Trollheart

Duh. Can't hear the screams if you have your cans on...

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Frownland

That joke doesn't work as well on a forum.

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Plankton

Some of those "360°" photo's that you can pan around in aren't 360°. They're 180° you blundering dolts. Stop lying to me.

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Ol’ Qwerty Bastard

i could throw a football over those mountains

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Trollheart

You throw like a girl.

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The Batlord

Not trying to sound like a white knight, but after years of working fast food and listening to the customers in drive thru talking to the women taking their orders it's become absolutely embarrassing just how many southern men think it's totally okay to call them "honey", "sweetie", "baby", etc. Like, the ****ing company should make it a policy that a female worker can demand that they not be called a condescending "nickname" without fear of getting fired, because it's constant and ****ing irritating. Does nobody tell you neanderthals that this is bull****? No? Then maybe it should be the people who depend on not pissing you off for their paycheck who should be able to do so cause nobody else seems to be educating you. ****ing ****s. God I hate customers.

Although that one time the guy working drive thru with the effeminate voice got called "baby" was still one of my happiest moments.

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Lucem Ferre

I get called sweetie and sweet heart a lot by older women, I don't find it condescending.

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The Batlord

That's because you're a man, you dolt. I don't find it condescending when a black dude calls me "boy" either but it actually is condescending, just like an old lady calling you "sweetie". There's just no history of a power dynamic in their favor.

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Lucem Ferre

It's more about the tone that's used. You're making ****ty assumptions and shifting the oppression to the other side. The more you focus on stupid little things like this and push against a certain people because of a perception of them being oppressors the worse you make things. You're not trying to promote equality or fairness you're trying to got some kind of vengeance on people who most likely aren't even guilty of what upsets you.

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The Batlord

No, you just need to get the hell out of Salt Lake City. When someone calls you "honey" they are not referring to you as an equal. If your grandmother does it she's treating you as her grandson, which is naturally not equal, but if a little ol' lady you never met does it she's being a presumptuous little grandmother and just assuming that it's cool. But nobody really worries about the elderly because there's just an assumption of deference.

When random redneck asshat presumes that kind of familiarity with a woman he has never met, he may not be consciously condescending to her, but he is most certainly not thinking of her as a true equal. She's not his daughter, not his wife, not his little sister, so why should he assume that it's okay to refer to a female stranger with a condescending nickname, especially when he probably wouldn't call me "son"? Probably because he's got a mind set which casually assumes a level of deference between men and women.

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