Ah, see you described exactly how I feel. There is a very big difference between being IN love and loving. I have, in fact, been in love with someone that I ended up not loving. I think the term "in love" should actually have it's own word...using the word love in that context gets confusing.

What you seem to want is balls to the wall emotional overload. That may be a very "loving" act, but it is not love itself. That will most definitely fade...no matter what. True love is being scared enough about losing the person you are with after that spark fades that you will still do anything for them (as long as we are talking about relationships...).

Well, I suppose it's better to have loved and lost as it would make you a more understanding person in many ways. It's just losing someone you love almost makes that feel worthless sometimes.

I like this saying, it is pithy but profound, cynical but not whiny.

love is the air that feeds the ego - New Order

I may be misinterpreting this but you aren't one of those types that gets into a new relationship then neglect other ones are you? friends and family and concentrate solely on the new person in your life.

I had a friend like that but I couldn't be bothered to stay friends with her any longer. Every time she got a new bf, she wouldn't completely shut out everyone then when the new relationship starts to fall apart or she gets dump or dumps him then she wants to just waltz back into people's lives.

the other thing having a steady does for me is no more hunting around for the next prey

I hate hunting for chicks, I'm horrible at it.

i've become steadily more observant and more chick-based in my talk than previously so no problemo

then stop hunting, it'll be pretty natural when you find someone that fits what you are looking for and it won't be as difficult as hunting

Nah, that's not what I meant. I still make time for the other important people in my life.