The Support and Encouragement Thread

Trollheart · 05-17-2015, 05:43 PM

I'd also just like to point out that this is the only time I can remember when a member pursued another member into another thread to harangue them and carry on an argument. It's sad to see that Soulflower had no intention of offering support or encouragement here; her only reason for coming into the thread was to denigrate it and me, and carry on her personal feud with me. Instead of taking her grievances to PM where we could have discussed this as adults (maybe) she chose to spew vitriol all over a thread that had been created for the express purpose of being drama free. Hoping to get everyone to side against me (which nobody did, as after all I did nothing to be censured for, other than insult her which I have apologised for and which was only the one instance) she quickly lost it when nobody would agree with her and in the process made more enemies. Deja vu?

Whatever her problems with me, I think it was wrong to enter a thread for no other reason than to carry on a rant she had already been having in the thread concerned. In so doing, she managed to derail and bring down two separate threads, possibly a new record.

And what, in the end, did it achieve?

fiddler · 05-17-2015, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

I'd also just like to point out that this is the only time I can remember when a member pursued another member into another thread to harangue them and carry on an argument. It's sad to see that Soulflower had no intention of offering support or encouragement here; her only reason for coming into the thread was to denigrate it and me, and carry on her personal feud with me. Instead of taking her grievances to PM where we could have discussed this as adults (maybe) she chose to spew vitriol all over a thread that had been created for the express purpose of being drama free. Hoping to get everyone to side against me (which nobody did, as after all I did nothing to be censured for, other than insult her which I have apologised for and which was only the one instance) she quickly lost it when nobody would agree with her and in the process made more enemies. Deja vu?

Whatever her problems with me, I think it was wrong to enter a thread for no other reason than to carry on a rant she had already been having in the thread concerned. In so doing, she managed to derail and bring down two separate threads, possibly a new record.

And what, in the end, did it achieve?

Dude, enough, just drop it.

@Plankton get that checked and let us know. Thoughts with ya.

Lisnaholic · 05-17-2015, 06:37 PM

Try not to worry, Plankton.
Get it checked out, but in your head you should adopt a policy of "innocent until proven guilty" as these things are often less of a problema than we imagine. A relative of mine recently had a skin tumor removed, but with a biopsy verdict of benign, it has only been a minor inconvenience. Hoping the same for you, my friend.

RoxyRollah · 05-17-2015, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Plankton

I have a problem I'd like to vent a bit. I need to see a doctor about my elbow, which I've mentioned here, but there is one other thing that scares the living **** out of me. I have two lesions on my leg that look like beginning stages of cancer. I haven't told anybody about it. They've been there for a couple months, and they're getting worse. I've tried peroxide on them and they bubble up a bit, but it doesn't seem to help. My Dad went through chemo for two kinds of cancer (skin and colon) and is still kicking, but that's what frightens me. I watched as my ex-GF went through chemo treatments, and it's absolutely draining. Emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Is it cancer? Is it just some strange rash? I need to sign up for insurance, and make an appointment, and I'm legitimately fearing for my life everyday, and I try not to think about it. It makes me angry, sad, scared, weak, and confused. I want to be at peace again.

I love you brother.

GET YO MOTHA****IN ASS TO THE DOCTOR.

Im here if you need.

The Batlord · 05-17-2015, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Plankton

I have a problem I'd like to vent a bit. I need to see a doctor about my elbow, which I've mentioned here, but there is one other thing that scares the living **** out of me. I have two lesions on my leg that look like beginning stages of cancer. I haven't told anybody about it. They've been there for a couple months, and they're getting worse. I've tried peroxide on them and they bubble up a bit, but it doesn't seem to help. My Dad went through chemo for two kinds of cancer (skin and colon) and is still kicking, but that's what frightens me. I watched as my ex-GF went through chemo treatments, and it's absolutely draining. Emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Is it cancer? Is it just some strange rash? I need to sign up for insurance, and make an appointment, and I'm legitimately fearing for my life everyday, and I try not to think about it. It makes me angry, sad, scared, weak, and confused. I want to be at peace again.

**** cancer. I have nothing much better to say than that. Good luck.

Trollheart · 05-17-2015, 08:09 PM

We're all going to be waiting. And hoping. No, you're going to be alright. We'll be waiting. With cake.

