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Black Francis · 04-01-2013, 03:47 PM

@Ki

thank you, i appreciate you speaking to me like a person

LOL the rest of you judging me fron your ivory towers should reserve your judgement cause you don't really care what happens to me

You're using this fake concern to preach your own morals not to help me

you don't care about the repercussions im gonna end up living
but at least i'll have peace of mind right?

Bullsh*t!!

im the one who's gonna end up alone!

what does it matter if i did the right thing if end up alone?

Paedantic Basterd · 04-01-2013, 03:51 PM

You're concerned about yourself enough for all of the rest of us, haha.

Black Francis · 04-01-2013, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Pedestrian

You're concerned about yourself enough for all of the rest of us, haha.

lol, that i am

i just don't wanna ruin everything ya know?

we work together and have to see each other everyday
if it ends up bad, it's gonna SUPER AWKWARD between us

P A N · 04-01-2013, 04:09 PM

nah. it doesn't have to be awkward. just have a conversation exploring the direction of the relationship. if it's just sex and hanging out, and that's cool with both of you, rock it. if she wants you to be monogamous, then you have a decision to make out of respect for another human being and the fact that you don't want to be a liar. you don't want to be a liar, right? and if it ends up that the most adult thing thing to do is cut it off, then be adults and deal with it. it's not the end of the world, and you could probably hang out without having sex and getting your d*ck sucked if you two have as good a bond as you're leading on.

it can't just be about you wanting to not be alone. this is ripping you in two precisely because that need to not be alone is actually folding in on itself because you gave it too much attention. it's made you weak and you need to overcome it. you can call that judgemental or whatever, but you'd only be fooling yourself if fooling anyone at all.

but again, if she's cool with you doing god-knows-what with other women, then you're golden. some women are totally okay with that. so are some men. some people just want to have fun and not be committed. but it's gotta be honest, or it'll have your head spinning.

Burning Down · 04-01-2013, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Black Francis

@Burning down

you are still not getting that im not stringing her along, she's a 23 yr old girl and makes her own decisions

Im not using her more than she is using me

even before i made this thread i was thinking of sitting down and talking this out with her

but what if i ruin it?

to you guys this is just another post but to me this is my actual life!!

im not gonna f*ck up my situation just cause you guys don't approve, it doesn't matter how much you insult me or demean me i KNOW what im doing wrong and what im NOT doing wrong

That's great, she can make her own decisions. What if she decides she has feelings for you? This is why you need to be honest with her about everything. Honesty should be at the forefront of every kind of relationship. Sit down, have a serious conversation, and if that ruins everything then you have confirmation that this wasn't going anywhere in the first place. If she's not serious about you, she should have no problem letting you go.

If you're fearing the repercussions of your actions, you have to realize that you're responsible. But yes, your conscience will be cleared and if that's more important to you, you'll be able to deal with the consequences.

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Originally Posted by Black Francis

lol, that i am

i just don't wanna ruin everything ya know?

we work together and have to see each other everyday
if it ends up bad, it's gonna SUPER AWKWARD between us

That's the main reason why office romances are risky. If/when it comes to that, you'll have to swallow your pride and deal with it.

Not everything is as cut and dried as we'd like it to be.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 04-01-2013, 04:29 PM

this thread is so ****ing skeezy

Key · 04-01-2013, 04:30 PM

^Seems that way, since even when I was trying to be civil and help him out, he has no intentions of being mature and talking to his real life girlfriend about it.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 04-01-2013, 04:37 PM

He just wants us to make him feel like he's not a douche for this

Burning Down · 04-01-2013, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Hermione

He just wants us to make him feel like he's not a douche for this

That's my feeling as well. We're not here to validate or justify somebody's poor choices.

djchameleon · 04-01-2013, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Burning Down

That's my feeling as well. We're not here to validate or justify somebody's poor choices.

I don't know if you read the first two sentences of the first post but that probably wasn't his intent.

He kind of brought it on himself for sharing his story first instead of waiting for others then back peddaling and saying that the thread isn't about his personal story.

04-01-2013, 03:47 PM	#31 (permalink)
Black Francis Out of Place Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: in an abstract house Posts: 4,111	@Ki thank you, i appreciate you speaking to me like a person LOL the rest of you judging me fron your ivory towers should reserve your judgement cause you don't really care what happens to me You're using this fake concern to preach your own morals not to help me you don't care about the repercussions im gonna end up living but at least i'll have peace of mind right? Bullsht!! im the one who's gonna end up alone! what does it matter if i did the right thing if end up alone? __________________ "Hey Kids you got to meet the MIGHTY PIXIES!"* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JbRbCtIgW3A

04-01-2013, 03:51 PM	#32 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	You're concerned about yourself enough for all of the rest of us, haha.

04-01-2013, 04:09 PM	#34 (permalink)
P A N DO LIKE YOU. Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 629	nah. it doesn't have to be awkward. just have a conversation exploring the direction of the relationship. if it's just sex and hanging out, and that's cool with both of you, rock it. if she wants you to be monogamous, then you have a decision to make out of respect for another human being and the fact that you don't want to be a liar. you don't want to be a liar, right? and if it ends up that the most adult thing thing to do is cut it off, then be adults and deal with it. it's not the end of the world, and you could probably hang out without having sex and getting your d*ck sucked if you two have as good a bond as you're leading on. it can't just be about you wanting to not be alone. this is ripping you in two precisely because that need to not be alone is actually folding in on itself because you gave it too much attention. it's made you weak and you need to overcome it. you can call that judgemental or whatever, but you'd only be fooling yourself if fooling anyone at all. but again, if she's cool with you doing god-knows-what with other women, then you're golden. some women are totally okay with that. so are some men. some people just want to have fun and not be committed. but it's gotta be honest, or it'll have your head spinning.

04-01-2013, 04:29 PM	#36 (permalink)
~~Sansa Stark~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Eyrie, Vale of Arryn, Westeros Posts: 3,234	this thread is so ****ing skeezy

04-01-2013, 04:30 PM	#37 (permalink)
Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	^Seems that way, since even when I was trying to be civil and help him out, he has no intentions of being mature and talking to his real life girlfriend about it.

04-01-2013, 04:37 PM	#38 (permalink)
~~Sansa Stark~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Eyrie, Vale of Arryn, Westeros Posts: 3,234	He just wants us to make him feel like he's not a douche for this