I need some social skills help...

~~Dirty~~ · 03-20-2011, 07:38 PM

The problem is that you have these ideas that these other girls and peers are idiots. You don't know them, you're just making this assumption off of the clothes they wear, their interests, etc. Of course there are morons everywhere but I feel like you might be kinda of looking for an excuse to NOT get along with these people. Know what I'm sayin? Maybe instead of looking for reasons to be friends you are looking for reasons to not be friends.

3 of my best friends I met in college and we couldn't be much more different. They like cars and computers, I like sports. Drinking and drugs were a big factor in us being friends, and I'm not suggesting you should become an alcoholic or a pothead but just let loose a little bit. TheCunningStunt would say in shoutbox about how he hated parties because people there would be having stupid conversations and stuff. I guess I'm just trying to say dont take life that seriously. Who cares if people aren't similar, just have fun regardless, laugh as much as possible. Don't be uptight about doing stupid stuff yourself. The only people judging you are the type of people who stand in the corner at parties and make fun of the other people who are actually having fun.

As for meeting people, I'd suggest joining intramural sports if your college has them.

Ska Lagos Jew Sun Ra · 03-20-2011, 07:43 PM

You're going to meet common people in common places. Go to less common places.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 03-20-2011, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by GeddyBass2112

The problem is that it just seems that I have nothing AT ALL in common with anyone I've met my age, both with the actual interests themselves and also the way these people think. As I said, most girls to me seem to be superficial- they're interested in their clothes or hair or whatever, yet show little ability to show interest in anything else.

@Plum: It's a problem because at the moment I look like a pretentious asshat and as a result, people my age think I'm snobby.

So? As long as you have someone you can relate to, no matter what the age, then it really shouldn't matter. If they're superficial, why do you care what they think? **** em

holly984 · 03-20-2011, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by GeddyBass2112

@Plum: It's a problem because at the moment I look like a pretentious asshat and as a result, people my age think I'm snobby.

Try not to worry about what people your age think. I know it's easier said than done, but who cares if they think you are pretentious. Why does their opinion matter anyway.

If there are older people with who you enjoy spending time with, don't let the opinions of others, who clearly don't have your best interests at heart, dictate whether or not you find friendship...no matter the age.

CanwllCorfe · 03-20-2011, 08:03 PM

Sounds similar to my situation. But I make due. The internet helps me get in touch with people that have like interests. I have a couple friends here in my little town, but it's kinda hard to relate to them. Not because I think they're inferior or anything, but just that I think differently. It's not an age thing. I'm just uh.. quirky? Or weird. Yeah I'm just weird. You get used to it in time.

Freebase Dali · 03-20-2011, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by GeddyBass2112

The problem is that it just seems that I have nothing AT ALL in common with anyone I've met my age, both with the actual interests themselves and also the way these people think. As I said, most girls to me seem to be superficial- they're interested in their clothes or hair or whatever, yet show little ability to show interest in anything else.

Why is this a bad thing?
If you ask me, I wish there were more girls like you. I think you should see this as a sign of evolution, and enjoy your position on the top of the social-intellectual chain. It may net you quite a lonely existence, and nerdy boyfriends (Me!!! Please?), but you'll be far more fulfilled even at the prospect of connecting with someone on your level, than dumbing yourself down for the sake of a connection that really doesn't mean anything to you.

I think you should worry less about you not relating to most other chicks, and more about them not relating to you.

~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ · 03-20-2011, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Skaligojurah

You're going to meet common people in common places. Go to less common places.

I want to hang that on my wall...

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 03-20-2011, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

Why is this a bad thing?
If you ask me, I wish there were more girls like you. I think you should see this as a sign of evolution, and enjoy your position on the top of the social-intellectual chain. It may net you quite a lonely existence, and nerdy boyfriends (Me!!! Please?), but you'll be far more fulfilled even at the prospect of connecting with someone on your level, than dumbing yourself down for the sake of a connection that really doesn't mean anything to you.

I think you should worry less about you not relating to most other chicks, and more about them not relating to you.

this.

+ Nerdy boyfriends make the best boyfriends

P A N · 03-20-2011, 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

Why is this a bad thing?
If you ask me, I wish there were more girls like you. I think you should see this as a sign of evolution, and enjoy your position on the top of the social-intellectual chain. It may net you quite a lonely existence, and nerdy boyfriends (Me!!! Please?), but you'll be far more fulfilled even at the prospect of connecting with someone on your level, than dumbing yourself down for the sake of a connection that really doesn't mean anything to you.

I think you should worry less about you not relating to most other chicks, and more about them not relating to you..

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CanwllCorfe · 03-20-2011, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by GeddyBass2112

It's a problem because at the moment I look like a pretentious asshat and as a result, people my age think I'm snobby.

I've had that same kind thing happen to me. In my one art class, someone said that hearing me talk made them think that they "should read a book". And then when I was hanging out with my friend Johnny, he was skyping with one of his friends from Jersey. After awhile she said that I sounded "very white". I occasionally feel the need to change my wording, because I really don't want people to think of me like that. But then I realized that I shouldn't go DOWN to their level, they should be UP on my level. And my level isn't even that high. I take the stairs. It's not my fault.

03-20-2011, 08:03 PM	#15 (permalink)
CanwllCorfe Quiet Man in the Corner Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Pocono Mountains Posts: 2,480	Sounds similar to my situation. But I make due. The internet helps me get in touch with people that have like interests. I have a couple friends here in my little town, but it's kinda hard to relate to them. Not because I think they're inferior or anything, but just that I think differently. It's not an age thing. I'm just uh.. quirky? Or weird. Yeah I'm just weird. You get used to it in time. __________________ Your eyes were never yet let in to see the majesty and riches of the mind, but dwell in darkness; for your God is blind. Last edited by CanwllCorfe; 03-20-2011 at 09:27 PM.

03-20-2011, 07:38 PM	#11 (permalink)
~~Dirty~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: USA Posts: 981	The problem is that you have these ideas that these other girls and peers are idiots. You don't know them, you're just making this assumption off of the clothes they wear, their interests, etc. Of course there are morons everywhere but I feel like you might be kinda of looking for an excuse to NOT get along with these people. Know what I'm sayin? Maybe instead of looking for reasons to be friends you are looking for reasons to not be friends. 3 of my best friends I met in college and we couldn't be much more different. They like cars and computers, I like sports. Drinking and drugs were a big factor in us being friends, and I'm not suggesting you should become an alcoholic or a pothead but just let loose a little bit. TheCunningStunt would say in shoutbox about how he hated parties because people there would be having stupid conversations and stuff. I guess I'm just trying to say dont take life that seriously. Who cares if people aren't similar, just have fun regardless, laugh as much as possible. Don't be uptight about doing stupid stuff yourself. The only people judging you are the type of people who stand in the corner at parties and make fun of the other people who are actually having fun. As for meeting people, I'd suggest joining intramural sports if your college has them.