The Rest in Peace Thread (RIP)

[Key]

Originally Posted by Justthefacts

Did he suggest Healthcare too, in case your suicide goes botched and you lose oxygen to your brain and you're a vegetable for pretty much the rest of your existence? Cause the hospital bills will pile up before you know it.

The problem is, i'm a white male, so the chances of my death being noticed are 1/1000000, so I guess I better start saving money for the hospital bills that I will end up paying for in the afterlife.

[Justthefacts]

Originally Posted by Ki

The problem is, i'm a white male, so the chances of my death being noticed are 1/1000000, so I guess I better start saving money for the hospital bills that I will end up paying for in the afterlife.

I can see you working out your hospital bills, sighing loudly, running your hands through your hair, stressing out from exorbitant costs. All while in the afterlife.

[Key]

Originally Posted by Justthefacts

I can see you working out your hospital bills, sighing loudly, running your hands through your hair, stressing out from exorbitant costs. All while in the afterlife.

I'll make sure all of this happens so that you can die a happy man knowing that you predicted my afterlife.

[Justthefacts]

Originally Posted by Ki

I'll make sure all of this happens so that you can die a happy man knowing that you predicted my afterlife.

One second we're grilling each other on our strong opinions of death, the next we're practically mocking it haha

[Key]

Originally Posted by Justthefacts

One second we're grilling each other on our strong opinions of death, the next we're practically mocking it haha

Is death real?

[Trollheart]

Originally Posted by Ki

To answer your question from before, I have lost people close to me. However, I didn't think much of it after a day or two. I came to the acceptance that they were gone and that was it.

Have to say I don't understand that. My mother died almost 25 years ago, my best friend about thirty, I still miss them like hell. Of course time heals but I can't see any way I would "get over" a significant death in 1-4 days. Just does not happen, not to me, and not to I think most people. I hope it works for you Ki but I do wonder when it's someone closer how easily that will pass for you. Hopefully it'll be a long time before you have to find out.

All that said, I still think posting four years after the event without qualifying the time elapsed is a little disingenuous. Definitely made me feel like it was a recent passing. Not that I'd have any less sympathy in the case of its being a longer time, but immediate loss does tend to elicit more of a reaction in terms of sympathy.

Originally Posted by Justthefacts

My condolences.

Don't waste your sympathy on him: he's the ****er who killed him!

Originally Posted by Ki

I don't see how there's a difference. If someone close to me has died, I accept it and move on. I've never seen a reason to keep that moment in mind 4 years after it happened. I have no way of fixing it, so accepting it is the only other option.

There is a difference, man, and some day it may all become clear to you. Death is not something you just get over like that. It takes years, and even now it can bring tears in the right (?) circumstances...

[Burning Down]

I hope we all learned that everybody deals with grief differently. It's not just a simple process of "getting over it".

[Key]

Jesus, I didn't want this to become the main focus for this thread. I am still not sure how there's a difference between losing my grandmother against losing one's brother, mom, dad. My grandmother played a huge role in my life and helped me become the person that I am today. To even suggest that isn't true is not only offensive but insensitive. I understand what you guys are saying, but we're just running in circles now.

I'm also not saying my way of dealing with death is the only way to deal with death, but i've found that it works for me and that's all I need.

[Chula Vista]

Originally Posted by Frownland

Former 'Alice in Chains,' 'Celebrity Rehab' star dies in Salt Lake City - Good4Utah.com

RIP

He seemed to be getting his sh*t together at the time too.

[Trollheart]

Originally Posted by Ki

If someone can't come to terms with someone's death in 4 years, then yes, that is a bit ridiculous.

I think it's this bit people are pissed about. You seem to be saying how come everyone can't deal with loss/death like I do, few days (or even years) and it's gone, I feel ok. But a lot of people, myself included, can and have taken even decades to get over the loss of a parent or someone close, and in some cases, it just never happens: they're always in your mind, heart and you never forget them or get used to not having them around.

To be quite honest, I'm very offended by your contention that everyone should just get over it, and you may say that's not what you're doing or saying, but looking at your quote above, whether it was intended or not, that is the message you gave us.