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09-20-2011, 01:52 PM | #11 (permalink) | |
Neo-Maxi-Zoom-Dweebie
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I guess we'll have to wait on 333 for an update on the merits of polyamoral relationships. |
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09-20-2011, 01:53 PM | #12 (permalink) | |
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09-20-2011, 01:58 PM | #13 (permalink) |
Quiet Man in the Corner
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I looked into it, which I should have before, and it's really an unusual concept. Being in love with multiple people enough to be in a relationships with all of them at one time seems so... bizarre. So far I've only really genuinely liked one girl, and I don't think I do anymore. Whatever works for you I guess?
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09-20-2011, 02:38 PM | #16 (permalink) |
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I think more than anything polyamory, versus an open relationship, enlarges the context of love based relationship. I don't think polyamory is for every relationship, even if both parties involved subscribe to the polyamorous ideology, but we have a tendency to approach relationships almost contractually, as if to say, Here are my expectations of you: you will provide for my emotional needs and have me as your exclusive sex partner. You will love me as I love you and any depth of emotion that you feel for another individual shall not meet or exceed that which you feel for me, and you will give me a majority share of your time and attention, as I will do the same for you. through these agreements our relationship will be defined and the breech of any of the aforementioned terms will nullify the contract.
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09-20-2011, 02:54 PM | #17 (permalink) | |
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Yeah, there are polyamorous communities. There are also communities devoted to celibacy. Both types of communities are largely founded on ideas, and have not come about by themselves. I imagine there's good, evolutionary, reasons for this patriarchal tilt. Among other items, it has been established that women (at what I'll euphemistically call the peak of her cycle) prefer men with traits that tend to characterize high levels of testosterone; a deep voice, developed muscles, etc. That they prefer them to the exclusion of other traits (notably intelligence) when they're most fertile is important. So perhaps men who let their girls see other guys are percieved as effeminate.
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09-20-2011, 03:10 PM | #18 (permalink) |
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I can understand polyamory from a sexual standpoint, but I wouldn't be able to relate to it in any way from a romantic standpoint, especially if it means everyone being involved together like some here have mentioned. Part of the whole appeal of being intimate with someone for me is that it's a connection with a single person. Maybe some have the emotional capacity (if that's the right word) for it, but I definitely don't.
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09-20-2011, 03:14 PM | #19 (permalink) | |
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I think everyone here has probably had more than one previous companion. What if you'd just happened to meet two of those at the same time, rather than at separate moments in your life? |
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09-21-2011, 12:07 PM | #20 (permalink) | |
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