Is it weird to wear jewelry your ex gave you?
My ex gave me this tiny gold anklet that I found in a drawer yesterday and this big tidal wave of feelings hit me. I've had it on ever since.

No freekin way! I wear every piece. Wish he'd given me more. Course I'm talking ex–hubby, so maybe a little different.

I feel like this is okay because it's subtle and people don't know that he gave it to me. I would feel weird otherwise but this is so tiny. When I wear it I feel like I have a secret

I say you should wear it! No one can tell you what you can and can't wear. I have a bracelet of my ex that he gave me 10 years ago and I still feel fond of it.

It's strange, because I have a few girls leave bracelets and **** like that at my place. I don't really think much about them, but it seems kind of a shame to toss them. I just ended up sticking them on top of my dresser, kind of a nice little reminder who I've been when I occasionally glance that way.

Thank you, I don't feel so weird now


Wait so you have like a museum of jewelry from all the girls you've ****ed?

More like 2 or 3 things on my dresser?

Nah, it's not weird at all. I actually still have a bracelet from a guy that I went on a few dates with (A FEW) maybe 3 years ago. The guy was basically trying to buy my love and was phoney in every way so I quickly parted ways with him. He was a bad kisser too (well at the time I didn't know any better) and I wasted my first kiss on him :mad:

meh, more power to you. I couldn't do it. Especially if you have feelings attached to the object and it makes you feel sentimental.

I would want to get rid of all the energy from that relationship. So , if I didn't pawn the jewelry pieces, I would either throw them out or destroy them in one way or another. I don't want the bad residual energy from a relationship that didn't work out hanging around me. That's just me though.

Update on my case: He actually approached me before I had the chance to get together a case but I managed to stumble my way through saying what I wanted to. He's fine with me not being willing to take it further and claims he isn't torn up by it at all. I hope he's telling the truth.

I'd just leave it at that then, it sounds like it will be OK, even if he isn't yet FULLY okay with it :)

Does anyone else here who is in a long term relationship, lets say a relationship of 5+ years, miss the newness that comes with a new relationship? The thrill of the chase, the butterflies, all the "firsts", the awkward moments & all? I was just thinking about that today, not in a bad way, but kinda in a nostalgic way. Being in a long-term relationship and knowing someone so well does have it's own pros, but sometimes I really do miss that newness.

So I saw the girl I mentioned forever ago a few days ago... we're on summer break so aren't seeing each other every day any more, but have been in close contact since we left Nicaragua a month and a half ago. I just got down to Daytona Beach for a family vacation, and she has just so happened been here on vacation with HER family, and we ended up being able to go out for frozen yogurt together right before she had to leave. We got it together literally fifteen minutes before.

Apparently, we seemed really into each other because as soon as we left the place my family started questioning me about us.

Honestly, I think I may be in love. I'm not really sure what to do with these emotions, but the longer we're apart the closer we're getting (weirdly enough) and I'll be back in Nica with her by the end of the month.

I suppose I'll talk to her about it then. This is weird for me, but if it works out I will be a happy man.

Awesome man. Honestly and truly best of luck with that. You're one of the coolest guys on the site man, i'm sure things will work out the way you want. Nice guys don't finish last. :beer:

Best wishes from me too, Blarobbarg. Your posted news warmed my heart! "Nice guys don't finish last", indeed. You deserve happiness and I hope you find it with your special girl. :wave:

Not in a 5 year relationship here, but I think I can understand what you're saying. I live with my boyfriend and sometimes I think we get sick of each other, like "Oh, you again" sort of thing when you walk into a room and see them there, lol.

Trying new things together definitely helps and it makes things exciting. I think there are always things you can learn about each other by trying new stuff, whether it be food or doing some new adventurous thing, stuff like that. Spending copious amounts of time alone helps too. Sounds counterproductive, I know, but it's not good to be around each other 24/7.

That's so sweet. I remember when you had mentioned her before! I hope you get somewhere with this girl!

Agreed! Girls don't always want the "bad boy" types... from what I hear from my more experienced friends, they're usually the ones who turn out to be duds.

Sure they do, especially to get the whole "bad boy" stuff out of their system before they move onto someone that they rather be with long term but majority of them will pick up a bad boy at the very least for a fling.

I was never interested in those guys though so I'm sure there are other girls like me out there. Maybe not in the majority but I can't be the only one.

yeah I didn't say every female of course there are going to be exceptions but it certainly seems like a majority.

It isnt that they want a bad boy, they want the qualities a bad boy possesses. "bad boys" are generally confident, speak well, experienced, can protect etc...It isnt that the girl wants to be treated like ****, she just naturally wants all the qualities of an alpha male who can provide for her and a future baby.

