You Know What Grinds My Gears?

The Batlord · 12-30-2017, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Qwertyy

“bud” is the male equivalent

**** anyone who uses the word bud

And I thought "bro" was cringey. I use "bro".

Trollheart · 12-30-2017, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

And I thought "bro" was cringey. I use "bro".

Literally nobody here (I've surveyed every single Irish person) uses that word. Though some may say "brother". But never bro.

DwnWthVwls · 12-30-2017, 01:44 PM

Bud, dude, boss.. all in my vocab.

Trollheart · 12-30-2017, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

Bud, dude, boss.. all in my vocab.

Only knackers (pikeys/gypsies/travellers/itinerants) call you boss. It's really annoying, as it's almost a derogatory term. "You want to buy this, boss? Only ten quid, boss!"

**Frownland** · 12-30-2017, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

boss..

grindy · 12-31-2017, 04:32 AM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

And I thought "bro" was cringey. I use "bro".

We even use bro in German. I do cringe a bit every time, but use it myself.

~~Cuthbert~~ · 12-31-2017, 04:55 AM

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Originally Posted by grindy

We even use bro in German. I do cringe a bit every time, but use it myself.

Asians use that here as well as boss.

Trollheart · 12-31-2017, 06:32 AM

Anyone who calls anyone, other than their employer, boss, ought to be shot.

Lucem Ferre · 12-31-2017, 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

No, you just need to get the hell out of Salt Lake City. When someone calls you "honey" they are not referring to you as an equal. If your grandmother does it she's treating you as her grandson, which is naturally not equal, but if a little ol' lady you never met does it she's being a presumptuous little grandmother and just assuming that it's cool. But nobody really worries about the elderly because there's just an assumption of deference.

When random redneck asshat presumes that kind of familiarity with a woman he has never met, he may not be consciously condescending to her, but he is most certainly not thinking of her as a true equal. She's not his daughter, not his wife, not his little sister, so why should he assume that it's okay to refer to a female stranger with a condescending nickname, especially when he probably wouldn't call me "son"? Probably because he's got a mind set which casually assumes a level of deference between men and women.

Assumptions again. Who would of thought the dude with a collection of Hitler pictures to use for his avatar would be triggered by a harmless word because, just like many other words that you aren't getting upset about, it could be used to imply inferiority? Especially as often as you call people ***gots. That slur has literally no context issue and is flat out used to degrade gay people but you use it more than mindfulness uses gifs yet this is where you think it goes too far? **** out of here with this stupid ass ****. Is youngster or kid now hateful because it's used to condescend younger people? Like damn, IDK maybe you're right. Maybe I should be worried about the guy who called Sally honey while working the drive through and not the dude who was actively showing his appreciation of Nazi music. That chauvinist pig. And you're actually gonna pretend that you don't say **** that has never been degrading to women at all. Nah, this is just stupid.

Lisnaholic · 12-31-2017, 07:02 AM

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Originally Posted by grindy

We even use bro in German. I do cringe a bit every time, but use it myself.

^ Ah yes! That under-examined phenomenon, the ability to be self-cringing, is one of the characteristics that distinguishes the human species from other animals.
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...and, although I wouldn't put it so bluntly, I think Luccem has a point. Words like "honey" from an old guy to a young girl may be unthinkingly patronising, but they are said with good intention aren't they? Their message is, "Let's be friendly instead of formal" which is a well-intended gesture, especially given that the specific circumstance Batlord is talking about is "customer to service employee." The convention, which is probably enshrined in the employer's rule book, is that the employee must show deference to the customer, so when the customer says, "honey" isn't he saying, "Let's forget that old-fashioned subservience stuff and adopt a friendlier style" ?

@ Batlord: May I suggest that you see past the irritating words like "honey" and give credit to the friendly intention behind them. Then you'd be able to move on and entertain us all by ranting about something more worthy of your undoubted powers of invective.

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