The Batlord · 05-17-2015, 08:11 PM

I just PMed Vanilla, and she promised to post nudes when your tests come back negative.

Chula Vista · 05-17-2015, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

I just PMed Vanilla, and she promised to post nudes when your tests come back negative.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 05-17-2015, 08:52 PM

Planky baby, please let us know how the doctor's visit goes. I am praying for it to not be cancer.

So. Where do I start. I was diagnosed with Endometrosis 3 years ago. I was having extremely painful periods which took me out of school every month. When I got to 18 the pain was so bad that I had to go on the pill. It helped reduce the pain but the pain was still difficult to deal with. By then I was on regular codeine whenever I had my period. It got even more frequent. By 20 I had pain every two weeks. By 21 I was having cysts that were exploding on my right ovary and had to go to hospital. My friend/neighbour said that it could be Endometriosis as her friend had it. That was the first time I'd ever heard of the condition. Also at 21 I was having regular constipation, diarrhoea, stomach pain, bloating which was diagnosed as Irritable Bowel Syndrome. I was also taking codeine daily now and not just for pain because I had become hooked on it. It gave me a sense of calm, took away pain and gave me a high. It took away all the emotions I was feeling about my health issues. By the time I moved to Christchurch I was taking much higher doses of codeine. Before I had stuck to the limit but now was tolerant and had to take more to achieve the high and help the pain. I went through the two terrible earthquakes that killed 160 people. I could have died that day but through luck, didn't go out right before it happened because a friend Skyped me. I had PTSD following the quakes and had moved to Auckland. I hid the codeine addiction from my parents and used up all their supplied without them realising it was me. I was shopping at multiple pharmacies and having near overdoses from having too much panadol combined with the codeine (vomiting a lot). I had a time where I had another cyst burst and my parents were frustrated with me always having health issues, always in pain or getting bowel problems. They didn't understand how a 24-25 year old could have so many problems. I managed to get back to working, moved out and over the next 2 years had 12 or so hospital visits, 50 or more doctors visits. I kept having ruptured cysts, pain flare ups and cyclic/daily pain. I finally got seen by specialists who arranged for me to have a surgery after I had a surgery to remove my appendix. I kept going back to hospital and the date for the surgery was put closer and closer as the realised how desperate it was to get me some relief. On the 16th of April 2012 I had a surgery and was officially diagnosed with Endometriosis (a mirena/IUD was also put in). I was on huge amounts of codeine and tramadol as well as being on prozac. Because the seritonine was so high, I had a seizure. I admited how much I took and was slowly reduced off codiene and referred to the community alcohol and drug service (cads). I wasn't ready to let go of my addiction or medication and when I went on suboxone to counter the codeine I chose to go off it after just 6 months. I went straight back on codeine and was taking 25 tablets a day. I was also diagnosed with Chronic Pain Syndrome, my brain was programmed to be in pain. My spine took daily bodily motions and told my brain it was painful. By 2013 I was still going back to hospital for more pain flare ups and cysts and although I had a break between pain during that year and 2014, I was back into the daily or regular pain problems. By February 2013 I was taking 30-40 tablets of Nurofen Plus a day and knew I needed help. I called cads and went back on suboxone to stop me from taking it and killing my urges. I've been on it every since. I asked my gynocologyst to do a surgery again as I believe the Endometriosis had grown back (hence, it's like a weed and so far incurable). February 25, 2015, I had a surgery, was given a epidural for when I woke up so I wouldn't be in pain. No Endo was seen, but when the sample of scarring and tissue was taking to the lab it was indeed Endo after all. The surgeons had made a hole in my uterus and couldn't put the mirena (IUD) in because of that so I had a smaller surgery on 22nd of April. I woke up in such terrible pain the doctor gave me IV ketamine. Since the surgery I had bleed non stop for 3 weeks and had intermittent pain. My doctor and the cads doctor think it's my Chronic Pain Syndrome (CPS) causing the issues. But there is more problems, I got extremely painful periods after the first surgery, which are meant to be caused by Endometriosis. The thing is, the Endo had been removed. Something else might be causing it. Or maybe it's just CPS. It's so hard because I never know for sure what is wrong.

