The Relationship Thread.

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by Hermione

I used to think it was just bull**** but I'm not so sure now. I mean, there's so many combinations for identity now that I feel like it could be ANYONE but no one seems to fit me very well. I think I might have found my "other half" but that would, to me, imply I'm not a whole person without them but I am whole on my own.

What does everyone else think?

Not that I think you necessarily need a significant other to justify your existence or anything, but the concept of being a "whole person" sounds silly to me. What does that even mean? I don't think percentages of wholeness were involved in human evolution. In fact I think that if the concept of being a "whole person" makes sense at all then I think the nature of human existence would preclude the possibility of you being one without human relationships since humans evolved as social creatures. Whether or not this means that you need one or more of those relationships to be romantic can be up for debate, but if you think it's possible to be a "whole person" all by yourself then that just sounds like nonsense. The human brain just wasn't built for that.

[Sansa Stark]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

Not that I think you necessarily need a significant other to justify your existence or anything, but the concept of being a "whole person" sounds silly to me. What does that even mean? I don't think percentages of wholeness were involved in human evolution. In fact I think that if the concept of being a "whole person" makes sense at all then I think the nature of human existence would preclude the possibility of you being one without human relationships since humans evolved as social creatures. Whether or not this means that you need one or more of those relationships to be romantic can be up for debate, but if you think it's possible to be a "whole person" all by yourself then that just sounds like nonsense. The human brain just wasn't built for that.

whole person by my own standards!!!!

[djchameleon]

As far as the whole "other half" thing goes, I feel like it's more about finding a partner that matches how you see yourself and where you are heading in the future. Not about being an incomplete person without them which is just romantic nonsense.

[Scarlett O'Hara]

Originally Posted by FETCHER.

I don't know, I just have a hard time believing guys would want to seriously date me, I know random guys can and do find me attractive but find it hard to believe they would want to make me their girlfriend. I dunno it's hard to explain and is probably the sole reason I've never had a boyfriend.

I bet there are loads of guys willing to date you. I used to struggle to find guys that were willing to be my boyfriend and until I became confident in myself then I started to find them. A lot of guys are shy and find it hard to admit when they like you, particularly if you are outgoing among your friends.

You are beautiful, charming and kind I would totally date you if I were a guy.

Originally Posted by mojopinuk

The sole reason being that you yourself find it hard to believe that they would be interested in you that way, you mean?

Maybe this is the case. I don't know. While I obviously don't know you personally, what I do know about you would suggest you are attractive, intelligent and have a sense of humour and really, I don't see any reason why plenty of lads wouldn't be interested in you that way. You've said yourself that you are more confident now than you were, maybe more confidence in who you are will continue to come with time. I'd say you deserve that.

You're such a great guy for saying that. I've noticed you always see the good things in people and judge them on that.

[FETCHER.]

Originally Posted by mojopinuk

The sole reason being that you yourself find it hard to believe that they would be interested in you that way, you mean?

Maybe this is the case. I don't know. While I obviously don't know you personally, what I do know about you would suggest you are attractive, intelligent and have a sense of humour and really, I don't see any reason why plenty of lads wouldn't be interested in you that way. You've said yourself that you are more confident now than you were, maybe more confidence in who you are will continue to come with time. I'd say you deserve that.

Yeah that's pretty much it lol.

You always know the right kinda stuff to say. Which is why I probably burden you more than anyone else haha

Originally Posted by Vanilla

I bet there are loads of guys willing to date you. I used to struggle to find guys that were willing to be my boyfriend and until I became confident in myself then I started to find them. A lot of guys are shy and find it hard to admit when they like you, particularly if you are outgoing among your friends.

You are beautiful, charming and kind I would totally date you if I were a guy.



You're such a great guy for saying that. I've noticed you always see the good things in people and judge them on that.

Thanks lady! I do think it has a lot to do with my confidence, I've noticed a few different occasions where guys have clearly shown some sort of interest.




I also apologise for constantly coming on here with my guy problemsquestions constantly but I'm ridiculously private and I wouldn't speak to any of my friends about it.

[Mojo]

Never a burden Kay. You know how to get in touch as and when you want to.

[Sansa Stark]

Originally Posted by FETCHER.

I also apologise for constantly coming on here with my guy problemsquestions constantly but I'm ridiculously private and I wouldn't speak to any of my friends about it.

you can always fb msg me, if you need advice/a listening ear wife <3

[FETCHER.]

Originally Posted by mojopinuk

Never a burden Kay. You know how to get in touch as and when you want to.

Originally Posted by Hermione

you can always fb msg me, if you need advice/a listening ear wife <3

I know, sometimes I don't know if I'm being an idiot or not so I'd rather speak to you guys. The two of you are wee gems

[FETCHER.]

So I'm still seeing this dude, we've never spoke about what's actually going on between us and he's coming to stay tonight so I probably won't have a better opportunity to ask him than tonight. I don't really know how to go about it other than saying "what's happening here?" Haha, I'm actually hopeless. Any ladies had to do the same in the past that could help me?

[FRED HALE SR.]

Originally Posted by FETCHER.

So I'm still seeing this dude, we've never spoke about what's actually going on between us and he's coming to stay tonight so I probably won't have a better opportunity to ask him than tonight. I don't really know how to go about it other than saying "what's happening here?" Haha, I'm actually hopeless. Any ladies had to do the same in the past that could help me?

What do you think is going on? If you're saying you want to be exclusively dating then just ask him if hes down with that scenario. If your just curious how he feels about you then ask. I never understood the lack of communication in relationships. Its very easy to just ask a question. If your question scares him off, then he wasn't worth your time. If he wants to be single then you know. If he wants to date you exclusively then you still know where he stands. That will be 30 dollars Kay.