The Relationship Thread.

[MicShazam]

Try talking with your fly zipped. I'm told it works better.

[Ninetales]

Originally Posted by elphenor

after a relationship issue it's been a few days since I've talked to the girl I'm seeing

I refuse to text first

thatll show her

[grindy]

He's about to win the relationship.

[rostasi]

Later, when she dies in a house fire,
you'll look back and be so proud of
your superior manliness.

[MicShazam]

If Elph caves and comes crawling first, will that prove she was the manliest?

[[MERIT]]

Might have a date for NYE.

[rostasi]

December 31.

[Key]

Originally Posted by rostasi

December 31.

I wanted to make this joke. ****.

[grindy]

I have been meeting this woman for a month now. We met on the weekends and had a pretty great time together. But while on the surface everything was really nice and we had a good time and I did have feelings for her on a certain level, I still had lingering doubts about us and after thinking about this I decided today that we do not have the potential for a really deep emotional connection and since we are both looking for a serious long-term relationship I said that this just isn’t working.

I really hated hurting her with this but I thought that the sooner I tell her this the better. She says that I am an ******* and if I really did have these doubts I would have told her earlier and wouldn’t have behaved as everything is great just this weekend. But I wanted to first be really sure about how I felt before talking about this and also this is not really something you can solve by talking. You either connect that well or you don’t. And I faked none of my behavior, I genuinely enjoyed being around her up until the end.

She is also pissed off because I did it over the phone. I also would have preferred to do it in person, but first of all I wanted to tell her as quickly as possible and secondly, she is really busy and it would have felt even more wrong for me if she had to take time out of her busy schedule just for me to arrive and tell her that it’s over.

I told her all that but she still says that I’m a lying piece of ****. I understand that she is very unhappy and disappointed, I remember being on the receiving end of something like this. We were also explicitly not in a relationship and in the phase of getting to know each other and seeing whether a relationship would work. I think that while my behavior wasn't perfect I don’t think that I did something outright wrong. What do y’all think?

[rubber soul]

Let me tell you what happened to me when I was young. I dated a girl for about a month and I had the same feeling you did basically. I wanted to tell her we were done in person but my mother thought I should simply avoid her and she'd get the message. Great advice, huh? Anyway, stupid me followed the advice and I will never know how she took it in the end (I would imagine she was crushed). I know how her family took it though because shortly after, her brother drove by me and doused me with his soda. Lesson from this? It is always good to be direct.