people in general are too often looking for a way to screw over anyone with noble intentions, in my experience. Nice guys finish last -you've gotta be a bit of a bastard to get anywhere.

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Originally Posted by Dirty

s_k....bro..... im not jumping in on this discussion but i just wanna say STOP TALKING ABOUT THE LANGUAGE BARRIER because you type fine and nobody would realize you were from the netherlands if you didn't make it known. You speak better english than i do for gods sake

lol I thought s_k was from Australia or something

s_k · 03-23-2011, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Dirty

s_k....bro..... im not jumping in on this discussion but i just wanna say STOP TALKING ABOUT THE LANGUAGE BARRIER because you type fine and nobody would realize you were from the netherlands if you didn't make it known. You speak better english than i do for gods sake

Haha, I may, but that's because I leave out an awful lot.
It is a barrier, only I am very good at hiding it, apparently.

Howard the Duck · 03-23-2011, 08:54 PM

Wham bam amsterdam!

s_k · 03-23-2011, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by crukster

That's a difficult balance to hold, kudos if you've got it down man.

Yeah sure, no prob. Have been doing this for years.
At first even I thought I was ****ing up because I would get into the friends zone all the time. But then it turned out I never really do. Yeah I do, but at the same time girls somehow do get attracted to me. It's really strange as I don't see why

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I think it's possible to still be an old fashioned "gent" and have respect for women without becoming their gal pal. But it's tough like I said, that's just the way the World is today, people in general are too often looking for a way to screw over anyone with noble intentions, in my experience. Nice guys finish last -you've gotta be a bit of a bastard to get anywhere.

Well some people sure think I am. I may be, I'm not sure.
I never have bad intentions I guess.
I should probably point out that I'm not getting anywhere on any other matter. It's just with girls that I seem to be getting along.

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lol I thought s_k was from Australia or something

Most people think I'm from Scandinavia.
I live in the town of Susteren, the Netherlands.

s_k · 03-23-2011, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Il Duce

Wham bam amsterdam!

That's where I was born.

Howard the Duck · 03-23-2011, 08:56 PM

coolio!

crukster · 03-23-2011, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by s_k

Yeah sure, no prob. Have been doing this for years.
At first even I thought I was ****ing up because I would get into the friends zone all the time. But then it turned out I never really do. Yeah I do, but at the same time girls somehow do get attracted to me. It's really strange as I don't see why

Yeah that is a weird place man tbh I get there a lot too. It's not dating but it's not quite "just friends" zone either. If you don't lose it and do something crazy it usually turns into something more down the line.

s_k · 03-23-2011, 09:03 PM

Nice city. But I'm not the City type

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~~Dirty~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: USA Posts: 981	s_k....bro..... im not jumping in on this discussion but i just wanna say STOP TALKING ABOUT THE LANGUAGE BARRIER because you type fine and nobody would realize you were from the netherlands if you didn't make it known. You speak better english than i do for gods sake

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