Hey, is anyone else married here?

Key · 05-02-2015, 10:48 AM

I'm not into the whole idea of it at all. I also don't like the thought that if you don't want to get married, that means you don't love the person or you don't think you'll be with them forever. Honestly, I'm happy with how my life is right now, and I don't really see any reason to change anything in it. And I don't think i'll change my mind about it any time in the near or far future.

Carpe Mortem · 05-02-2015, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by tore

It was? That could be true, but really - there are so many marriage customs going back so far in time, it's impossible to know for sure if any religion can really claim ownership over it. Different cultures and religions have different marriage customs, but of course we didn't do our marriage according to them anyways.

I think marriage, the solidifying of union between two lovers, is popular for a reason and I think it has little to do with religion, actually. I believe it is competitive as a meme (meme theory) and as a strategy because of various reasons. Like it facilitates cooperation in raising children, it caters to people's possessive feelings (you don't want to share your partner) and it helps keep cooperative couples and families together.

These are just a few points and I'm obviously just scratching a surface, but I imagine that if a society didn't have marriage, that society would probably become more competitive once marriage did evolve in culture and became popular. More incentive for people to cooperate about raising kids and building value to their lives would have a multitude of consequences.

As for personal feelings about it, I didn't feel a loss of freedom when we married. Being a husband is pretty much like being a boyfriend I'd say. We have two incomes instead of one, so that gives us way more economic freedom. We both "dare" to invest in things like a house partly because the other can't just run away from it all. Unless you'd rather be with someone else than your wife/husband, the real "loss" of freedom comes with children.

Chill out dude, I'm not knocking you or anyone else for being married. Just pointing out my specific reasons for not wanting to as a weirdo who selfishly likes her **** to belong to her alone. I'm happy for you that its obviously something you wanted and cherish.

Carpe Mortem · 05-02-2015, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Ki

I'm not into the whole idea of it at all. I also don't like the thought that if you don't want to get married, that means you don't love the person or you don't think you'll be with them forever. Honestly, I'm happy with how my life is right now, and I don't really see any reason to change anything in it. And I don't think i'll change my mind about it any time in the near or far future.

Amen Ki. I don't see how marriage would change my relationship for the better or the worse, we're already fully committed and very much in love.

Chula Vista · 05-02-2015, 11:01 AM

Ki and Carpe. It's all cool. To be 100% honest, if not for us getting pregnant we may have never done it.

I firmly believe that once a kid enters the mix though, it's the right thing to do.

Key · 05-02-2015, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Chula Vista

I firmly believe that once a kid enters the mix though, it's the right thing to do.

I can respect that. I won't ever have to worry about that though since i'd rather chop my own dick off than ever have a kid. I have a kitten, and that's all I will ever need.

innerspaceboy · 05-02-2015, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Burning Down

Awesome! How long have you been together?

Just two years this August. We moved in together after the first 6 months and have never in any of our past long-term relationships been more sure that we're right for each other.

We each suffered incredible emotional and psychological trials in our respective youths, we are both avid writers, rational skeptics, cultural historians, lovers of the arts and lifelong students of music. Our eccentric wit is well-matched, we have our own language of obscure sub-cultural references, we share a passion for anti-authoritarian philosophies and penchant for the avant-garde, and we inspire the best in one another. Oh yeah, and that whole love thing as well.

I spun Metal Machine Music on our first date and knew from her reaction that it was love at first-listen.

YorkeDaddy · 05-02-2015, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by innerspaceboy

Just two years this August. We moved in together after the first 6 months and have never in any of our past long-term relationships been more sure that we're right for each other.

We each suffered incredible emotional and psychological trials in our respective youths, we are both avid writers, rational skeptics, cultural historians, lovers of the arts and lifelong students of music. Our eccentric wit is well-matched, we have our own language of obscure sub-cultural references, we share a passion for anti-authoritarian philosophies and penchant for the avant-garde, and we inspire the best in one another. Oh yeah, and that whole love thing as well.

I spun Metal Machine Music on our first date and knew from her reaction that it was love at first-listen.

Sounds like an awesome relationship!

Burning Down · 05-02-2015, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by innerspaceboy

Just two years this August. We moved in together after the first 6 months and have never in any of our past long-term relationships been more sure that we're right for each other.

We each suffered incredible emotional and psychological trials in our respective youths, we are both avid writers, rational skeptics, cultural historians, lovers of the arts and lifelong students of music. Our eccentric wit is well-matched, we have our own language of obscure sub-cultural references, we share a passion for anti-authoritarian philosophies and penchant for the avant-garde, and we inspire the best in one another. Oh yeah, and that whole love thing as well.

I spun Metal Machine Music on our first date and knew from her reaction that it was love at first-listen.

Nice. It sounds like you complement each other quite well. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now.

**Frownland** · 05-02-2015, 01:36 PM

If I found a girl who was into MMM I'd slap a ring on that too.

YorkeDaddy · 05-02-2015, 01:46 PM

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If I found a girl who was into MMM I'd slap a ring on that too.

but what if she looked like this

I could totally see her diggin MMM

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Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	Ki and Carpe. It's all cool. To be 100% honest, if not for us getting pregnant we may have never done it. I firmly believe that once a kid enters the mix though, it's the right thing to do. __________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”

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Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	I'm not into the whole idea of it at all. I also don't like the thought that if you don't want to get married, that means you don't love the person or you don't think you'll be with them forever. Honestly, I'm happy with how my life is right now, and I don't really see any reason to change anything in it. And I don't think i'll change my mind about it any time in the near or far future.