Now there's also another issue, every time I am in the hospital for more than one day the Pain Team see me. One lady in particular accused me of being a drug seeker (which wasn't true), refused to help me and sent me back to cads. They are so reluctant to treat my very real pain because they think I'm still drug seeking. I never seeked drugs from doctors ever, it was always pharmacies. It is so hard as a recovering addict to receive adequate treatment of my pain. Even after my first surgery this year they pain team didn't give me enough of tablet morphine so I had to wait an hour before I could see a doctor (turned out to be an Anaesthetist) to prescribe me the painkiller every half and hour. An hour in excruciating pain can seem like hours and hours.

What I struggle with today is getting back to work. I did a internship in January (picked as the top person in my school for it) but haven't worked since. I'm still dealing with terrible pain and am on such a low benefit that I'm borrowing money from people to get enough food. I am dying to work again but can only do about 10 hours, can't do any jobs that require standing as I get back pain if I stand without moving constantly for 10 minutes. 10 hour jobs are hard to come by. I just want a normal life. People and employers DO NOT GIVE A **** about me or anyone else that deals with health issues. They will not do anything to assist me while I work for them. I am teaching myself c# while I wait so I can start building software (so far I only know Java) as I want to do a project and get myself with an IT company so I can work from home and at an office.

If anyone has any ideas about more ways to help me manage my pain and things I can do to help my work situation I'd really appreciate it. I wanted to share my plight so you can not judge someone who looks like they are physically healthy but really aren't. People are so quick to think you are a hypochondriac if you don't look sick.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 05-17-2015, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

I just PMed Vanilla, and she promised to post nudes when your tests come back negative.

05-17-2015, 05:43 PM	#81 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,994	I'd also just like to point out that this is the only time I can remember when a member pursued another member into another thread to harangue them and carry on an argument. It's sad to see that Soulflower had no intention of offering support or encouragement here; her only reason for coming into the thread was to denigrate it and me, and carry on her personal feud with me. Instead of taking her grievances to PM where we could have discussed this as adults (maybe) she chose to spew vitriol all over a thread that had been created for the express purpose of being drama free. Hoping to get everyone to side against me (which nobody did, as after all I did nothing to be censured for, other than insult her which I have apologised for and which was only the one instance) she quickly lost it when nobody would agree with her and in the process made more enemies. Deja vu? Whatever her problems with me, I think it was wrong to enter a thread for no other reason than to carry on a rant she had already been having in the thread concerned. In so doing, she managed to derail and bring down two separate threads, possibly a new record. And what, in the end, did it achieve? __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

05-17-2015, 06:37 PM	#83 (permalink)
Lisnaholic ...here to hear... Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: He lives on Love Street Posts: 4,444	Try not to worry, Plankton. Get it checked out, but in your head you should adopt a policy of "innocent until proven guilty" as these things are often less of a problema than we imagine. A relative of mine recently had a skin tumor removed, but with a biopsy verdict of benign, it has only been a minor inconvenience. Hoping the same for you, my friend. __________________ "Am I enjoying this moment? I know of it and perhaps that is enough." - Sybille Bedford, 1953

05-17-2015, 08:09 PM	#86 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,994	We're all going to be waiting. And hoping. No, you're going to be alright. We'll be waiting. With cake. __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

