Odyshape

So basically, this is my advice: if you are constantly turning down other people's advice because you think you're above it, you probably need to work on something in your life that you're trying to ignore, no matter how self-aware and in control of yourself you think you are


That's something I have definitely been starting to see as I am getting older . For me it comes down to accepting that everyone is bound a limited by their own perspective including yourself. Its something quite beautiful though and explains why we need other people . We need other people to experience freedom because our own perspectives are never complete enough without speaking to other people.

My piece of advice I could give is shape your identity based on whats makes you happy not on projections or ideas you or others have about you. If you are ever in conflict because you want to like something but your "identity" is holding you back then reevaluate what your trying to be and if there is a real purpose behind it.

I always catch myself as well as friends of mine thinking we have an established identity when in reality we are just taking ourselves far to seriously and end up doing things we don't like just to support an a rigid identity. The thing is identity is shifting every moment and there is nothing wrong with that. True security in identity comes from being able to understand how unimportant having a rigid identity can be.

Which brings me to my last point:
Just because you understand a good piece of advice and can see why its useful that doesn't mean you really know it! Its not some kind of short cut to insight. Read a teenage facebook info profile and look at the quotes and you could understand what I mean. You look at people with quotes and insights put in there which are 100% opposite to how they behave.