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01-23-2015, 11:12 AM | #21 (permalink) | |
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01-23-2015, 11:20 AM | #23 (permalink) |
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But your advice isn't encouraging them to keep at it. You're giving them the impression that failure is synonymous with being "fake", or only pretending to try to quit. It's encouraging them to either be able to do it on the first go, or to just give up and stop wasting our time because they never really meant to lift the weight in the first place. And that's a horrible message to send.
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01-23-2015, 11:24 AM | #24 (permalink) |
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I wasn't giving advice. I was explaining the mindstate you have to be in to stop. I've already stated in many threads that I don't personally invest time in addicts, and I think they should take it upon themselves to get better. You think I don't understand that positive reinforcement is better than bearing over someone telling them how much of a failure they are? I've dealt with more than a couple handfuls of drug addicts in my 29 years and lost more than I'd like to admit along the way. If any of them ever had a problem and wanted to talk I'd listen and give advice but I don't go out of my way to "fix" people.
The bottom line is that unless an addict WANTS to quit they never will. All your positive reinforcement study nonsense doesn't mean a thing if they enjoy doing drugs and just tell you they want to stop to get you off their back long enough to get a few more highs. |
01-23-2015, 11:35 AM | #25 (permalink) | |
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But I can see why you've chosen your point of view. It's very convenient to simply make an addict responsible for cleaning up their own act, and you have every right to expect them to take care of themselves. But when they drop the weight, maybe instead of calling them a faker and walking away, you should try helping them lift it until they can lift it on their own.
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01-23-2015, 11:42 AM | #26 (permalink) |
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Well you just made it clear that you know nothing about addicts. Not much else to say here.
And I've taken that stance because we only live once and I'm not gonna waste my life fixing your screw ups. It's not a matter of convenience, it's a matter of selfishness. Pretty much the same reason I don't wanna waste 20+ years raising a child. I also don't have a problem with drug addicts who don't f*ck society. If you wanna shoot heroin and die at 20 I'm okay with that, but don't go stealing and harming people for your fix. Your body your decision. It's not for me but you made the decision to do that drug, so take some responsibility for it. |
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So please, don't try to tell me what I know about addiction. Not only is that dipping into personal territory, but it's incredibly insulting as well. Quote:
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01-23-2015, 12:14 PM | #28 (permalink) |
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Just because you fail at something doesn't mean you don't want to be better or stop doing it. You may want to keep on using but when your desire to get better becomes greater than your desire to use drugs, I'd consider that wanting to quit.
Do you feel the desire to nitpick everything? I thought it was pretty clear I was talking about myself, obviously child raising is essential for survival and not a waste of time for everyone. Simple. I believe it's your body and you have the right to do with it whatever you want, and you have the right to allow anyone else do anything to it that you consent to. I don't see why I can't believe that and not call out the bad people. I know two high functioning heroin addicts that go to work ****ed up everyday get a paycheck and spend it on dope. They don't rob or hurt people. If you can't use drugs responsibly than you should be held accountable. I condone alcohol consumption but I think drunk drivers deserve to be punished. I really don't see a problem.
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01-23-2015, 12:41 PM | #29 (permalink) |
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Dudes, step outside and have a slap fest. You both have the best of intentions and are arguing over drawn out semantics. Getting back to the OP. Any smoker willing to try it?
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01-23-2015, 12:46 PM | #30 (permalink) |
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Why don't you chime in on the topic?
Sorry for the derail. and sorry, I don't smoke enough to do that nor do I want to quit my small intake.
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