I need serious advice

Necromancer · 03-19-2013, 08:28 PM

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Plankton · 03-20-2013, 11:16 AM

Definitely a downward spiral, and hopefully this is his bottom. I salute you and your family members for being strong and not giving in. I know it's a hard road to take.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 03-20-2013, 11:27 AM

Ah man opiate addiction + bipolar are for real the worst. I don't have any advice cause I'm still dealing with my own addiction (and have been for the past 8 years) , but I hope your brother gets better help than I did.

Trollheart · 03-20-2013, 12:46 PM

I'm glad you finally got to the bottom of things, Exo. Jesus it must have been scary when he just disappeared into the snow. So it's heroin then? I know nothing of such addictions, thankfully, but I do know it's one of the major ones, so it's great that you have him finally where he can get some help, and almost as importantly, the rest of your family can catch a breather, not have to keep jumping at every noise and wondering where he is and what he's doing. A time of peace for all the family, including him. God knows you all deserve it.

Great to hear, though it sucks he's an addict; but these things can be cured I believe or at least controlled. Anyway he's in the right place, and I'm sure you can now sleep at night for the first time in a long while.

Stephen · 03-23-2013, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

So it's heroin then?... these things can be cured I believe or at least controlled.

Only if his bro wants to control it. Nobody else can make it happen. Also a pretty dangerous time. I don't know how many times I've heard of people ODing on a relapse.

Carpe Mortem · 06-05-2014, 06:30 PM

As someone who has dealt with family going to jail and dying due to drugs, I can tell you right now that it's best to assume he won't be around much longer. I know that's really negative but unfortunately its the way the cookie crumbles. If he ends up having the motivation to get better, which can only come from within, that's great. I wish the best for your situation.

DwnWthVwls · 06-05-2014, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Carpe Mortem

As someone who has dealt with family going to jail and dying due to drugs, I can tell you right now that it's best to assume he won't be around much longer. I know that's really negative but unfortunately its the way the cookie crumbles. If he ends up having the motivation to get better, which can only come from within, that's great. I wish the best for your situation.

This..

I'm from a small town and saw plenty of peoples' lives go down the drain due to heroin (lost a few along the way as well). If you do care best advice I can give is support him when he's doing well, and stay away when he isn't. You don't need to get dragged down with him or feel depressed.

If it was me, I wouldn't have a problem writing him off completely. I'm kinda dead inside with that kind of stuff. Not enough time to live to waste my life dealing with that non-sense.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 06-05-2014, 06:58 PM

I hope you are okay Exo. I can't even imagine how hard it is for you and your family. I hope that with eventual rehab (and experiencing jail) he will realise drugs are ruining more than just his own life. It's hard though because people who go to rehab really need to go willfully or they can end back on the drugs again. I'm no expert though.

~~hate paper doll~~ · 06-05-2014, 07:58 PM

You and your parents are really strong Exo, and you've handled the situation well if you don't mind me saying so. I hope you three will be able to use the time away from your brother to focus on your own health - maybe through therapy, maybe through Al Anon. Even if your brother gets sober there's a lot of work to be done as a family, and should he choose not to stay clean your parents will have the skills to stay strong and set boundaries.

Plankton · 06-06-2014, 08:47 AM

Hopefully this is his 'bottom', although some people don't have one. The thing is, you can't 'make' someone get off of drugs, they need to find that path on their own. The best way to look at it for now is that his life will be prolonged from being locked up, after that it's a slippery slope. I truly hope he finds the strength to make a new start after all is said and done.

Good luck, and god speed.

03-20-2013, 11:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
Plankton Just Keep Swimming... Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: See signature... Posts: 7,765	Definitely a downward spiral, and hopefully this is his bottom. I salute you and your family members for being strong and not giving in. I know it's a hard road to take. __________________ See location...

03-20-2013, 12:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,996	I'm glad you finally got to the bottom of things, Exo. Jesus it must have been scary when he just disappeared into the snow. So it's heroin then? I know nothing of such addictions, thankfully, but I do know it's one of the major ones, so it's great that you have him finally where he can get some help, and almost as importantly, the rest of your family can catch a breather, not have to keep jumping at every noise and wondering where he is and what he's doing. A time of peace for all the family, including him. God knows you all deserve it. Great to hear, though it sucks he's an addict; but these things can be cured I believe or at least controlled. Anyway he's in the right place, and I'm sure you can now sleep at night for the first time in a long while. __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

06-05-2014, 06:30 PM	#6 (permalink)
Carpe Mortem Crusher of tiny Nords Join Date: Mar 2014 Location: Ugly Bag of Mostly Water Posts: 1,363	As someone who has dealt with family going to jail and dying due to drugs, I can tell you right now that it's best to assume he won't be around much longer. I know that's really negative but unfortunately its the way the cookie crumbles. If he ends up having the motivation to get better, which can only come from within, that's great. I wish the best for your situation. __________________ [SIG][/SIG] Mirth is King Be Loving & Open With My Emotions

06-05-2014, 06:58 PM	#8 (permalink)
Scarlett O'Hara Make it so Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 6,775	I hope you are okay Exo. I can't even imagine how hard it is for you and your family. I hope that with eventual rehab (and experiencing jail) he will realise drugs are ruining more than just his own life. It's hard though because people who go to rehab really need to go willfully or they can end back on the drugs again. I'm no expert though. __________________ "Elph is truly an enfant terrible of the forum, bless and curse him" - Marie, Queen of Thots

06-06-2014, 08:47 AM	#10 (permalink)
Plankton Just Keep Swimming... Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: See signature... Posts: 7,765	Hopefully this is his 'bottom', although some people don't have one. The thing is, you can't 'make' someone get off of drugs, they need to find that path on their own. The best way to look at it for now is that his life will be prolonged from being locked up, after that it's a slippery slope. I truly hope he finds the strength to make a new start after all is said and done. Good luck, and god speed. __________________ See location...

03-20-2013, 11:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
~~Sansa Stark~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Eyrie, Vale of Arryn, Westeros Posts: 3,234	Ah man opiate addiction + bipolar are for real the worst. I don't have any advice cause I'm still dealing with my own addiction (and have been for the past 8 years) , but I hope your brother gets better help than I did.

06-05-2014, 07:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
~~hate paper doll~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Apr 2014 Posts: 423	You and your parents are really strong Exo, and you've handled the situation well if you don't mind me saying so. I hope you three will be able to use the time away from your brother to focus on your own health - maybe through therapy, maybe through Al Anon. Even if your brother gets sober there's a lot of work to be done as a family, and should he choose not to stay clean your parents will have the skills to stay strong and set boundaries.