333

When I read the title of this thread, I thought to myself, "Are you ****ing serious?", but then as I read, I was taken back to a period of my life when I was very self-conscious. At 8 or 9 years old, I began making mental lists of what I needed to achieve in my life to finally be happy - my happy list, if you will. At 11 years old, I was so self-conscious, I would practically be in tears if I had to walk through the mall with a bag of food. The back story to that: my parents own a nail salon in a mall and my brother and I (if the employees and parents were too busy to eat), would be the food runners. Sometimes, my brother wasn't there and almost my whole life, I've struggled to maintain a physical appearance to appease my father. Basically, he always called me fat, thus walking down a hallway of crowded people with bags of fast food terrified me to the point where I would walk outside and all the way around the mall to avoid this.

I don't remember when I got over this, or when I stopped caring about what my father or what anyone thought. I find that it's more than a gender-specific problem. The foundation for all these ridiculous thoughts and the pressure to maintain a certain appearance affects both genders and in most cases, seems to be traced back to what society deems as acceptable. There's no blame, really. Somewhere along the track, we all agreed to this - subconsciously or consciously. Even those who make a conscious decision to not conform and not to present themselves in a societally-acceptable manner, at one point or another, still strive to make sure they are perceived a certain way.

I, for one, constantly dream about days of a more simpler life. The less you have, the less you will worry. The more you have to work for something (i.e. your food, the clothes you wear), the more you will appreciate it and the way it looks will lose importance if staying warm is a factor.

Dr_Rez

Honestly lie is as simple as you make it. Sure as you get older theres more responsibilities, but you are far more equipt to handle them. Overall if you chose to live simply then you can at any time.

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crukster

lol "lie", the irony of that typo.

Don't change it dude.

For life is but a lie.

333

Yes, but you cannot decry the social structure that exists and continuously affects your life no matter how simple you try to live. Sure, I could just leave my apartment and take off with the clothes on my back, live the rest of my life like this and it would be simple. Maybe not easy, but simple. However, I'd like to do it in a way that contributes to society or in a way that doesn't contribute more negativity to the world. Impractical, I know. A girl can dream, though.

crukster

imo Western society is ruled by fatcats, idiots and hedonists and the rules in place are for fat cats, idiots and hedonists.

The real people who actually help Humanity are generally the ones who do what you said - take the clothes on their back and blaze a trail. Sometimes metaphorically. Change is vilified, progress is hated. That is the definition of O great Society. At least in today's World imo. Defintly in the past - Einstein, Newton, Darwin - were those people appreciated in their time? Nope. Are they even appreciated now? Not really. Their ideas are used as ammo for moot agendas.

Anything of substance is traded out for a pseudo-token. (C) Image over substance, Humanity 2011.

333

So bitter. I like you.

djchameleon

beautifully said.

I take shots at society and its unspoken rules consistently like this when I talk to my friends irl

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CanwllCorfe

In some cases, yes. But it's the same with the guys I'd say. Just in a different way. I was very self concious in my teen years. Society didn't do it to me though, I did. I had my own standards that I couldn't reach.

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Dr_Rez

I think contributing to society is simply being a good person. if you look back and have caused good not evil then you have contributed. I honestly believe it is that simple.

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Howard the Duck

I'm pretty insecure about my general appearance to people

I mean for all intents and purposes, I'm pretty much a middle-aged man with a bulging middle and thinning hair

but I worry a lot about my looks - today I just got some eye-gel for those panda eyes I have, I usually buy expensive shampoo to keep my hair, I try to eat as little rice as possible

and I wear stubble and have a crow's nest hairstyle to keep with the "times"

so yeah I take my appearance way too seriously