A guy can be a nice and get dicked over because he doesnt posses those qualities I mentioned above. I know (not many) guys that are all those things and some of the nicest dudes in the world. They actually do better than the "bad boys" who have the same qualities but are aholes.

Think of it like this...guys dont like sluts why? because they give away sex so easy to everyone so when you get it, its not special. Overly nice guys are like emotional sluts. They dont know this girl so why are they giving away this respect and kindness so easily when it isnt earned by the girl.

Thanks guys! I'm hoping for the best! I appreciate the kind words! :)

Blarobbarg, good luck! Seems like it's all working out :)

Yeah, I guess it's just trying to keep the relationship exciting and doing new things together, continuing to appreciate each other rather than simmering off into apathy, all that stuff you said :) I've been with my partner for most of 7 years (:eek:) and lived together for a long time so sometimes that "newness" kinda wears off! Not that it's a bad thing... it's just different, I guess!

My boyfriend comes home from his holiday at 1am.

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but seriously, I didn't think I'd miss him much at all but I really missed speaking to him everyday.


edit: Astronomer, I'm in a new relationship and I'm quite looking forward to things being comfortable, like talking about sex when you're not about to have sex for instance.

I never quite thought of it like that, but that makes total sense.

Nice guys honestly don't always finish last. :)

Technically if they are that nice they should be finishing last, always bringing their partner to orgasm before themselves...therefore finishing last...u mad?

Wise words, wise words.




But seriously, there's nothing more attractive than a guy simply being a gentleman.

What about a beautifully cocked, phat walleted, meaty brained, sack destroyer who just so happens to be rude and let the door slam in your face.

He has to be more than just a gentleman or else he will get walked over all the time.

Just like how women say "chivalry is dead" well guess who killed it?

Ever consider that it's because the slut is less concerned about what you think of her, so she's not stroking your ego by trying to impress you? ;)

I'm quite an angry person sometimes, I'd probably ask the sack of **** who the **** he thought he was. And dream of repeatedly slamming the door on his head.

Um no, not necessarily. My boyfriend is quite the gentleman but it doesn't mean I walk over him because he's nice to me, I'm equally nice and 'courteous' shall we say. Also just because a guy's a gentleman doesn't mean he's gonna take ****. There's a massive difference.

DJ is 100% correct. You just wouldnt know since you have never dated women.

There's a fair amount of manipulative women out there who will walk all over the nice guys. I think a guy looking for a relationship with someone should be a gentleman, but also know when to be a jerk. Sort of meld it into one. I don't know if that makes any sense lol

Not so much a jerk but play a little hard to get and don't play all of his cards in the beginning and be an emotional slut like rez mentioned earlier. It makes so much sense.

When he mentioned that I was like "he tells no lies"

Yeah that's what I was trying to say haha

Ew!

Oh I completely agree that there are some horrible, twisted and manipulative bitches out there but then shouldn't you guys avoid chicks like that? Just like I avoid big muscley steroid dudes because I know they're mostly all asswipes who love steroids and looking like people should fear them.

When they have big breasts then we sort of turn into retards for whom character judgement is an alien concept.

That isnt just the few manipulative bitches out there...it is the majority of females (not all obviously). In every instance in my life when I have not replied back, barely called, given almost 0 attention, had other options...is when nearly every girl becomes more attached and wants more. This is the case with nearly all my friends and certainly does not happen often the other way around with guys. I am not saying guys are all level headed blameless humans, just that in this arena females act almost primitive based off instinct instead of logic.

very true

i think its cause females are always used to guys being after them and gettin so much attention. its probably reassuring for them subconsciously. womens whole lives guys are competing for their attention and not the other way around. so i think the reason it works so well to not give a girl attention or kinda ignore her is because since she is so used to guys wantin her attention she has the assumption that you are still tryin to get that attention but from somebody ELSE. so you found someone better than her. but thats an ego shot which she aint cool with. thats why she wants you even more


nah mean

You're more appealing once they think you've got options. Plus they want the man to be in control, if they've got control of the relationship they'll lose respect for you and just fuck you off. Women don't want a wet tart who just nods along saying 'yes dear' even when she's clearly taking the piss. They don't want barbaric bastards either but the other extreme is a complete turn off.

& Blanking them will only work if they actually like you in the first place, if they do and you come across too strong or too 'nice' they will lose interest. Women can smell desperation from a mile off.

The manipulative types are usually childish as fuck and easy enough to avoid though.