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when she has sex with you more than once.

Freebase Dali

Don't worry about her signs at first. It's perfectly acceptable for you to display those signs first instead of waiting for her to. In fact, she might be waiting for exactly that.
Be interested in what she's saying and get flirty when it seems appropriate. If you give her signals that you're into her, and she reciprocates, then she's into you. If she backs off, then she's not.

What are those signals that she's into you? Well, easy answer... anything that doesn't end up with her walking away. Unless you're trying to preserve some friendship or something, you really don't have anything to lose by showing her that you're into her and getting turned down. Just do it nice and easy and as naturally as possible.
If you're laying down the moves and she's still there eating it up, then guess what. You have your answer. Take it further.

Just don't wait around for her to show some signs of interest, because she just might be waiting for the same thing, and eventually will assume you're not if you're just treating her like some girl you're chatting with. Of course, not all girls are the same, but you can't really go wrong with the "try" strategy. That's usually the strategy that gets results.

midnight rain

Freebase pretty much covered it all. The closest thing you'll get to a 'sign' without approaching is eye contact, and that is no guarantee. They could just have a staring problem.

Approach them and strike up a conversation. If they seem warm and receptive, take it from there. If it seems like they're trying to get out of the conversation as fast as possible, you have your answer. Keep it simple, at the end of the convo ask if they want to get some coffee. It's a pretty safe bet without being too forthcoming.

I guess some signs during conversation would be laughing at your jokes, playing with her hair, body contact, whether she's facing towards or away from you, etc.

Just don't be a shoulder to cry on.

blastingas10

The pursuit is something I'm not worried about. I just always be myself and let things go as they will.

Let me add a little more detail so you can have a better feel of my situation. I just started a new job a few weeks ago. From day one I started catching her staring at me. I'd turn around and she'd be looking right at me, maybe she was just looking in my direction, but it's happened multiple times. I'm pretty positive that she's looking me, about as positive as I could be without her actually saying "I'm looking at you".

We haven't exchanged more than a few words, that's the thing. All the signs I've gotten have just been looks. I never have a chance to talk to her unless I catch her in the break room, and that never happens.

I almost wanna describe it as tension between us, or some kind of attraction. I get a vibe from her, she seems kind of nervous when we pass each other, I get nervous too. I work at lowes so everyone is constantly walking all around the store and we walk past each other sometimes but there's not really time to talk. Our departments are pretty close so we in each others presence quite a bit, and like I said, there's just this vibe or tension between us, I think she feels it too. It's kind of hard to explain but I've felt something like that before, y'all know what I'm saying?

I feel sure there's some kind of attraction going on between us, and it's going both ways. I can tell when a girl doesn't like me, or doesn't like me in that way. A lot of girls just will make you feel like you dont exist, and that's a sure sign they don't like you. I know she knows I exist. Like I said, I've turned around multiple times and seen her staring at me.

midnight rain

Yes.

She is waiting for you to approach her and will get bored if you put it off for too long. Make the time to go talk to her. Next time you pass her ask her if she wants to grab coffee after she gets off.


Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

blastingas10

But that's where the biggest problem comes in, and I almost don't even want to mention it. But ****, might as well.

I have a girlfriend. And it doesn't end there, my girlfriend works at the same place. Its almost laughable but its not funny. What the **** am I doing is something that I keep asking myself. I haven't done anything, though, besides think about this.

This is how i feel about it: I'm young 20, about to be 21, not that young I guess but still pretty young. I'm not ready to get married anytime soon. And I'm not really ready for my options to be limited. For all I know, this other girl could be something really great waiting to happen and I could completely miss it. And this could continue to happen. I'm too young for that.

It's also very possible that my current relationship could be ruined by this if I took any action. Let me re-phrase that. If i wanted anything to happen With this i would have to end my current relationship. Im not the kinda guy that Juggles women. And then it ends up not working with this new girl and I end up alone. I guess I'm afraid of that, and maybe that's my biggest problem. Maybe I need some time alone.
I'm not a scumbag or anything. Ive never cheated an don't plan on it, so don't think that. I think everything going through my mind is normal for a young guy who's been in a serious relationship.

midnight rain

That's a pretty big detail you neglected to mention lol.

I think you owe it to your gf to break up with her if you're not feeling it, cause otherwise your wasting her time and misleading her.

blastingas10

Yes I saved the biggest part for last. It's not that I'm not feeling it. she's a good friend to me. We have our ups and downs and have broken up before. The problem is what if there is something more out there for me, maybe what I'm in now isn't meant to be. And maybe im missing some really big oppurtunities. I guess it comes down to that typical situation of being young and thinking i dont need to limit myself so much at a young age, I could be missing out on something that is meant to be. I get a gut feeling that says this new girl could lead to something great, but i don't really know her so there's no way to tell. Damn me.

It's kinda like the love at first sight feeling but I'm not dramatic enough to convince myself of that. I've been through that and it ended bad.

FRED HALE SR.

Just like to add all of this and a pulse is usually a good gauge.

Scarlett O'Hara

I can't believe how old Keith Richards looks.

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