i dunno, i had one long relationship (14 months) then after that i just got all wierd. like i want to be able to be with a guy for a long time again, but then i'm always thinking of how screwed up things get when you break up with someone you've been with for a while.

true.. i don't think i can ever see myself breaking up with my boyfriend...10 months is a long time for me, considering my longest before was 3 months. lol so, i really can't see myself being with anyone else.

if he ever talked about my bestfriend in a bad way, slap across his face. haha just kidding, but yea... he would definately never talk about my best friend after i was done with him. looool.

harsh...man women are cruel...

haha.. that last part i was just kidding. ;) i think.

haha, you think? i think the biggest turnoffs for me in a guy are
#1: insecure/untrusting for absolutely no reason whatsoever
tied for #1: guys who cheat
#2: guys who have no sense of humor

I think those are big issues for most women. Guys got to remember not to be jealous and insecure.

oh man.. no sense of humor KILLS me.
and definately insecurity and untrusting for no reason. i don't see how you could be in a relationship with someone else when you're not even secure about yourself.
i don't like short tempered guys either. or impatient.

ya, guys with tempers get annoying. even when its never directed at me, i just feel like saying "my god, calm down will you?"

But to be fair there are plenty of girls with huge tempers too!

yes, VERY true. although part of that could be PMS. but then alot of girls are just like that constantly, so theres really no excuse except that they're just bitchy.

Im jealous as hell and insecure after my last girl cheated on me bad...but i hide it...i dont let her know.

tsk tsk.. hiding things aren't good.. eventually it'll have you so paranoid you won't know what to do with yourself.. i think you should talk to her about it. you deserve to know the truth-whatever it may be.

I tend to disagree with that. Yeah, I agree with you that an open relationship is key to making it last. As for jealousy I think a lot of times it's better to keep it in for a bit. I think I'm a very jealous person by nature BUT give off the appearance of the easy going. (You'll have to ask a former or current gf to see how true that is.) Most times when I'm jealous I keep it to myself and sooner or later I realize I was over reacting.

Jealousy is a double edged sword. Shows you can touch someone enough that they care that much about you when they think they might lose you. It also shows that they think you are that desirable (to others). The downside to that is that it also causes unnecessary fights. A simple "honey can we talk..." can sometimes get a reaction "wtf are thinking?! you don't trust me!" and then the avalanche begins and you're without skis...

So yeah, voice your concerns if it's a problem... but take some time to feel out if it's a problem or your own insecurities.

Exactly.

that's true. but if like... if he doesn't trust her and it happens over and over again, i think i would at least bring something up on either how the other person feels about me or how i am feeling.

i do agree though that it's a double edged sword.
i think jealousy is natural though, to an extent. so i'm not saying once you feel jealous go right away and confront her. and blah blah i agree basically.

ya, seriously its amazing how many relationships end because of jealosy on someone's part. personally, a little jealosy is cool, shows the guy cares, like if i told a guy that i was gonna be skiing with a guy friend all weekend, ans he was like "ya whatever" i'd kinda wonder what was going on there. but when it gets too much i just can't deal with it.

yea too much becomes hard to deal with, frustrating, and stressful sometimes.

Yeah definitely, but working on building trust I guess is just part of staying committed to a relationship. It does get hard... especially when the person on the jealous side has been taken advantage of by previously loves but if you really love someone you really just need to stick with it.

That doesn't mean you just love blindly. There is a point where you have to accept the fact that the other person just will never trust you and that's when you have to think about moving on... cuz nothing after that epiphany is gonna get any better...

Very Nice points DJ

agreeeed