05-17-2015, 08:52 PM	#89 (permalink)
Scarlett O'Hara Make it so Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 6,181	Planky baby, please let us know how the doctor's visit goes. I am praying for it to not be cancer. So. Where do I start. I was diagnosed with Endometrosis 3 years ago. I was having extremely painful periods which took me out of school every month. When I got to 18 the pain was so bad that I had to go on the pill. It helped reduce the pain but the pain was still difficult to deal with. By then I was on regular codeine whenever I had my period. It got even more frequent. By 20 I had pain every two weeks. By 21 I was having cysts that were exploding on my right ovary and had to go to hospital. My friend/neighbour said that it could be Endometriosis as her friend had it. That was the first time I'd ever heard of the condition. Also at 21 I was having regular constipation, diarrhoea, stomach pain, bloating which was diagnosed as Irritable Bowel Syndrome. I was also taking codeine daily now and not just for pain because I had become hooked on it. It gave me a sense of calm, took away pain and gave me a high. It took away all the emotions I was feeling about my health issues. By the time I moved to Christchurch I was taking much higher doses of codeine. Before I had stuck to the limit but now was tolerant and had to take more to achieve the high and help the pain. I went through the two terrible earthquakes that killed 160 people. I could have died that day but through luck, didn't go out right before it happened because a friend Skyped me. I had PTSD following the quakes and had moved to Auckland. I hid the codeine addiction from my parents and used up all their supplied without them realising it was me. I was shopping at multiple pharmacies and having near overdoses from having too much panadol combined with the codeine (vomiting a lot). I had a time where I had another cyst burst and my parents were frustrated with me always having health issues, always in pain or getting bowel problems. They didn't understand how a 24-25 year old could have so many problems. I managed to get back to working, moved out and over the next 2 years had 12 or so hospital visits, 50 or more doctors visits. I kept having ruptured cysts, pain flare ups and cyclic/daily pain. I finally got seen by specialists who arranged for me to have a surgery after I had a surgery to remove my appendix. I kept going back to hospital and the date for the surgery was put closer and closer as the realised how desperate it was to get me some relief. On the 16th of April 2012 I had a surgery and was officially diagnosed with Endometriosis (a mirena/IUD was also put in). I was on huge amounts of codeine and tramadol as well as being on prozac. Because the seritonine was so high, I had a seizure. I admited how much I took and was slowly reduced off codiene and referred to the community alcohol and drug service (cads). I wasn't ready to let go of my addiction or medication and when I went on suboxone to counter the codeine I chose to go off it after just 6 months. I went straight back on codeine and was taking 25 tablets a day. I was also diagnosed with Chronic Pain Syndrome, my brain was programmed to be in pain. My spine took daily bodily motions and told my brain it was painful. By 2013 I was still going back to hospital for more pain flare ups and cysts and although I had a break between pain during that year and 2014, I was back into the daily or regular pain problems. By February 2013 I was taking 30-40 tablets of Nurofen Plus a day and knew I needed help. I called cads and went back on suboxone to stop me from taking it and killing my urges. I've been on it every since. I asked my gynocologyst to do a surgery again as I believe the Endometriosis had grown back (hence, it's like a weed and so far incurable). February 25, 2015, I had a surgery, was given a epidural for when I woke up so I wouldn't be in pain. No Endo was seen, but when the sample of scarring and tissue was taking to the lab it was indeed Endo after all. The surgeons had made a hole in my uterus and couldn't put the mirena (IUD) in because of that so I had a smaller surgery on 22nd of April. I woke up in such terrible pain the doctor gave me IV ketamine. Since the surgery I had bleed non stop for 3 weeks and had intermittent pain. My doctor and the cads doctor think it's my Chronic Pain Syndrome (CPS) causing the issues. But there is more problems, I got extremely painful periods after the first surgery, which are meant to be caused by Endometriosis. The thing is, the Endo had been removed. Something else might be causing it. Or maybe it's just CPS. It's so hard because I never know for sure what is wrong. Now there's also another issue, every time I am in the hospital for more than one day the Pain Team see me. One lady in particular accused me of being a drug seeker (which wasn't true), refused to help me and sent me back to cads. They are so reluctant to treat my very real pain because they think I'm still drug seeking. I never seeked drugs from doctors ever, it was always pharmacies. It is so hard as a recovering addict to receive adequate treatment of my pain. Even after my first surgery this year they pain team didn't give me enough of tablet morphine so I had to wait an hour before I could see a doctor (turned out to be an Anaesthetist) to prescribe me the painkiller every half and hour. An hour in excruciating pain can seem like hours and hours. What I struggle with today is getting back to work. I did a internship in January (picked as the top person in my school for it) but haven't worked since. I'm still dealing with terrible pain and am on such a low benefit that I'm borrowing money from people to get enough food. I am dying to work again but can only do about 10 hours, can't do any jobs that require standing as I get back pain if I stand without moving constantly for 10 minutes. 10 hour jobs are hard to come by. I just want a normal life. People and employers DO NOT GIVE A **** about me or anyone else that deals with health issues. They will not do anything to assist me while I work for them. I am teaching myself c# while I wait so I can start building software (so far I only know Java) as I want to do a project and get myself with an IT company so I can work from home and at an office. If anyone has any ideas about more ways to help me manage my pain and things I can do to help my work situation I'd really appreciate it. I wanted to share my plight so you can not judge someone who looks like they are physically healthy but really aren't. People are so quick to think you are a hypochondriac if you don't look sick. __________________ "Elph is truly an enfant terrible of the forum, bless and curse him" - Marie, Queen of Thots