Salami

Since she'll never read this, I think I can say it here. It's not particularly stupid, but on the other hand, it's probably the most emotion I've ever experienced and lead to one of the most awkward conversations I've ever had.
A few of you will have read what I wrote about this in the shoutbox, but I don't think I'll be as specific here for obvious reasons. Basically, I've known this girl all my life, and we found out recently that our interests are very similar, our personalities are really complimentary and we've always been pretty friendly. Anyway, about a month ago, I began to realise I was in love with her, but clearly I would never just tell her that. I decided that it would be a god idea to express my love for her through the medium of art, so I began sharing some of my earlier artwork with the ultimate intention of her seeing what I was trying to get at. Anyway, she asked me directly after a while to draw her, and I really put a huge amount of effort into it. It was going to be an absolute masterpiece, she would be over the moon about it - she would understand....

Anyway, I'd basically got her face drawn in front of possibly the most elaborate and intricate sunset I could imagine, and I met her the next day in the park to give it to her. Anyway, I certainly didn't know what to expect.
She looked at it and said something to the extent of "Aww, that's beautiful! I'm thrilled!" and gave me an incredibly sweet smile, and walked away. It was one of the most awkward moments of my life. A few chavs were sitting just a few yards away, and they were all looking at me really surprised.

But I've not been able to speak to her since. She appears to have dumped her current boyfriend, but I haven't a clue as to whether that's circumstantial or indeed anything to do with me. I don't know what's happening, I don't know what she's feeling like and I certainly don't know what to do.

someonecompletelyrandom

Don't beat around the bush. I've tried to hint that I liked a girl with art about a billion times and they either don't get it or they might suspect it but don't come to the conclusion that it's indeed about them. I mean, I'd feel pretty arrogant to assume a song or piece of artwork was about me, so why wouldn't a woman?

Just tell her man. Don't do it in some grand romantic way by candle light with music playing or any of that romantic comedy bs. Just be an a mature, confident adult and tell her, preferably face to face but by phone works well too, that you really like her and you'd love to get to know her better. You don't have to confess your longstanding love for her or anything.

I know this advice sounds run of the mill, but it really is the best thing to do. Unless you're about to go on a Hollywood style, whirlwind adventure through time and space with this girl, it's not necessary to make a big scene out of it. She probably already thinks you're incredibly sweet for drawing her the portrait.

The one thing I'd be careful of is asking her too soon after she broke up with her boyfriend. I, personally, and I know woman who feel the same way, couldn't give two sharts about dating someone immediately after a break-up. However, some people need time to heal and in some cases may harbor a little resentment towards your sex .. so giving it a little bit may be of benefit so it's not too awkward.

Good luck man.

LoathsomePete

And if that doesn't work give her the warm, still-beating heart of an enemy. They say they don't like it but they do, makes them wet as October.

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Salami

Thanks a lot for this. Since I face no real life embarrassment from writing this I'm perfectly willing to admit I am confused and I don't really know what to do, since my only previous relationship might as well count for nothing.
I think what you said about not making too much of a fuss about things makes a lot of sense to me. I think if I was in her shoes, I'd feel a little bit intimidated about some "grand romantic encounter". I think the whole "be confident" sort of approach is not going to be easy for me at first because I'm a pretty introvert type, but it has the advantage of letting her know how I feel and me getting to know what she feels. If she really does like me, I'll find out pretty quickly, and if she doesn't then I'll also know.
This is also true. She has come out of a few very short relationships with some people who didn't get her at all, and I don't think deserved her. I do see a lot of what she says seems outwardly happy, but it doesn't take much to see that she's pretty upset with a lot of what's happened.
Aw, thanks Conan, I'm really encouraged by what you've written here.
And thank you also for your advice :/

Queen Of The World

I believe the best thing to do is be true to your heart. Be there for her and just be yourself. And its the little things that can be the most romantic and loving gestures. Kind words and humour will brighten any girl's day. My boyfriend bought me an icecream cake on our first date, which we ate together watching episodes of Family Guy and stand up comedy. Nothing amazing about that but damn I fell hard <3

Howard the Duck

ah, just rape her

i'll fly over to wherever you are and help you pin her arms down

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Goofle

Well good afternoon music banter.

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Sansa Stark

You're a disgusting human being.

Before you do anything, wait it out and make sure there are enough clues to decide if it is circumstantial. Secondly, give her some time to get over him, because in this situation it is way too easy to turn a good friend into a stranger because they are confused and vulnerable. Honestly, just because she compliments your drawing doesn't mean she wants your dick, so tread lightly. Otherwise, good luck

The Batlord

Well I thought it was funny. Too many people have no sense of humor. It's all in the context. If it was on it's own, it'd be creepy and wrong, but right after that lovely post about ice cream cake and warm fuzzy love, this was perfect.

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someonecompletelyrandom

It's Duce we're talking about. What else would you expect?