hmm I never thought about it that way, maybe I just wasn't important enough to said friend well another good reason I dropped her like a bad habit

Yes. Having that kind of an experience is amazing.

I would say that it is better to have never loved at all. When you lose someone whom you truly love more than anything in this world, you lose a part of yourself. You can never fill that hole with anyone or anything, no matter how hard you try. I am of the mindset that everyone has 1 soulmate in this lifetime. If you lose your soulmate, you can never truly love another person after that, because nothing can even remotely compare to what you had. You will be a broken person for the rest of your life. My wife is my soulmate, but that means more to me than it does to her. I can honestly never see myself truly loving anyone else, because I will always love her more, no matter what.

I think your feelings about this may change over time, it's just that what you are going through right now is pretty fresh and raw so that's why you are feeling the way you are maybe.

No. Love is different for everyone. I believe in a soul mate, one person who you are meant to be with. If you lose that, nothing else can ever take that place.

yeah but your whole post contradicts itself a bit because you say it's better to not have loved at all but you spend the whole post talking about a soul mate.

If you believe in soul mates then people will eventually fall in love with said soul mate whether they want to or not.

I do believe in a soul mate. But that doesn't automatically mean that you will find yours, they could be on the other side of the world, or died a hundred years before you were born.

I'm saying that I would rather have never met my soul mate than to have met her, gotten married, had a child, and then have it all ripped away from me.

Not your soul mate then, is she?

can't say i've found a "soul mate" but found a "twin", mebbe

i fell in love in real when i was in Cardiff with a Welsh girl and it was quite devastating

Never loved. Love is for the weak.