Is this site more important than the ones you love?

djchameleon · 05-19-2013, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by slappyjenkins

She's over reacting by expecting my support on this issue. Our fathers die all the time. Why the %#@$@ is it my problem? I didn't kill him LOL

the fuck? You are in a relationship with her so if she's still having issues with it then be there for her support wise. You don't have to feel like it's a big deal but it's a big deal to her still and you can't control how she feels about her father that passed away.

I can understand if maybe you didn't remember but if you totally knew that she is still having a hard time with it then just be there for her.

Stephen · 05-19-2013, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by slappyjenkins

She's over reacting by expecting my support on this issue. Our fathers die all the time. Why the %#@$@ is it my problem? I didn't kill him LOL

Well I don't know the nature of your relationship but if it is still an issue for her (and the loss of a parent is hardly a trivial issue) it's fairly natural to expect emotional support from a (boy)friend. It's also understandable if you are getting tired of emotional head-fucks after two years. I guess I'm saying you're both right or no-one's right or relationships shouldn't be a contest in the first place. Enjoy

Paedantic Basterd · 05-19-2013, 09:10 PM

I'm not saying she shouldn't be sad or whatever, but I think it's irrational to take it out on you with accusations and guilt trips. Be there if she actually needs you, but don't fall victim to attention seeking and don't let her make you feel like a dick for posting on the internet.

Paedantic Basterd · 05-19-2013, 09:24 PM

The more you speak, Slappy, the more worried I get that you didn't take from my words what I meant for you to take, haha.

djchameleon · 05-19-2013, 09:36 PM

Why are you even in a relationship with her? Are you just with her for the sex? I mean really?

Stephen · 05-19-2013, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by slappyjenkins

...do you think sometimes we put our desires to do other things, like posting on a website, over our loved one's feelings, even something as hard as grief and death?

Well it's certainly 'normal' to avoid something challenging in favour of trivial diversions as long as it doesn't cross over into pathology.

ladyislingering · 05-19-2013, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by slappyjenkins

I'm going to tell her that. It's absurd that your dad died 2 years ago this day and you wanted to hear from me before 6pm.

Wow, I love this place! You guys are the best!

I think DJ said it best.

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

Why are you even in a relationship with her? Are you just with her for the sex? I mean really?

Is it really so much to ask that you contact your girlfriend before 6pm? Good lord, get your priorities straight. She should dump your ass.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 05-19-2013, 10:20 PM

Honestly, if it was my boyfriend I would be far more caring than I even need to be. That's just me though. It's so much easier emotionally being single.

slappyjenkins · 05-19-2013, 10:24 PM

Right Vanilla! See! SHE should be more caring to ME. That is what you are saying right?

*hoping!!

ladyislingering · 05-19-2013, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by slappyjenkins

Oh come on it's just one day. I was feeling bad for MYSELF. Don't you understand! I had issues of my own. I can't be bothered with her feelings about her father. Get off my case.

(jokingly)

Then why not talk to her about your feelings? It's not like you're going to lose your "man card" or anything. Besides, there's nothing wrong with talking about stuff. She probably wanted to talk to you about things she's struggling with today, too. Moping around by yourself doesn't solve anything.

05-19-2013, 10:20 PM	#18 (permalink)
Scarlett O'Hara Make it so Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 6,181	Honestly, if it was my boyfriend I would be far more caring than I even need to be. That's just me though. It's so much easier emotionally being single. __________________ "Elph is truly an enfant terrible of the forum, bless and curse him" - Marie, Queen of Thots

05-19-2013, 10:24 PM	#19 (permalink)
slappyjenkins Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2012 Posts: 214	Right Vanilla! See! SHE should be more caring to ME. That is what you are saying right? *hoping!! __________________ I was once told...True intimacy is finding out what the other person wants and needs and if it's within your power giving it to them.

05-19-2013, 09:10 PM	#13 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	I'm not saying she shouldn't be sad or whatever, but I think it's irrational to take it out on you with accusations and guilt trips. Be there if she actually needs you, but don't fall victim to attention seeking and don't let her make you feel like a dick for posting on the internet.

05-19-2013, 09:24 PM	#14 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	The more you speak, Slappy, the more worried I get that you didn't take from my words what I meant for you to take, haha.