How well do you know your friends?

Ass Napkin Ed · 05-14-2013, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by FRED HALE SR.

Had you never found out you would still be his friend. You don't find that in the least bit hypocritical of yourself?

You're right if I never found out I would still be his friend, but that goes back to the issue of him living a lie and pretending to be someone else around me, which is something I can't forgive.

No offense to anyone gay, but the amount of effort put into living a life most ppl describe as normal all to pretend you're straight when you know you're not says a lot about your mental well being and it's creepy.

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

Creepy?

I am sorry did I miss the fact that he had chloroform lollipops in his pocket and was planning on giving you one one night...?
John Wayne Gacy was creepy... your friend is gay... not a serial killer... But I am glad you got your situation handled.. I thought you were still stewing...

....so to you pretending to be something you're not for years isn't creepy b/c that's creepy to me.

Stephen · 05-14-2013, 07:14 PM

Did you ever confide in him some deep personal conflict? Personally my relationships seem to be generally narrowly defined in terms of what we have in common and how we interact. I rarely share any internal struggle with friends. I am more of a think things out myself sort of person. I don't consider myself a liar just because I don't tell everyone everything that goes through my head. Of course it probably limits the depth of my friendships but I'm fairly cynical about friendship in general. I think a lot of what we perceive about a relationship is merely our projection of our own experience and when that clashes with the reality of the situation it can be quite jarring.

djchameleon · 05-14-2013, 07:24 PM

There are certain friends that I have where I can just unload any/every personal issue on and they have done the same with me. I would be hurt if they were hiding something so personal in their life after all that we've been through but to take it to the point of ending the friendship because it was based on lies isn't something I would do. I understand it and I would want to in the heat of the moment but I wouldn't want to lose that person that I was able to share so much with over it.

Ass Napkin Ed · 05-14-2013, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by stp

Did you ever confide in him some deep personal conflict? Personally my relationships seem to be generally narrowly defined in terms of what we have in common and how we interact. I rarely share any internal struggle with friends. I am more of a think things out myself sort of person. I don't consider myself a liar just because I don't tell everyone everything that goes through my head. Of course it probably limits the depth of my friendships but I'm fairly cynical about friendship in general. I think a lot of what we perceive about a relationship is merely our projection of our own experience and when that clashes with the reality of the situation it can be quite jarring.

It is the pretending to be something he was not that I find pathetic/disgusting. Like I said b4 I have plenty of friends and enough close friends that losing 1 wouldn't make a difference. I'm just amazed that I was fooled.

ladyislingering · 05-14-2013, 08:39 PM

14 pages later I'm still completely speechless.

Get it through your head, brother. If it was about you or how you felt, he would have told you. But it's not about you, and it's not about your feelings.

Ass Napkin Ed · 05-14-2013, 08:51 PM

^ Is this the new definition of "speechless" or was that comment meant to be completely absurd?

Burning Down · 05-14-2013, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Ass napkin ed

You're right if I never found out I would still be his friend, but that goes back to the issue of him living a lie and pretending to be someone else around me, which is something I can't forgive.

But in that case, you wouldn't have actually known anything at all - not known that he was lying, etc. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 05-26-2013, 10:20 AM

I know my friends super ****ing well, like sometimes it even surprises me the things I can glean about them, I know all of their secrets most of the time. But since I'm a good and loyal friend, I don't out their secrets, because **** that, I wouldn't want to be outed either.

But I know them well because I just pick up on little behaviours in people pretty well, I read people in the same way I do books, often reading between the lines and because I know them so well I know when they may need my ear to talk to or my advice and that makes me happy because I like to help people as much as I can.

But I'm good at reading everybody, not just my friends. I just care more about my friends than I do most people LOL. However this doesn't mean I alienate other people, but I will make you feel like an ******* if I find your behaviour to be morally reprehensible and unkind. Otherwise if I don't think you're a bad person, even if we're not friends, I'll tear someone about five new *******s for you if I think you're being bullied/treated unfairly. So I would say, because of this, I can usually make friends with everyone.

My personality is clearly always in conflict, lmaooo

Mr. Charlie · 10-16-2013, 04:30 PM

Nobody knows anybody, including themselves.

The Batlord · 10-16-2013, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr. Charlie

Nobody knows anybody, including themselves.

Indeed. I have yet to meet myself, though I keep seeing that weird mother****er staring at me through the window in my bathroom wall.

05-14-2013, 08:39 PM	#135 (permalink)
ladyislingering Maelian Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Seattle Posts: 695	14 pages later I'm still completely speechless. Get it through your head, brother. If it was about you or how you felt, he would have told you. But it's not about you, and it's not about your feelings. __________________ You and I, We were born to die.

05-14-2013, 08:51 PM	#136 (permalink)
Ass Napkin Ed Music Addict Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Nu Yuk Zity Posts: 57	^ Is this the new definition of "speechless" or was that comment meant to be completely absurd? __________________ I'll take the worst of Metallica, Kanye, Jay z, Journey & U2 over the "best" of Eminem, The Beatles, Nas and Elvis any day. It's simple math, genius at it's worst or trash at it's best.

05-14-2013, 07:14 PM	#132 (permalink)
Stephen I sleep in your hat Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Melbourne, Vic. Aus. Posts: 1,847	Did you ever confide in him some deep personal conflict? Personally my relationships seem to be generally narrowly defined in terms of what we have in common and how we interact. I rarely share any internal struggle with friends. I am more of a think things out myself sort of person. I don't consider myself a liar just because I don't tell everyone everything that goes through my head. Of course it probably limits the depth of my friendships but I'm fairly cynical about friendship in general. I think a lot of what we perceive about a relationship is merely our projection of our own experience and when that clashes with the reality of the situation it can be quite jarring.

05-26-2013, 10:20 AM	#138 (permalink)
~~Sansa Stark~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Eyrie, Vale of Arryn, Westeros Posts: 3,234	I know my friends super **ing well, like sometimes it even surprises me the things I can glean about them, I know all of their secrets most of the time. But since I'm a good and loyal friend, I don't out their secrets, because that, I wouldn't want to be outed either. But I know them well because I just pick up on little behaviours in people pretty well, I read people in the same way I do books, often reading between the lines and because I know them so well I know when they may need my ear to talk to or my advice and that makes me happy because I like to help people as much as I can. But I'm good at reading everybody, not just my friends. I just care more about my friends than I do most people LOL. However this doesn't mean I alienate other people, but I will make you feel like an *** if I find your behaviour to be morally reprehensible and unkind. Otherwise if I don't think you're a bad person, even if we're not friends, I'll tear someone about five new *****s for you if I think you're being bullied/treated unfairly. So I would say, because of this, I can usually make friends with everyone. My personality is clearly always in conflict, lmaooo

10-16-2013, 04:30 PM	#139 (permalink)
Mr. Charlie Shoo Thoughts Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: These Mountains Posts: 2,308	Nobody knows anybody, including themselves.