Is It Better To Have Loved, And Lost? Than To Have Never Loved At All?

tbug2007 · 11-09-2011, 05:58 PM

The consequences of a wife:

Sneer · 11-10-2011, 07:02 PM

I'm not really qualified to lodge an opinion on this, considering I haven't yet experienced even a modicum of the depth of feelings I associate with being 'in love'. I believe in it, for sure, and I'd rather have it even briefly then never have it at all, though of course, it's easy to say that when your thoughts on the concept are driven by romantic idealism. The reality is probably quite painful.

Howard the Duck · 12-21-2011, 08:12 AM

once you have truly loved, it seems better to never love at all

Paedantic Basterd · 12-21-2011, 09:07 AM

For someone who swears it off, I sure feel saddened to hear the number of people in here who haven't felt that strongly about somebody else.

Then again, I have no idea what I'm talking about either. I think maybe the way to build a lasting relationship is to find someone I don't feel passionate about, but get along with well enough. And if it ends, so be it, because people are constantly changing, and maybe it's better to know several people than just one in that context.

Howard the Duck · 12-21-2011, 09:18 AM

well, it doesn't just "cut like a knife", more like a surgical blade severing your nerve ends

it's like a black hole suddenly appeared in your heart and sucked your entire body into it

Paedantic Basterd · 12-21-2011, 09:22 AM

Frankly, I don't think it's healthy to give yourself away to the point where your well-being hinges on anybody else.

Howard the Duck · 12-21-2011, 10:13 AM

i had no control over it, if i had freewill to stop those emotions I would, but she was encroaching into my entire fibre of my being

it's really hard to describe it unless you've experienced it

i didn't give myself to it, it's involuntary - there is some sort of propulsion into her, like a merger of two beings

Paedantic Basterd · 12-21-2011, 10:16 AM

I say these things, because I allowed myself to be a victim to them once before, and I will do my damnedest not to make that mistake again.

Above · 12-21-2011, 10:31 AM

I've been taken for an emotional ride by a few people, and done the same to a few, too. Relationships have never worked out for me, but I'm not giving up.

~~Farfisa~~ · 12-21-2011, 10:33 AM

Speaking of love. I don't think I've had strong feelings for another person yet. I don't want to fall head over heels for someone and place my hopes for happiness on someone else, that just seems unfair. I just want to find someone I can be around that can help me love myself, so if they or I decide to part I won't go into a crippling depression or something like that. I mean, I'd love to be able to hang out with some chick who likes music as much as me, but that seems like a bit of a pipe dream.

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11-10-2011, 07:02 PM	#122 (permalink)
Sneer Let it drip Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 5,430	I'm not really qualified to lodge an opinion on this, considering I haven't yet experienced even a modicum of the depth of feelings I associate with being 'in love'. I believe in it, for sure, and I'd rather have it even briefly then never have it at all, though of course, it's easy to say that when your thoughts on the concept are driven by romantic idealism. The reality is probably quite painful. __________________ LastFM Sneer's Emporium of Sound Fright Team radio show

12-21-2011, 10:31 AM	#129 (permalink)
Above Oh my golly! Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: England Posts: 339	I've been taken for an emotional ride by a few people, and done the same to a few, too. Relationships have never worked out for me, but I'm not giving up. __________________ Be pure, Be vigilant, Behave

12-21-2011, 10:33 AM	#130 (permalink)
~~Farfisa~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 2,773	Speaking of love. I don't think I've had strong feelings for another person yet. I don't want to fall head over heels for someone and place my hopes for happiness on someone else, that just seems unfair. I just want to find someone I can be around that can help me love myself, so if they or I decide to part I won't go into a crippling depression or something like that. I mean, I'd love to be able to hang out with some chick who likes music as much as me, but that seems like a bit of a pipe dream. Last edited by Farfisa; 12-21-2011 at 10:49 AM.

11-09-2011, 05:58 PM	#121 (permalink)
tbug2007 Groupie Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 24	The consequences of a wife:

12-21-2011, 09:07 AM	#124 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	For someone who swears it off, I sure feel saddened to hear the number of people in here who haven't felt that strongly about somebody else. Then again, I have no idea what I'm talking about either. I think maybe the way to build a lasting relationship is to find someone I don't feel passionate about, but get along with well enough. And if it ends, so be it, because people are constantly changing, and maybe it's better to know several people than just one in that context.

12-21-2011, 09:22 AM	#126 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	Frankly, I don't think it's healthy to give yourself away to the point where your well-being hinges on anybody else.

12-21-2011, 10:16 AM	#128 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	I say these things, because I allowed myself to be a victim to them once before, and I will do my damnedest not to make that mistake again.