Allright. Well I've been through that and we both never had the idea of giving up for more than a couple of minutes (The "I really can't take this anymore"-moments, you know).

Sure, no prob.
I won't be waiting for her to come back. That would be sick.
I've never really done that. It's over, we've tried until we were sure it was over. It's not realistic to think it's going to work the next time.
But it IS realistic to think that we still have a lot of reasons for staying friends. More than anyone else in our lives. We have a lot to talk about, a lot of understanding for eachother so we can help eachother.
It's a different situation from yours. We were definitely meant to be friends, at least. And I'm usually not all that much into the 'meant to be' stuff, but this has been confirmed over and over and over again. We are absolutely convinced we should stay together one way or the other.
And not having sex really doesn't change a bit about how we feel. Yes there is a certain physical attraction, but even if I only speak to her via the internet, it's still obvious we need eachother in our lives. I'm pretty convinced I won't find a second person like her. It doesn't matter that it's 'only' friendship. There's just too much good stuff to let go.
Really, if you knew her the way I do, you would read you own posts and say 'man that's insane' :D.

ummm s_k you are banned from discussing your ex like ever again? lol Dirty shouldn't have gotten you started again. it's just something we'll never really understand, even though I'm beginning to understand it more.

Am I banned for that? I didn't know?
I sort of didn't want to talk about it, but I don't really think it's nice to ignore dirty's posting :)

Lol..S k it does sound like your still in love with her in a way. Like the wanting her back kind of way. However you cant help how you feel man so I understand...somewhat. I could introduce you to a couple chicks I know though that would probally leave you more bitter than Billy Bob Thorton in Bad Santa if you like? Then you wouldnt be worried in the least about being a friend to any of them. In fact you woudnt worry about opinion from anyone at all for that matter. Just a suggestion though

it all sounds pretty obssessive to me

Oh I want her back in a 'kind of way'. Just not in the way we used to be.
I don't know if it would ever work again. I don't think so.
But so far I see no reason why we shouldn't be friends.

Haha, I seem to pick out the right girls somehow.
I listen to my friends who have the most awful problems with girls and I can't help but thinking 'not mine...'. I dunno, I think I'm doing something right here. But should I ever discover the opposite, you lot will be the first to know.
In the meantime, don't bother ;).

I'm just thinking her current boyfriend must be getting pretty annoyed that he's not the guy that his girlfriend talks to the most. There aint room for three people in a couple.

Well... I was there first :D.
He sees her every week, I see her once every six weeks.
And he's the one who wants to come late and leave early.
He's the one who doesn't want to SMS because he thinks of it as 'expensive and unneccesary'.
So it's not that I talk a lot to her, he just doesn't do a **** to get in contact with her.

Being around my x-wifes boyfriend when they come to pick up my son. And knowing she's cheated on him several times with me...well im getting use to it now. At first it was weird.

As easy going as I may seem about my ex... I don't want to see her new boyfriend. No ****ing way.