How well do you know your friends?
 

I Just found out one of my close friends is gay and he still hasn't told me. I found out through a college friend of ours through fb for god sakes, smh.

It's 2013 for god sakes, why do gay ppl insist on remaining in the closet?

Because they still get picked on and they still get looked down upon.
Maybe he doesnt know how you will react to this news? Maybe he has good reasons to keep it a secret.

Talk to him?

There is no good reason for hiding your sexuality, especially in 2013. He clearly doesn't want me to know b/c he is going out of his way to hide it from me and we have gay friends so it's not like this would be weird, but he's making it weird.

Now I'm just thinking back & trying to figure out how I missed it.

You don't really know your friends until you live with them.

classic gays, i fucking hate those fags.

^smh

You know those Boston bombers had two friends who were willing to hide evidence of the bombing simply b/c "they were friends." So you have those 2 friends who literally put their own lives, future & safety in jeopardy for their "friend" & here I have a friend apparently I know nothing about if he's been hiding this for so long.

I honestly don't get the living in the closet thing, ppl will judge you regardless that's what we do, but when you're judging yourself so harshly that you can't even deal publicly w/ who you are it's a shame and shows weakness. I don't even think I want him as a friend anymore, I feel catfished.

So your answer to someone coming out is to not throw them to the curb because they're gay, but because they had to work up the courage to do so?
What's the f*cking difference? You're judging them based on their own personal proclivities either way. Your brand of tolerance doesn't seem like actual tolerance, if you ask me.

And if it's because he didn't tell YOU first, then I think the problem here is your ego, not his choices.

^this is pretty accurate experience for you right?

Did you mean" So your answer to someone coming out is to throw them to the curb"

If that's what you meant, then yes. I can't deal w/ liars, I am an honest person & I don't waste my time trying to hide things from ppl or lie to them. So the fact that he did this says to me he can't be trusted or that he doesn't trust me, either way I don't need that headache in my life. B/c when someone shows you who they are believe it & he's showing me that he's fake I can't condone that.

Him being gay is not an issue, him being my friend & my wing man for years & hiding that from me is a huge issue, we did a lot of crazy **** together & my mind is burning just thinking about his real motives, I am truly disgusted.

Did it ever occur to you that this might be the reason why you might be one of the harder people to tell?